GraceJones
Well-Known Member
Does this belong in the relationship forum? IDK.
But anyway, I have this friend who says he does not believe in child support in the way it is.
He said that there are some women that purposely get pregnant just to receive child support.
I told him those men need to use protection and choose who they sleep with more wisely.
He then made the argument that if he has children with someone and they break up, he doesn't feel like he should be contributing such a large percentage of his check to his ex. He said that all that does is give the other person an incentive not to work, and just live off the support. He also feels like her next man would be benefitting off of his money. He said he knows someone who makes 6 figures and pays child support and alimony to his wife, which leaves him with basically nothing. I think he pays like $2.5k a month. I feel like this is nothing when raising multiple children but I don't have any sooo...
Too bad. Get a second job.
I said that child support was a system created by men to benefit men. If they were together, he would be contributing a larger percentage.
I told him these men need to choose better and work harder to keep their families together if they don't want such a large percentage of their income being taken. If you don't want to pay support, you raise your kids yourself. Children fare better with their fathers anyway. My dad and my step mom raised me when my parents broke up.
He believe that the person receiving the support should account for every dollar spend, provided with receipts to explain the expenses actually went to the child. Needless to say, he doesn't want kids.
I don't have any kids, but would NEVA do this if a man asked me. I might even tell him to go f himself. WTH? How do you account for electricity, food, gas, etc.
This is not someone I'm dating. Sometimes I feel like he's a good man and then other times I feel sorry for his spouse because I think he is so petty and selfish.
We have totally different ideas about family values, clearly.
What do you guys think about the current child support? Do you think it makes sense the way we have it set up now?
But anyway, I have this friend who says he does not believe in child support in the way it is.
He said that there are some women that purposely get pregnant just to receive child support.
I told him those men need to use protection and choose who they sleep with more wisely.
He then made the argument that if he has children with someone and they break up, he doesn't feel like he should be contributing such a large percentage of his check to his ex. He said that all that does is give the other person an incentive not to work, and just live off the support. He also feels like her next man would be benefitting off of his money. He said he knows someone who makes 6 figures and pays child support and alimony to his wife, which leaves him with basically nothing. I think he pays like $2.5k a month. I feel like this is nothing when raising multiple children but I don't have any sooo...
Too bad. Get a second job.
I said that child support was a system created by men to benefit men. If they were together, he would be contributing a larger percentage.
I told him these men need to choose better and work harder to keep their families together if they don't want such a large percentage of their income being taken. If you don't want to pay support, you raise your kids yourself. Children fare better with their fathers anyway. My dad and my step mom raised me when my parents broke up.
He believe that the person receiving the support should account for every dollar spend, provided with receipts to explain the expenses actually went to the child. Needless to say, he doesn't want kids.
I don't have any kids, but would NEVA do this if a man asked me. I might even tell him to go f himself. WTH? How do you account for electricity, food, gas, etc.
This is not someone I'm dating. Sometimes I feel like he's a good man and then other times I feel sorry for his spouse because I think he is so petty and selfish.
We have totally different ideas about family values, clearly.
What do you guys think about the current child support? Do you think it makes sense the way we have it set up now?