Strategies for Thick Girls

First off, we are NOT talking about fat women. We're talking about "thick" women. So comparing women to Monique and those two chubbies (lol) have nothing to do with this thread. Let's please be on track! Damn.
 
lushcoils said:
I've never heard of a man who prefered Monique, but I'm sure they are out there as I see fat women in relationships all the time. I just didn't know as a whole that men preferred Monique types over Kelly types until I came to this board. Learn something new everyday. :look:
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And lets not mention there are some who prefer neither:look:. Because I have never heard of men prefering Kelly,lol. I didn't know we were talking about comparisons as we are talking about the variety that men like. I just think saying men like any one thing is a blanket statement.
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
First off, we are NOT talking about fat women. We're talking about "thick" women. So comparing women to Monique and those two chubbies (lol) have nothing to do with this thread. Let's please be on track! Damn.
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LOL, I thought so too. But one of the arguments is that women are calling themselves "thick" when in fact they are fat. Thats why I am thinking thick is relative. What I am thinking as thick, is not fat.
 
Even though this thread is sinking faster than the Titanic...I'll add my two cents.

Size 10/12 here. There are no "strategies" that will make you appear to be 30-100 lbs thinner....Trust me, I've tried:) The only remedy for that is to actually lose the weight or at least some of it so that you feel confident enough with yourself as you are...without any added "strategies."

There are, however, men that will be attracted to you at your size and smaller. There will be men who are not attracted to you now...and if/when you lose weight. So is life. I won't sugarcoat the answer and say that there will be not be men who will blatantly say "I do not date fat women." If this bothers you to a point that you feel like you need to do something about it...then you know what to do.

"Fat/Thick" is relative... at my size, which as I stated is a 10/12, (I'm 5'2) I still fall under the range of "thick" in most men who I converse with's eyes. This is because I have an hourglass shape. But keep in mind...these are men who I talk to...so they must like it;) I have been up to a 16, and I am still working on my weight and health in general. Because I am living a healthier lifestyle, I am slowly/steadily losing weight, and my confidence is growing. I think that this has changed the paradigm in my love life, because now that I am happy knowing that I am a work in progress...Men are flocking.

Hope this helps!
 
:rofl: @ folks deluding themselves into thinking men don't find Kelly's body type attractive. where dey do dat at?
 
Oasis said:
:rofl: @ folks deluding themselves into thinking men don't find Kelly's body type attractive. where dey do dat at?
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:drunk: @ folks deluding themselves into thinking men don't find the hourglass (i.e. thick) body type attractive. where dey do dat at?
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
:drunk: @ folks deluding themselves into thinking men don't find the hourglass (i.e. thick) body type attractive. where dey do dat at?
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I didn't see anyone say or imply anything like that. I thought it has already been established that in THIS thread, thick does not mean Beyonce thick, rather it means Monique thick (i.e. overweight). While that has nothing to do with whether or not men find overweight women attractive, can everyone please keep the same definition in mind? Which, by the way, having an hourglass shape has nothing to do with being overweight because plenty of small women have an hourglass shape and plenty of "thicker" women do not have an hourglass shape.
 
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LaFemmeNaturelle said:
I didn't see anyone say or imply anything like that. I thought it has already been established that in THIS thread, thick does not mean Beyonce thick, rather it means Monique thick (i.e. overweight). While that has nothing to do with whether or not men find overweight women attractive, can everyone please keep the same definition in mind? Which, by the way, having an hourglass shape has nothing to do with being overweight because plenty of small women have an hourglass shape and plenty of "thicker" women do not have an hourglass shape.
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When was that established? It seems like everyone is running wild with their own definitions.
 
Monique = Fat

Melyssa Ford= Thick.

If you are the size of Melyssa Ford and you can't meet men, then your face is beat, or you have the personality of a field mouse.

If you are the size of Monique, then perhaps some strategies might be needed. (let's women who are this size offer said suggestions)

/end thick disputes...
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
When was that established? It seems like everyone is running wild with their own definitions.
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It was obvious from the OP that this thread was not about Melyssa Ford, Trina, or Beyonce types

Belle Du Jour said:
What are the best ways for thicker women to meet men? Being set up? Online dating? Out and about during your daily life? Do guys give you a chance more if they have a chance to see your personality first vs seeing your pic on a screen and passing you over because you're overweight?

Disclaimer: I personally believe that while being healthy is important, wherever you are on that journey towards health, love can still be a possibility. :yep:
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Ok, I have to say something here after to reading all this. I'm a plus size woman and have been all my life and have never needed a strategy to find or keep a man. I check the same box as Monique in terms of size but I have always had a Body and deelishus's shape (cute face, small waist and *** for days) Today I'm a 22pant and 18 top stand 5'9" and wear a size 11 shoe for ref and have dated rich attractive men every day of my life and have since married one in which I was never smaller than an 18 in the entire relationship.

Bottom line is this no matter what size you are if you look good and have a nice figure you are going to pull men to you no matter what. If you're shaped like a box/fridge/boy/etc and your face needs work you are going to have to try harder than the next chick to get a man at any size too thick or thin...

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LaFemmeNaturelle said:
I didn't see anyone say or imply anything like that. I thought it has already been established that in THIS thread, thick does not mean Beyonce thick, rather it means Monique thick (i.e. overweight). While that has nothing to do with whether or not men find overweight women attractive, can everyone please keep the same definition in mind? Which, by the way, having an hourglass shape has nothing to do with being overweight because plenty of small women have an hourglass shape and plenty of "thicker" women do not have an hourglass shape.
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This is so true. We often think in terms of "the hourglass" versus "the ruler". But as far as body types go there is also "the apple", and "the pear" shapes. And your weight doesn't necessarily determine what category you'll be in.
 
*CherryPie* said:
I know quite a few of them.....there's a few in my family.
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I have a couple in mine too and they are brickhouses with men chasing them. Thats why its hard for me wrap my head around the "nobody wants an overweight girl" argument. But I guess everything is per experience. Location may play a part of this, too.
 
I'm not sure if the OP is referring to thick women as in fine women like Trina, Beyonce, Deelishis etc or fat/obese women. I think once that is established, people can argue either side.

If the OP is talking about Trina type women then I don't think you would need a strategy, in general these are the body type that black men want and white men lust after. Yea their (WM) wife might be shaped like a little boy but they like to sneak a peek of the big bootays :sekret:

If you're a fat or obese woman, you just have to play up your other qualities, hair, personality, face, etc. I see plenty of big girls with men.
 
1) I agree with the poster upthread who stated that the best stratgey for a big woman to attract more men is to lose the weight. I know that may not sit well with lots of folks on here, but honestly the whole 'confidence is key' mantra only works with bigger women who still have some semblance of a shape and an okay face. Confidence certainly doesn't hurt and does make you appear more approachable but lets be real, a bona fide apple shaped woman who does not hold her weight well will not have as many pickins of the menfolk.

2) I agree with the poster that stated that typically, men will go for thinner women. Thinner does not always mean Paris Hilton. I've yet to meet a man that PREFERS (and didn't settle for) a big woman and not have it be a weird fetish. I'm not talking 'thick' i'm talking 'big/fat/shapeless'.

3) In my experience, black men don't necessarily prefer bigger women to thin women. I'm frequently complimented on my shape and with black men, the first thing they'll say after the compliment usually pertains to their shock/disbelief/appreciation about my being a black woman with a slim frame.
 
Some of y'all need to quit with the untruths here lol. Listening to a bunch of women fill your head with your weight doesn't matter in the dating world is the most crazy thing I have read on this board. Ask a group of random men how they feel on the subject and I can promise you its not what the majority of what has been said here. Unless you want to date women I wouldn't be taking full stock in the majority of the "other opinion".
 
And i notice it's a good number of smaller women proclaiming the BS about confidence and what not.

Thats like a white person telling me that all i need to do to get ahead in life and come out on top is to work hard.
 
VelvetRain said:
Some of y'all need to quit with the untruths here lol. Listening to a bunch of women fill your head with your weight doesn't matter in the dating world is the most crazy thing I have read on this board. Ask a group of random men how they feel on the subject and I can promise you its not what the majority of what has been said here. Unless you want to date women I wouldn't be taking full stock in the majority of the "other opinion".
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Are you saying that if you ask men they are likely to say they don't care about dating overweight women? Even the fat men I know have issues dating fat girls. I'm thinking peoples experiences are skewed because some of the stuff y'all are describing is best case scenario, not common scenarios.

At the end of the day, people are gonna believe whatever they want and they should. But as far as my experiences with men, it just hasn't been the case that overweight women are in high demand - hell, in any sort of demand - and that's just how it is for me. So I'm not interested in trying to force someone to believe something different if their experiences have been different...

jennboo said:
And i notice it's a good number of smaller women proclaiming the BS about confidence and what not.

Thats like a white person telling me that all i need to do to get ahead in life and come out on top is to work hard.
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:lol: that is an excellent analogy.
 
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