TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
...so I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months and he introduced me to his favorite sister last night.
Our dinner conversation was flowing smoothly until the inevitable topic of children came up.
I informed this guy about my LACK of desire to have children early in our interaction, and he said he was fine with it. Apparently, his sister may be a bit challenged by this.
She asked if I had children. When I responded, "No'" she followed it up with THE QUESTION: Do you WANT them (with the proverbial judgmental wrinkle in her brow).
Sadly, I found myself searching for a "politically correct" version of "No." (Incidentally, I HATE that women are still viewed as "selfish" or "less than" if they don't want to be wed and bred). I responded with the cliche "It never happened for me (ummm...purposely), and I resolved that if it didn't happen by age 40, I am OK with not having children..." (YUCK!!!)
Of course that was followed by "There's still time" to which I didn't respond. Then she went on about adoption and other options. While I let her continue her "baby" speech, I left the dinner quite annoyed.
In 2019, why is the "must do" of motherhood still on the list of epitomizing womanhood? Why does a woman not "have it all" until she has the husband, kids AND successful career?
...and why was she so comfortable asking about my uterus? It very well could have been a situation where I was UNABLE to have children and that topic would have been painful. I dunno. I found the whole thing to be uncomfortably invasive, and now I feel the need to revisit the topic with the guy I'm seeing because if that's a true desire for him, this won't work long term...
Just venting I guess...
Our dinner conversation was flowing smoothly until the inevitable topic of children came up.
I informed this guy about my LACK of desire to have children early in our interaction, and he said he was fine with it. Apparently, his sister may be a bit challenged by this.
She asked if I had children. When I responded, "No'" she followed it up with THE QUESTION: Do you WANT them (with the proverbial judgmental wrinkle in her brow).
Sadly, I found myself searching for a "politically correct" version of "No." (Incidentally, I HATE that women are still viewed as "selfish" or "less than" if they don't want to be wed and bred). I responded with the cliche "It never happened for me (ummm...purposely), and I resolved that if it didn't happen by age 40, I am OK with not having children..." (YUCK!!!)
Of course that was followed by "There's still time" to which I didn't respond. Then she went on about adoption and other options. While I let her continue her "baby" speech, I left the dinner quite annoyed.
In 2019, why is the "must do" of motherhood still on the list of epitomizing womanhood? Why does a woman not "have it all" until she has the husband, kids AND successful career?
...and why was she so comfortable asking about my uterus? It very well could have been a situation where I was UNABLE to have children and that topic would have been painful. I dunno. I found the whole thing to be uncomfortably invasive, and now I feel the need to revisit the topic with the guy I'm seeing because if that's a true desire for him, this won't work long term...
Just venting I guess...