okange76
Well-Known Member
I’m just curious. Do you find that having too many close male associates be it family, friends, or coworkers makes you distrust most men who approach you? I’m talking about the ones who hip you to all the mind games men play and the signs to watch for, or they are just too comfortable around you to hide their trifling ways. You in turn, overanalyze the various stories/situations to the point of developing an unhealthy paranoia towards men.
Has this ever cost you a potentially good relationship because you spent so much time waiting for the shoe to drop instead of getting to know this person on an individual level?
How did you overcome it and learn to trust? What was it about this person that made you feel safe?
My Story: My brothers and I lived together for many years during and after college. One of the biggest mistakes of my life. I still look at my SILs with pity even though college was over 10 years ago and my brothers are now all doting fathers and husbands. They met their spouses long after we stopped living together. Guess who is still single with trust issues??
Has this ever cost you a potentially good relationship because you spent so much time waiting for the shoe to drop instead of getting to know this person on an individual level?
How did you overcome it and learn to trust? What was it about this person that made you feel safe?
My Story: My brothers and I lived together for many years during and after college. One of the biggest mistakes of my life. I still look at my SILs with pity even though college was over 10 years ago and my brothers are now all doting fathers and husbands. They met their spouses long after we stopped living together. Guess who is still single with trust issues??