Strategies for Thick Girls

keep working on improving yourself op like woman at at any size would. exude confidence and wear clothes to flatter your figure.....go to places that aren't the so called traditional places (like church or nightclubs in the black community:look: i know this isn't all of us but many of us think this!) to meet men like:
wine tastings
dance classes (flamenco, ballroom, etc.)
bookstores
art openings
art/craft classes
cooking class
workshops/seminars relating to any thing you have an interest (for example for me it might be a veggie/veggie, self improvement/metaphysics, or holistic healing weekend expo)
volunteer with an organization that has a cause you are passionate about.

smile alot and seem approachable......any man you meet that talks that ish about you not needing to lose weight and you want to watch carefully and use your own discretion :nono: i have repeatedly heard men say they see big girls as an easy "lay" and as "freaky". don't let him hinder your progress in terms of your health! above all have fun, there is no cookie cutter strategy based on size only. i wish you well in your dating endeavors, enjoy yourself:yep:


fyi: many of you ladies have a delusional notion as to what thick is depending on height and for the majority a size 14 is the beginning of being plus sized, i have seen shorter gals who were fat and were a size 8 or 10! thick is misused in the black community and i'm tired of it:nono::spinning:
 
Being thick is more about shape than size. You can find 5 women who wear the same size, but who are all different shapes.
 
MayaB12 said:
Halle Berry types have trouble finding men and you are telling me thick girls don't need strategies??? Where is the "C'mon son" GIF when I need it?
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I'm 5'7" and size 6. I am thick and I have no problem attracting men (but I'm taken). No need for crazy strategies. I know men consider this thick because they are constantly calling me that like it is a compliment... even when I was a size 4.

I think we women may not understand what men mean when they say "thick" and assume it is the same as overweight.
 
Just be an attractive, solid woman and the men who are attracted to you will come. It really doesn't matter what label is placed on a woman's body type, only that she is happy and healthy within that body type.
 
I am not thick, I'm fat, and I have never needed a strategy to get a man. I flash a smile and I'm good to go, lol Who needs a strategy? Realistically, I know as I get smaller, my dating pool will get larger, but even at my heaviest I have never had a problem. The strategy thing is too weird for me.
 
princessnad said:
I'm 5'7" and size 6. I am thick and I have no problem attracting men (but I'm taken). No need for crazy strategies. I know men consider this thick because they are constantly calling me that like it is a compliment... even when I was a size 4.

I think we women may not understand what men mean when they say "thick" and assume it is the same as overweight.
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Based on your size and height you sound thinnish. I guess thick is the shape or figure of the person and not the size.

I always thought Buffy the Body and Delishis types were thick. I guess thinner and bigger ladies can be considered thick if they are built a certain way.
 
Just be yourself, secure, and confident in any place or environment.

There's plenty of thick girls and fat girls that get men, even more so than skinny or "normal" sized women.
 
If you're whatever you consider "thick" or overweight, it doesn't matter.
Just be you and confident.
There are no strategies to get a man for a certain body type.
It all depends on where you are and who you're dealing with.
Every man is different.
Some are shallow, some not.
You just have to stick with being you, and if they like it, good.
If they don't, then it's their loss and keep it moving.
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
I'm gonna be the bad guy in this thread and say ... CONFIDENCE? Really? That's all you need, huh? (lol) Come on, ladiesssssss. Let's be real.
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I was thinking the same thing but I didn't want to say anything because people hate hearing the truth. Just having confidence alone doesn't work for women the same way it works for men. Confidence works for men because men can compensate for their looks with "swagg", personality, or money but women usually can't. I don't know too many men that will approach a woman that their not attracted too just based off "confidence" or personality.That's not saying that the OP is ugly but she may need to lose weight. Everybody can scream about the exceptions but the exceptions don't swallow the rule. Just because Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of college and became billionaires doesn't mean the same thing is going to happen to you if you drop out of college. Most men are not attracted to thick/overweight women and that's just what it is. And even if she does attract men at her present weight, will they be the men that she wants? Most men that date thick/overweight women, for lack of better words, are lackluster. You don't see attractive and successful men with overweight women. Now, do you? Not trying to be mean but it is what is.
 
IONENABILLION said:
I was thinking the same thing but I didn't want to say anything because people hate hearing the truth. Just having confidence alone doesn't work for women the same way it works for men. Confidence works for men because men can compensate for their looks with "swagg", personality, or money but women usually can't. I don't know too many men that will approach a woman that their not attracted too just based off "confidence" or personality.That's not saying that the OP is ugly but she may need to lose weight. Everybody can scream about the exceptions but the exceptions don't swallow the rule. Just because Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of college and became billionaires doesn't mean the same thing is going to happen to you if you drop out of college. Most men are not attracted to thick/overweight women and that's just what it is. And even if she does attract men at her present weight, will they be the men that she wants? Most men that date thick/overweight women, for lack of better words, are lackluster. You don't see attractive and successful men with overweight women. Now, do you? Not trying to be mean but it is what is.
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Wow :look:
Boo....you might wanna get out more. :yep:
 
None at all the same applies to the skinny girls. Why do they have to go above an beyond to get a man. I don't get it.
 
IONENABILLION said:
I was thinking the same thing but I didn't want to say anything because people hate hearing the truth. Just having confidence alone doesn't work for women the same way it works for men. Confidence works for men because men can compensate for their looks with "swagg", personality, or money but women usually can't. I don't know too many men that will approach a woman that their not attracted too just based off "confidence" or personality.That's not saying that the OP is ugly but she may need to lose weight. Everybody can scream about the exceptions but the exceptions don't swallow the rule. Just because Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of college and became billionaires doesn't mean the same thing is going to happen to you if you drop out of college. Most men are not attracted to thick/overweight women and that's just what it is. And even if she does attract men at her present weight, will they be the men that she wants? Most men that date thick/overweight women, for lack of better words, are lackluster. You don't see attractive and successful men with overweight women. Now, do you? Not trying to be mean but it is what is.
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If you are not trying to be mean what are you trying to be?
 
Wow really? I would like to know your relationship status in comparison to your weight. I find your words offensive and extremely uninformed. Not all men prefer 100lbs. Everyone has a preference. I'm a big/fat girl and I did not have to leave my house to meet my husband so no strategies needed there and trust he is far from lackluster. There are cultures where a woman with a little more meat on her bones is preferred.
 
Lucie said:
If you are not trying to be mean what are you trying to be?
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I was just trying to give constructive criticism. Telling somebody what they want to hear is not going to help them. That's BS. I don't see men chasing confidence or personality. But I do see men chasing dimes. It is what it is. Deal with it.
 
Tamrin said:
Wow really? I would like to know your relationship status in comparison to your weight. I find your words offensive and extremely uninformed. Not all men prefer 100lbs. Everyone has a preference. I'm a big/fat girl and I did not have to leave my house to meet my husband so no strategies needed there and trust he is far from lackluster. There are cultures where a woman with a little more meat on her bones is preferred.
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When did I say men all men prefer 100lbs? I said MOST not ALL. Exceptions mean nothing. That's not the norm.
 
IONENABILLION said:
I was just trying to give constructive criticism. Telling somebody what they want to hear is not going to help them. That's BS. I don't see men chasing confidence or personality. But I do see men chasing dimes. It is what it is. Deal with it.
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How is anything constructive about your entire paragraph? It seems you are saying thick/fat women are not dimes. Did a thicker/fatter woman steal your man? Just curious..... because it seems that YOU have things to deal with.
 
MissJ said:
Pierce Brosnan's wife is thick. :yep:
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:lachen: First of all his wife wasn't that big when they first got married . And you don't know if it's a cheaper to keep her marriage or they could have some kind of "arrangement" going on for all we know. Can you name 1 millionaire or celeberity who married a woman who was already overweight? I'm not talking about people who been married for 10 or 20+ years. That don't count.
 
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