Where to Go Out Alone

[Bublin]

After reading a few posts I see that some of us are in similar situations...no or very few single friends to go out with.

Does anyone have any ideas as to where to go on your own which may also be good place to meet (decent) men?

 

[*SkolarStar*]

Yaaaas! I'm so glad you started this thread because I've been being lazy about telling my experience with going to a Conya Doss concert alone.

This past thursday Conya Doss was in my city at a restaurant. I absolutely love her; been listening to her since middle school. It was so nice and I'm so glad I went alone. My brother gave me two tickets and each person I asked couldn't go. I told myself that God must want me to go by myself so I gave my other ticket away and just went. I got dolled up with my heels and enjoyed myself. I ended up seeing people there that I knew.

And I didn't have to pay for anything! Men bought me drinks and food.

Other places I go alone are concerts and poetry sets. I've never been to the bar, movies, or out to eat alone. I'm going to do it though. One day.

 

[BrickbyBrick]

You can volunteer, join a church, join groups in which you have an interest, i.e. running, dance clubs.

 

[ThickHair]

Anywhere couples can go. "Singleton's" need to stop segregating. I have gone to a restaurant on Valentine's day without a date, bowling, you name it.. F that, I go where I want to go.

 

[TayMac]

Anywhere couples can go. "Singleton's" need to stop segregating. I have gone to a restaurant on Valentine's day without a date, bowling, you name it.. F that, I go where I want to go.

This. Single or not. If I want to go and he can't or won't...I'm going. I've been to comedy club and show, concert, lounges, sat at the bar etc and have a great time. People are pretty friendly if you smile and act open.

 

[A856]

This. Single or not. If I want to go and he can't or won't...I'm going. I've been to comedy club and show, concert, lounges, sat at the bar etc and have a great time. People are pretty friendly if you smile and act open.

I too just went to a concert (SO couldn't go) by myself recently, and I enjoyed!

 

[C(squared)]

I like to go to the coffee shop alone and read or work on my laptop. If I want dinner, I get a seat at the bar instead of a table at a restaurant. People seem to strike up a convo easier during happy hour also (if you drink).

 

[Dare~to~Dream]

(Since I was a teenager), I've gone to movies alone. I've eaten at restaurants alone. I took a trip solo (then one "local" *road trip*). I didn't meet anyone doing any of these things but then again it wasn't my intention. I'm open to meeting someone decent now...so maybe there will be more responses.

 

[DarkJoy]

I find it really enjoyable to do these things alone. I can concentrate on the activity and really get into it:

-spas (massages, mani, pedi, mineral soaking, jacuzzi, you name it). Nice to relax without feeling like you have to keep up conversation. Sometimes there are male patrons too
-movies
-coffee/tea shops. Since I'm budgeting, I order a small tea. I always get man-looks or conversation
-cafes. check out the boards at some of the cafes. Some sponsor low cost health and stress reducing classes as well as book clubs, crafting groups, etc. one here has that and wine tasting nights (too bad i dont drink). lots of people to meet at those.
-library
-restaurants during happy hour
-walks. Men in the neighborhood strike up conversation in passing. The puppy helps. lol
-art galleries. i love to look at paintings and someone ALWAYS approaches to talk about whomever is on exhibit

I haven't participated in any singles meetups, but you might wanna check out meetup.com for those. I used to go to women's book clubs, knit circles and made female friends from those groups. A singles group shouldn't be much diff.

 

[Theo]

i also like doing things alone

even if i go out with girlfriends i'll usually peel away for a little bit, either to get some air or scope out the scene or get another drink or something. i've been approached while hanging out at the bar by myself many times.

i like studying in coffee shops by myself, but those aren't the greatest cuz usually i'm extra absorbed in what i'm doing. so a guy might catch my eye when i first sit down but then i just forget to look up or whatever and then that's that

 

[pre_medicalrulz]

Yes I do a few things alone but not necessarily to meet men. HOWEVER I notice the more I do things alone, I meet more guys than I'm trying to meet so I think that's a great benefit of going out solo. Men don't feel you have your girls there to talk smack about them if they choose to step up to you. LOL! I guess.

I hit the movies by myself a lot. Actually every weekend or 'other' weekend if there is nothing out. Spas every other week by myself. Art galleries, museums, etc. I have yet to master eating alone in a full blown out restaurant unless its alone at a bar, then I can do.

 

[MizzBrown]

Anywhere couples can go. "Singleton's" need to stop segregating. I have gone to a restaurant on Valentine's day without a date, bowling, you name it.. F that, I go where I want to go.

Wow!! I need to do this.

I would do stuff by myself in college cause I got sick of friends taking too long to get ready or couldn't make up their damn minds & I'd do stuff by myself. I noticed guys approach you more when alone and not with your cock-blocking friends.

You're more approachable when you are alone anyway.

I think women miss out on a lot of approachable opportunities because they are up under their girlfriend(s).

 

[lushcoils]

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[ThickHair]

What places do you ladies go to where guys approach you when you are alone? Is it random approaching? Or did you look at him/smile at him/say hi to him first? Are these men you would date?

Happy Hour, sporting events, etc. After we have made eye contact, they just walk up and say "Hello".

 

[firecracker]

Waiting for someone else will make you miss out on a lot of experiences. Stop feeling self conscience and just do it w/a smile. People especially men will talk to you if you don't look stand offish and smile. You too can also start up conversations. Sports events, Happy Hour and Home Depot is a great place to meet men. You don't have to know alot about sports or fixing stuff just act interested in what the other person does etc.

 

[Tamster]

Hey ladies.

there are lots of events that i want to go to, but i dont because i dont have anyone to go with. so do you think i should just buy a ticket and just go? idk what my problem is but i guess ill just take the chance.

im thinking of going to some of the epicurious entertains events..

 

[A856]

Hey ladies.

there are lots of events that i want to go to, but i dont because i dont have anyone to go with. so do you think i should just buy a ticket and just go? idk what my problem is but i guess ill just take the chance.

im thinking of going to some of the epicurious entertains events..

Yup! Buy your ticket and GO, you never know who you may meet.

 

[tyrablu]

Hey ladies.

there are lots of events that i want to go to, but i dont because i dont have anyone to go with. so do you think i should just buy a ticket and just go? idk what my problem is but i guess ill just take the chance.

im thinking of going to some of the epicurious entertains events..

rip

Just take the chance and go. I've waited too many times for company and had too many awesome things slip by. Now I just get up and go. I still ask, but if there are no takers, I just go alone.

 

[melissa-bee]

I feel the same way.
I found it weird the first time I had to go clothes shopping by myself but now I wouldn't have it any other way.
I haven't really done anything alone around where I live but I'm going to Spain for four days all by myself. Some how I think going abroad to do something by your self is better because the people that you see will be less judgemental... and even if they do judge you, you'll never see them again so who cares. I also picked a business hotel on purpose, lol.

 

[YasashiiSekai]

I've considered going to six flags by myself, but I have a feeling it would suck without another person...
Maybe it's just in my head, but every time I see people riding on a ride by themselves, they look so lonely.

 

[ThickHair]

I went on a 7 days cruise this past December all by myself and loved it. I have already paid for my cruise for this December and I am going again all by myself. Just trying to secure my airfare. I don't think I will ever travel with another person again.

One of my friends ask me did I mind if she went, I said sure, but she would have to get her own room because she can not share with me. She priced it and said, well it is double, I said, yes it is. Needless too say, I am still going alone. She is still trying to talk me into letting her share my cabin.

My luxury is when I wanted company I had it and when I wanted to be alone I had it.

 

[CarLiTa]

I also do a lot of things alone.
For example, I signed up for a dance class and started going alone, and I ended up meeting a few people through there. Only problem is that I am bad at following up (could have pursued deeper friendships with these people, but I did not). Nevertheless, we would go out dancing every Friday night for a few months, and I more or less always went alone. I didn’t feel self-conscious because I knew that once I got there, there would be several people I recognize. I always had fun. The awkward moments never last long enough to deter me.

I also attend another dance class—more woman-centric, this one. I could do something to turn the acquaintances into friendships, but I haven’t. Thaaaat’s what I gotta work on

I have gone to movies, art shows, restaurants, etc. alone. I’m always at a coffee shop somewhere, but as was stated up-thread, I’m engulfed in my work. I do see some guys checking me out, though, but I probably don’t give enough hints that they could join me at my table

When out at clubs with my girls, we always separate for a while… and I think that facilitates meeting guys. I’m not sure if they think of it that way, too, but my friends and I seem to have an unspoken understanding about that. Sometimes one of us will disappear for an entire 30mins talking to a guy, and it doesn’t bother the rest of us. Now, I haaave gone out with some girls who are like no, this is a girl’s night out, why’d you leave for so long?? what?! I’m sorry, but every night of my life is a girls’ night- fall back and let me mingle, doggone it!

I really want to take a trip alone, though... and I always have the urge to go on a little roadtrip. I don't do it just because I don't want to rent a car by myself (that's expensive)

 

[metro_qt]

I just came back from CUBA... this is my 4th vacation alone.
It was amazing.

I do a lot of things on my own...
This vacation i was especially impressed with myself because I used to be that person that needed a book, or something to occupy myself while i was alone.

This time, i just took the time to look, feel and experience everything... no books, no devices... (except my trusty camera)... and pure freedom. Love it.

It's inspired me to do more things in my city alone, if i can't find friends to come along with me...

 

[wofford16]

I just came back from CUBA... this is my 4th vacation alone.
It was amazing.

I do a lot of things on my own...
This vacation i was especially impressed with myself because I used to be that person that needed a book, or something to occupy myself while i was alone.

This time, i just took the time to look, feel and experience everything... no books, no devices... (except my trusty camera)... and pure freedom. Love it.

It's inspired me to do more things in my city alone, if i can't find friends to come along with me...

I wish I could vacation in Cuba, I was station in GTMO when I was in the military and would love to go to the main land of Cuba and soak up the culture.

 

[firecracker]

Hey ladies.

there are lots of events that i want to go to, but i dont because i dont have anyone to go with. so do you think i should just buy a ticket and just go? idk what my problem is but i guess ill just take the chance.

im thinking of going to some of the epicurious entertains events..

Don't let life pass you by. Girl yes go and be carefree. You will meet others that are interested in the same things you are.

A few of my friends didn't/don't find live theatre, musicals, world music, Jazz Festivals museums etc fun and entertaining. Alot of times they couldn't for varied reasons so I said well I'll tell you about it when I get back. LOL Oh can get the best seats when you buy one ticket too.


I'm hyper. I've been going off alone all my life so its like second nature to just keep it pushing when folks flake or my interest is peaked. I even leave my guy because of his busy schedule and many commitments.

 

[alwaysinchrist]

I've considered going to six flags by myself, but I have a feeling it would suck without another person...
Maybe it's just in my head, but every time I see people riding on a ride by themselves, they look so lonely.

I love six flags! but i cant get on rides anymore...... I just cant stomach it lol

 

[Bublin]

Wow thanks for the replies ladies. You have all inspired me to stop being self conscious and get out there.

I'm starting to become a recluse and only go out if i have date - which is rare. I have a 3 year old daughter and on the (every other) weekends she is with her dad I just fill my spare time with housework or shopping.

I feel like my life is passing me by and I need to get out. I do the same old boring stuff, mainly chores, whilst thinking everyone else is out having fun with their mates - when in reality they are probably enjoying themselves by themselves.

Your replies have made me realise that it's not about meeting a man, it's about getting out there are enjoying yourself.

 

[Theo]

What places do you ladies go to where guys approach you when you are alone?

I hang out by myself quite a bit. So its just wherever I feel like being that day. I get approached a lot at parties/clubs. I think its b/c often both men and women go to those places with the mindset where they're open to meeting someone. That may not be at the forefront of their mind at other times.

Of the guys who have asked me out recently, I met one while I was waiting in line at the bar to get a drink. This was at a networking sort of thing at my school that I went to alone, but I knew I was going to see ppl I knew there cuz it was a school event.

One was while I was outside waiting in line to get into a party.

One was at the club while I had left my friends and walked away from the crowd to get some air. I was hanging out by the couches by myself.

One was a mutual friend who introduced us.

One I just approached on my own cuz I thought he was cute and so I asked him a random question.

I've been approached by randoms on the train and at the library/ cafe/coffee shops/etc. but a lot of times I'll exit the conversation early or whatever. I'm not as open to meeting new ppl when I don't have liquor in my system.

Is it random approaching?

Most were random. I didn't really know these ppl. We had made eye contact and generally if I make eye contact with someone, I smile at them. Male or female. Its reflexive.

Or did you look at him/smile at him/say hi to him first?
Usually after the initial eye contact, I go along my merry way. If they're interested they'll come find me later. Some do, most don't. I'm assuming after the first initial eye contact they don't find me threatening, so the ones that don't must not be interested.

Are these men you would date?
Most of the time no. But some of them are... thats how I meet most of the guys I date. Only one of the guys I'm dating now was introduced to me by a mutual friend. I think the guys that I'm into tend to hang out in the same sort of places I hang out so it works out for me.

lushcoils You've been asking the same 4-5 questions for years now . I hope you get your answer soon.

 

[lushcoils]

Thanks!.!!!

 

[Renewed1]

Anywhere couples can go. "Singleton's" need to stop segregating. I have gone to a restaurant on Valentine's day without a date, bowling, you name it.. F that, I go where I want to go.

YUP!! I feel the same exact way.

EVERYWHERE I've been BY MYSELF people automatically started talking to me and we had a good time.

I guess they saw I was ok, with being alone and ENJOYED IT!!!