Same here. Even though everyone tells me my hair is long, I don't see it. But when I see others with hair the same length as mine, their hair looks long. Sigh.
I once thought I would feel as if my hair were long once I reached waist-length. But now I know that shrinkage will never allow me to feel that my hair is long... a super-duper blow-frying session gives that fleeting feeling of length, but it never lasts, . (Currently waist to hip-length stretched, but barely shoulder with shrinkage. I've gotten as far as tailbone+ stretched, but I was still at shoulder-length curly. )