Bubblingbrownshuga
Well-Known Member
Is it the man or the woman? Why?
I have been thinking about this and I know that due to my upbringing , it can seem like a slap in the face, but I honestly believe men benefit more from the marriage lifestyle.
Just looking at all of the articles, television shows, talk shows, books, etc about relationships the scale is typically tilted in the man's favor in that those forms of media are directed toward women. They instruct a woman on how to understand a man, honor a man, how to love a man, what not to do to a man, what a man loves, how to make your husband happy, etc.
I notice that women are told to be realistic a LOT about their marriage and stop expecting a man to be their 'knight and shining armour' but no one tells the men they should be realistic. We are expected to cook, clean, stroke their egos, sex them (and oh, if he cheats, we must weren't making him feel like a man), know when and how to speak to them...
I also hate that when a woman speaks about what her husband is not doing in their marriage after she's expressed her need to him and she's told 'well, maybe instead of changing him, you should change yourself!'
Now I am pro-marriage, but at the same time, I have been tapping into a section of my brain that I have suppressed over the years and really thinking about a lot of circumstances that make me
I have been thinking about this and I know that due to my upbringing , it can seem like a slap in the face, but I honestly believe men benefit more from the marriage lifestyle.
Just looking at all of the articles, television shows, talk shows, books, etc about relationships the scale is typically tilted in the man's favor in that those forms of media are directed toward women. They instruct a woman on how to understand a man, honor a man, how to love a man, what not to do to a man, what a man loves, how to make your husband happy, etc.
I notice that women are told to be realistic a LOT about their marriage and stop expecting a man to be their 'knight and shining armour' but no one tells the men they should be realistic. We are expected to cook, clean, stroke their egos, sex them (and oh, if he cheats, we must weren't making him feel like a man), know when and how to speak to them...
I also hate that when a woman speaks about what her husband is not doing in their marriage after she's expressed her need to him and she's told 'well, maybe instead of changing him, you should change yourself!'
Now I am pro-marriage, but at the same time, I have been tapping into a section of my brain that I have suppressed over the years and really thinking about a lot of circumstances that make me
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