Three Weeks of Great and Voila, he Disappears!

[Crystalicequeen123]

I agree. Keep it moving. Consider it a blessing in disguise. Remember, you did meet him at a club.

If he calls back with no decent explanation like he was in the hospital in a coma, got kidnapped by aliens or was in jail for a spell, then you know he's about headgames and hang up.

You'll thank yourself later.

I'm sorry but the above bolded cracked me UP!!!

 

[Missdelicious1]

Keen lol yea...I just browse through everything and totally forget to check the dates on these threads. I'm still new to this forum thing as you can see. But, it would be cool to get an update now that I know how dated it is.

 

[LaBelleLL]

I wish Bunny77 would come back. She gave such good advice.

 

[Windsy]

Talk about eat and run...

 

[*SkolarStar*]

What I think?

In conclusion, he's married.

 

[MissYocairis]

I know this is an old thread, but I think....when you are in your late twenties, that is old enough to handle sexual intimacy differently. What you guys did, with the whole, "2nd Base" thing, reminds me of teens.

At your age, it seems it should be understood that if one is not ready to have sexual intercourse, then letting a man finger you and then go down on the next date is extra and a bit much because at your age, you already know what you have to offer sexual and, until YOU feel it's time for the full monty, there is really no need to allow any kind of "sampling". And, that's what went on...the type of "sampling" that younger people do when they are trying to convince one another or themselves.

If I'm not ready to have sex with you, you WILL NOT be touching my bare cookie in any way, shape, nor form, whether it's with your fingers or with your mouth. I don't see the point in that but to get all worked up for no reason....as I said, it seems almost as if it's to prove something to him or to yourself.

If you're not ready, you're not ready. Period. So, the BRAKES have to be put on when dude starts trying for your crotch. That's just my humble. IDK what his reasons were for disappearing, but for YOU and what YOU like and want, I think you will feel much more at peace in the future if you stick FULLY to your convictions. Oral sex is sex. He gave you oral sex. I would even argue that fingering is something approaching VERY close to a form of sex. You went back on your conviction and so when he disappeared, you were left holding the bag.

Stick your your convictions and don't allow your boundaries to be breeched until you are fully ready.

 

[Imani]

I wonder what happened to OP?

I like how she seemed to be taking in and understanding all the great advice. Unlike lately around here...people have no intentions of giving up their kangs and ice cream so why even ask for advice.

I will probably save this thread bc the advice was really good and things I need to reminded of whenever I start dating again.

 

[BlackMarilyn]

Talk about eat and run...

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[Naveah2050]

I miss the good old LHCF days ............

 

[angelica2u]

haha, still here and thanks for the mention, keen, cos thats how i realized the thread have been revived (via the notifications feature). I've been very busy with work and so i only check lhcf every couple of weeks or months.

Now updates . I did take all the good advice and since that incident, i havent gotten physical / intimate with any one. I dated this other guy for a couple of months and he seemed nice but i had no desire to go the physical route and so i didnt. I am currently single and okay with that as well. Thanks ladies for your advice and for checking in. Appreciate it! and i will keep you guys posted on anymore updates :-D