BroadstreetBully
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Okay, I've gotten to a point where I'm at a lost as to what to do. I'm so confused, and having so much on my mind isn't helping right now. I need the advice of the wise and experienced ladies here.
So I've been dating this guy for about 3 going on 4 months. When we first got together, it was exciting. He's funny and very caring. He's more into me than any guy I've been with. But at this point I feel something is missing, and I think I'm selfish for thinking so...
He's 11 years older than myself, I'm in my early twenties, and he's in his early thirties. His job pays pretty okay, but he has a semi expensive studio apartment (very very small) that takes up a good chunk of his bills. So he rarely has any money left over after he's payed everything.
When we first got together, he took me out quite a bit, and we had a good time. But now he never has money to do anything. At times I enjoyed just hanging out at his place, but now it's getting boring. I'm young...I want to go out and experience new things. Right now with his financial situation, I feel he can't handle that. I hope I'm not being a gold digger.
He's a great guy though. My car broke down on me shortly after we met, so he never minds picking me up when we hang out, and taking me home afterwards. Though I've never asked him to use his car to take me around for personal business...only to spend time with him--which is like once a week now. So I feel like he's provided for me financially in that respect.
HOWEVER, for the past month or so, I've been paying for all of our meals when we go out to eat. Granted he never asks me to take him out...I like to dine out occassionally, since I can afford if for myself...but paying for him aswell has been hitting my purse. I get stares from the people around us, and the server when I pull out my card to pay for our meal. Also he's asked me for money to help him do his laundry, as well as picking a few items up from the grocery store. I'm not used to it.
All of this has had me thinking whether or not I want to continue this relationship. I do care about him, and he's the first guy I've met who doesn't pressure me for sex, since I'm abstinent (though he is practicing celibacy himself). But I'm too young to commit right now...and for a guy to be so much older than myself, I shouldn't be paying for meals for him. He's been great in picking me up to hang out ever so often...but I thought guys were supposed to do that without feeling like you owe them?
Like the other day we went out to eat, and I asked him if he was going to pay for himself, and I'd pay for myself...he got angry that I would make him pay for myself...since he picked me up and had to drop me off.erplexed
I don't know what to do. I don't want to regret this. Please...share your knowledge and advice.
So I've been dating this guy for about 3 going on 4 months. When we first got together, it was exciting. He's funny and very caring. He's more into me than any guy I've been with. But at this point I feel something is missing, and I think I'm selfish for thinking so...
He's 11 years older than myself, I'm in my early twenties, and he's in his early thirties. His job pays pretty okay, but he has a semi expensive studio apartment (very very small) that takes up a good chunk of his bills. So he rarely has any money left over after he's payed everything.
When we first got together, he took me out quite a bit, and we had a good time. But now he never has money to do anything. At times I enjoyed just hanging out at his place, but now it's getting boring. I'm young...I want to go out and experience new things. Right now with his financial situation, I feel he can't handle that. I hope I'm not being a gold digger.
He's a great guy though. My car broke down on me shortly after we met, so he never minds picking me up when we hang out, and taking me home afterwards. Though I've never asked him to use his car to take me around for personal business...only to spend time with him--which is like once a week now. So I feel like he's provided for me financially in that respect.
HOWEVER, for the past month or so, I've been paying for all of our meals when we go out to eat. Granted he never asks me to take him out...I like to dine out occassionally, since I can afford if for myself...but paying for him aswell has been hitting my purse. I get stares from the people around us, and the server when I pull out my card to pay for our meal. Also he's asked me for money to help him do his laundry, as well as picking a few items up from the grocery store. I'm not used to it.
All of this has had me thinking whether or not I want to continue this relationship. I do care about him, and he's the first guy I've met who doesn't pressure me for sex, since I'm abstinent (though he is practicing celibacy himself). But I'm too young to commit right now...and for a guy to be so much older than myself, I shouldn't be paying for meals for him. He's been great in picking me up to hang out ever so often...but I thought guys were supposed to do that without feeling like you owe them?
Like the other day we went out to eat, and I asked him if he was going to pay for himself, and I'd pay for myself...he got angry that I would make him pay for myself...since he picked me up and had to drop me off.erplexed
I don't know what to do. I don't want to regret this. Please...share your knowledge and advice.