Ladies this is a question my hubby asked me the other day. He wanted to know what my thoughts were. I told him it could be several reasons depending on the woman.
What are your thoughts?
The true breakdown of the Black family began when BW bought the lie that is called feminism from their white (mostly Jewish) female counterparts. BW jumped into a "fight" that wasn't really theirs and the "independent woman" propaganda lives to this day; only WW largely either let that go or compartmentalized it so it wouldn't completely screw up their family structure and BW are still holding on to it to their detriment. WW knew/know when to turn that off but unfortunately BW largely still haven't figured it out yet. Even Gloria Steinem figured it out eventually and got married.
Second issue is that in the last, I'd say, 10 years, BW have tended to lean heavily towards these "ruffnecks" that are neither marriage nor father material. No "man" who can't wear his pants the appropriate size with a belt or who has had the poor foresight to get a tattoo on his neck is serious about a committed relationship, nonetheless marriage. From MC Lyte rapping about wanting a "Ruffneck" to Destiny's Child singing about how they want a "Soldier" with "hood status" who's "street", to women saying that they can't date a man because he's "too nice" (not to mention the smart BM who are "nerds", "corny" and "trying to be white" because they don't own any Lil' Wayne CD's), BW have run with this ridiculous mindset and then will look around and wonder why Tyronius and LaDevian have left them with 2 or 3 kids. What did you expect?
That's a snippet of one married woman's opinion (mine) on the whole issue.
Why are so many black women single...:
bcz you have many of black men who are
1.) Cheaters/Players/Whores no moral sexual standards
2.) Pathological Liars
3.) Incarcerated/Solitary Confinement
4.) In the closet
5.) Baby Makers?entrap women with a baby.
6.) Shallow/Unattainable expectations exp: she MUST look like a video/model chick
7.) Careless Babymakers/dont pay child support/don't care for their kid(s) baby mother(s)
8.) Lazy/Gigalos
9.) Abusive/Crazy
10.) Suffer from a superiority complex
11.) Suffer from the: " I dont date black women" complex
12.) Get a thrill of making women feel inferior.
(There is probably more I haven't name)
This is very true.... especially " You must look like a video/model chick." I have encountered this myself.I think there just brainwashed by the music video that protray an image that does not represent all black women. I rather be single and bypass the pain and agony.
Well, my coworker (she's white) says it's because black women don't smile and always look mean. This is coming from a woman who is playing house with a black man that she's known for 3 months, has 3 kids (from a previous relationship), and now pregnant with her fourth.
Well, my coworker (she's white) says it's because black women don't smile and always look mean. This is coming from a woman who is playing house with a black man that she's known for 3 months, has 3 kids (from a previous relationship), and now pregnant with her fourth.
White women look mean too...
Why are so many black women single...:
bcz you have many of black men who are
1.) Cheaters/Players/Whores no moral sexual standards
2.) Pathological Liars
3.) Incarcerated/Solitary Confinement
4.) In the closet
5.) Baby Makers?entrap women with a baby.
6.) Shallow/Unattainable expectations exp: she MUST look like a video/model chick
7.) Careless Babymakers/dont pay child support/don't care for their kid(s) baby mother(s)
8.) Lazy/Gigalos
9.) Abusive/Crazy
10.) Suffer from a superiority complex
11.) Suffer from the: " I dont date black women" complex
12.) Get a thrill of making women feel inferior.
(There is probably more I haven't name)
This is very true.... especially " You must look like a video/model chick." I have encountered this myself.I think there just brainwashed by the music video that protray an image that does not represent all black women. I rather be single and bypass the pain and agony.
yeah, they have this particular concept of their ideal women is supposed to look from watching too much tv (BET at that). Most men are like that but not ALL of them
I actually have an idea that is "thinking outside the box". For those African American women who are frustrated with their current dating/marriage choices, and who want to explore other options. The more practical and beneficial solution would be to explore dating black men and women from other countries. This would expose them to different cultures and attitudes towards dating, family, and male-female relations. More importantly this choice allows African Americans to explore different foods, listen to different music, and to visit other countries. The potential and promise these types of relationships, which I have named "african diasporan relationships", is that they allow black people to broaden their knowledge and experience of different cultures, while simultaneously strengthening the bonds of black communities. African Diasporan relationships gives black people to opportunity to not only build bridges but to create communities. I have even created a website to discuss this option:
http://africandiasporanrelationships.ning.com/
I don't think as many black women are SINGLE as the media hype makes it out to be. It's all how one defines single. Single could mean not dating anyone seriously or not in a relationship to some while it could mean not married to others. The media counts all unmarried/never been married women as single regardless of their relationship status. That means they're lumping co-habiting women, LTR, women in serious but "new" relationships, etc all in the same "SINGLE" category. They're making it seem as if NOBODY is checking for black women at all. We are just SINGLE with no dating and no potential suitors at all. Another reason, I believe a lot of black women are SINGLE because many are in serious relationships that never make it to marriage.
The true breakdown of the Black family began when BW bought the lie that is called feminism from their white (mostly Jewish) female counterparts. BW jumped into a "fight" that wasn't really theirs and the "independent woman" propaganda lives to this day; only WW largely either let that go or compartmentalized it so it wouldn't completely screw up their family structure and BW are still holding on to it to their detriment. WW knew/know when to turn that off but unfortunately BW largely still haven't figured it out yet. Even Gloria Steinem figured it out eventually and got married.
Second issue is that in the last, I'd say, 10 years, BW have tended to lean heavily towards these "ruffnecks" that are neither marriage nor father material. No "man" who can't wear his pants the appropriate size with a belt or who has had the poor foresight to get a tattoo on his neck is serious about a committed relationship, nonetheless marriage. From MC Lyte rapping about wanting a "Ruffneck" to Destiny's Child singing about how they want a "Soldier" with "hood status" who's "street", to women saying that they can't date a man because he's "too nice" (not to mention the smart BM who are "nerds", "corny" and "trying to be white" because they don't own any Lil' Wayne CD's), BW have run with this ridiculous mindset and then will look around and wonder why Tyronius and LaDevian have left them with 2 or 3 kids. What did you expect?
That's a snippet of one married woman's opinion (mine) on the whole issue.
Why are so many black women single...:
bcz you have many of black men who are
1.) Cheaters/Players/Whores no moral sexual standards
2.) Pathological Liars
3.) Incarcerated/Solitary Confinement
4.) In the closet
5.) Baby Makers?entrap women with a baby.
6.) Shallow/Unattainable expectations exp: she MUST look like a video/model chick
7.) Careless Babymakers/dont pay child support/don't care for their kid(s) baby mother(s)
8.) Lazy/Gigalos
9.) Abusive/Crazy
10.) Suffer from a superiority complex
11.) Suffer from the: " I dont date black women" complex
12.) Get a thrill of making women feel inferior.
(There is probably more I haven't name)
I have dealt with every man on that list, but it doesn't necessarily mean there is no hope, (I found someone )
It can't be feminism since most women are anti feminism and anti-womanhood in general. Most black women are all about protecting the black man, making excuses for him, cuddling him, not accepting praises if he's not praised. Of all of which are anti-feminism. Most black women are more misogynistic and patriarchal.
I think putting their womanhood last instead of first is part of the reason. But overall the main reason is that black men have realized that they can take advantage of this and instead of caring about advancing, they are more into taking care about their own personal needs and using black woman and also being anti-relationships.
If more black men were marriage oriented, there'd be more marriages. I think all these addressing women stuff is not going to change anything, since women are the ones that want to get married but the men just don't.
The true breakdown of the Black family began when BW bought the lie that is called feminism from their white (mostly Jewish) female counterparts. BW jumped into a "fight" that wasn't really theirs and the "independent woman" propaganda lives to this day; only WW largely either let that go or compartmentalized it so it wouldn't completely screw up their family structure and BW are still holding on to it to their detriment. WW knew/know when to turn that off but unfortunately BW largely still haven't figured it out yet. Even Gloria Steinem figured it out eventually and got married.
Second issue is that in the last, I'd say, 10 years, BW have tended to lean heavily towards these "ruffnecks" that are neither marriage nor father material. No "man" who can't wear his pants the appropriate size with a belt or who has had the poor foresight to get a tattoo on his neck is serious about a committed relationship, nonetheless marriage. From MC Lyte rapping about wanting a "Ruffneck" to Destiny's Child singing about how they want a "Soldier" with "hood status" who's "street", to women saying that they can't date a man because he's "too nice" (not to mention the smart BM who are "nerds", "corny" and "trying to be white" because they don't own any Lil' Wayne CD's), BW have run with this ridiculous mindset and then will look around and wonder why Tyronius and LaDevian have left them with 2 or 3 kids. What did you expect?
That's a snippet of one married woman's opinion (mine) on the whole issue.