Strategies for Thick Girls
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IONENABILLION
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The norm for most men. If it was, the OP wouldn't have a problem getting a man.
IONENABILLION
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It was constructive because I wasn't attacking her. What I said could have applied to any woman in her predicament. It wasn't anything personal. I never said thick/fat women are not dimes. But if you wanna kep it 100 that's not what MOST (NOT ALL FOR THE UMPTEENTH TIME!!!) men prefer. Especially men who are successful and attractive. I'm not saying no man wants that. But most quality men don't. Now, if she wants to date Ray Ray & Pookie then that's her business. Did a thick woman steal my man? Foreal though.
snillohsss
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This thread is funny as hayle.
Lucie
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This would indicate that fat/thick women are NOT dimes.
It was constructive because I wasn't attacking her. What I said could have applied to any woman in her predicament. It wasn't anything personal. I never said thick/fat women are not dimes. But if you wanna kep it 100 that's not what MOST (NOT ALL FOR THE UMPTEENTH TIME!!!) men prefer. Especially men who are successful and attractive. I'm not saying no man wants that. But most quality men don't. Now, if she wants to date Ray Ray & Pookie then that's her business. Did a thick woman steal my man? Foreal though.
No response was given.
So Ray Ray and Pookie are all a thick woman can hope for? Yikes!
Most men where? I see people are so superficial that they assume that weight is a prerequisite for getting a man. OP needs to realize its not her.
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It was constructive because I wasn't attacking her. What I said could have applied to any woman in her predicament. It wasn't anything personal. I never said thick/fat women are not dimes. But if you wanna kep it 100 that's not what MOST (NOT ALL FOR THE UMPTEENTH TIME!!!) men prefer. Especially men who are successful and attractive. I'm not saying no man wants that. But most quality men don't. Now, if she wants to date Ray Ray & Pookie then that's her business. Did a thick woman steal my man? Foreal though.
What is your definition of quality?
celiabug
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Ok I guess u could say I'm thick (5'7 and a size 13 pants) and I used to be soo ashamed of my weight and so I wouldn't really try and talk to guys but I moved to the south, started to be more confident and I SWEAR the guys started coming around. Confidence is key!! I'm soo serious. And big girls gotta wear fitting clothes but not too fitting. Like u would never catch me in shorts shorter than my fingertips. Never wear a shirt to show my stomach.. stuff like that.
IONENABILLION
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This would indicate that fat/thick women are NOT dimes.
No response was given.
So Ray Ray and Pookie are all a thick woman can hope for? Yikes!
Most men don't look at fat/thick women as dimes. That's not my fault.
To answer your question, no. How is that relevent to this thread? Again, ad hominems are not going to change anything. I'm not saying that's all a thick woman can hope for but that's going to be the main demographic. Nobody can name 1 millionaire (not saying a guy has to be a millionaire. I'm just using that as an example) that married a "thick" or overweight woman.
This would indicate that fat/thick women are NOT dimes.
No response was given.
So Ray Ray and Pookie are all a thick woman can hope for? Yikes!
I think what she says would sound like the truth if one didn't know any better, however one would have to use the "IF/THEN theory". If most men don't want thick women, then they are flocking to skinny women. And if they are flocking to thin women, then most then women are not manless...wrong!
I would love to know why there are single thin women? What is the excuse?IONENABILLION
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Most men everywhere. Most (AGAIN NOT ALL) men are visual creatures rather you like it or not. If a man doesn't find you attractive, he's not going to give you the time of the day. Period.
IONENABILLION
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And its safe to say, considering men are visual, that most men do not want skinny women. Some really love curves and womanly shapes. I know plenty that don't want 2 X 4s
Lucie
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I asked because you seem really heated in your discussion of fat/thick women.
Please reread YOUR comments. You brought up quality men, Ray Ray and Pookie, and fat/thick women not being dimes by inference. Does a man of quality automatically mean he is a millionaire? Let's look at: P. Diddy, Charlie Sheen, Madoff, Little Wayne and too many more to list.
My issue with your postings are because you seem adamant about why a thicker woman should accept the fact that she has to settle.
barbiesocialite
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no woman should ever feel forced to settle.
that said, body size/weight is a socioeconomic indicator. #justsayin
that said, body size/weight is a socioeconomic indicator. #justsayin
That qualifies for skinny and thick. Men are visual creatures... You think? So are women. You still are not proving your point to me.
( The correct word is whether not rather.)
IONENABILLION
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And its safe to say, considering men are visual, that most men do not want skinny women. Some really love curves and womanly shapes. I know plenty that don't want 2 X 4s
If that's the case, why does the OP have trouble finding a man? I'm not saying just because men want women who are in shape that they want anorexic looking women. You can be slim and still have curves like Stacey Dash or Halle Berry. Contrary to popular belief, every woman who is slim isn't built like a 12 year old boy.
I am five feet tall (on a tall day) and have never had a problem finding a suitor(s). I didn't have a problem at 115 pounds, 135 pounds, or 175 pounds. I probably had more of a problem with attracting too many men.
At 175 I did not feel my best. I have lost weight over the last year and am heading closer to 135. I can say that my attitude about myself was different at that time (upper weight level). There are women who have confidence issues at lower weight levels, higher weight levels, and there are women who never have those issues (that's the type of woman I wish I had been.
I think that there are some things that women can do to attract members of the opposite sex. I don't think that those things differ based on the size of the woman.
A nice outfit, a pleasant attitude, a smile, knowing how to flirt, and knowing how to give a man a compliment can go far. Men are like buses. They always come around. What one man doesn't like, one thousand more will. Dating is almost like a numbers game, you have to meet and dismiss the toads so you can find a prince. There are still some kings out there. Give a man a chance to tell you who he is by his actions (and not just his words). If he's not the right one, ditch him and keep it moving. If you are not attracting any men or the right men, ask your friends to critique you. Ask them why they think you are not attracting anyone and what they think you could do differently. Listen to the comments people are saying to you and make changes. I could write a book.
At 175 I did not feel my best. I have lost weight over the last year and am heading closer to 135. I can say that my attitude about myself was different at that time (upper weight level). There are women who have confidence issues at lower weight levels, higher weight levels, and there are women who never have those issues (that's the type of woman I wish I had been.
I think that there are some things that women can do to attract members of the opposite sex. I don't think that those things differ based on the size of the woman.
A nice outfit, a pleasant attitude, a smile, knowing how to flirt, and knowing how to give a man a compliment can go far. Men are like buses. They always come around. What one man doesn't like, one thousand more will. Dating is almost like a numbers game, you have to meet and dismiss the toads so you can find a prince. There are still some kings out there. Give a man a chance to tell you who he is by his actions (and not just his words). If he's not the right one, ditch him and keep it moving. If you are not attracting any men or the right men, ask your friends to critique you. Ask them why they think you are not attracting anyone and what they think you could do differently. Listen to the comments people are saying to you and make changes. I could write a book.
Indicator for where? We have to be careful of what we say. A broader view is necessary. I do not base my views on the US stand point.
Stedman is still with Oprah (and neva mind about who Lady O is, blah blah blah)
(People speculate why they have the arrangement that they have, we will leave that out of it for this discussion.)
Honey the only reason why a lot of specifically black men don't look at heavier women as dimes today is because they've bought into the larger society's european standard of beauty. Hasn't that discussion been beaten to death around here? Used to be a time when all men, regardless of race, preferred a "reubenesque" woman, as she was seen as most beautiful and most fertile.
This "typical" american dude that wants skinny broads (don't want to offend anyone) is a new phenomenon of the last 40 years or so.
For the record, I am a thick woman. 6ft tall and I am a size 16 - 18. Most people don't consider me fat at all because of my height. I gained weight over the past 10 years or so, and just had to learn how to work this body.
Only strategy needed is to take care of oneself and dress your body according to your proportions. And we all should be doing that anyway, regardless of size.
(People speculate why they have the arrangement that they have, we will leave that out of it for this discussion.)
Honey the only reason why a lot of specifically black men don't look at heavier women as dimes today is because they've bought into the larger society's european standard of beauty. Hasn't that discussion been beaten to death around here? Used to be a time when all men, regardless of race, preferred a "reubenesque" woman, as she was seen as most beautiful and most fertile.
This "typical" american dude that wants skinny broads (don't want to offend anyone) is a new phenomenon of the last 40 years or so.
For the record, I am a thick woman. 6ft tall and I am a size 16 - 18. Most people don't consider me fat at all because of my height. I gained weight over the past 10 years or so, and just had to learn how to work this body.
Only strategy needed is to take care of oneself and dress your body according to your proportions. And we all should be doing that anyway, regardless of size.
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I am five feet tall (on a tall day) and have never had a problem finding a suitor(s). I didn't have a problem at 115 pounds, 135 pounds, or 175 pounds. I probably had more of a problem with attracting too many men.
At 175 I did not feel my best. I have lost weight over the last year and am heading closer to 135. I can say that my attitude about myself was different at that time (upper weight level). There are women who have confidence issues at lower weight levels, higher weight levels, and there are women who never have those issues (that's the type of woman I wish I had been.
I think that there are some things that women can do to attract members of the opposite sex. I don't think that those things differ based on the size of the woman.
A nice outfit, a pleasant attitude, a smile, knowing how to flirt, and knowing how to give a man a compliment can go far. Men are like buses. They always come around. What one man doesn't like, one thousand more will. Dating is almost like a numbers game, you have to meet and dismiss the toads so you can find a prince. There are still some kings out there. Give a man a chance to tell you who he is by his actions (and not just his words). If he's not the right one, ditch him and keep it moving. If you are not attracting any men or the right men, ask your friends to critique you. Ask them why they think you are not attracting anyone and what they think you could do differently. Listen to the comments people are saying to you and make changes. I could write a book.
Well said ladies.
IONENABILLION
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I'm not heated. I'm calm and collect. No, I never said a millionaire=quality man. I clearly said I was just using a millionaire as a example. So, now poor automatically makes a man a saint. Bad character transcends income. I brought up a millionaire because most women look for men to provide (not talking about gold diggers). And I never said a thicker woman should settle but if she wants to attract a higher caliber men or men period then she has to lose weight.
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IONENABILLION
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That doesn't change the fact that most men like slim women. I didn't know I had to prove anything to you. I said what I said and I don't make any apologies for it. Hate it or Love it. Don't make me no difference.
cinnespice
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I always say to each they own. What one man may like another one will not plain and simple. It's no point in going back and forth about it because really what it comes down to is preference. I can't say men prefer this woman over that one cause it makes no sense, i'm not a man so i can't say what they think. I have friends that are skinny and plus sized that are single and married. Body shape and size is not the only factor in a man picking you. Cause trust me don't matter how look at the end of the day or what your body type is that may get you in door, when he looks at you he decides yes i like. But if you have the worst personality or attitude about you whatever it may be he will drop your arse like a hot potato.
Poohbear
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Are people going to get upset over this comment too?
lushcoils - lemme-alone!!!
I said that based on what I was thinking about at the time which was how some men like more cushion for the pushin'. :eyebrows2
But my personal opinion, I feel like men like ALL types of women, whether they are considered dimes or not, attractive or not. Appearance does not matter to all men. Yes, there are men who are about appearances, but hey, you can't say that for all. Most men, it's about the woman's personality and actions. And basically, they either like the woman or not. No one can determine what ALL men like because each man is different and has different preferences.