Rina88
Well-Known Member
I have no idea why I have ignored this thread for so long, maybe it's because I avoid the relationship forum since I'm always single.
I'm going to try to peruse through this thread and see what's up.
I had/have an issue right now. Friend and I attempted to become something more, but during conversations two times his phone cut off on me. I didn't call him for 3 weeks and decided I didn't want to pursue it any longer, and to be honest I didn't even care because the idea of being in a relationship doesn't excite me anyways. My other bff (a girl) said I shouldn't be so hard on him and call him to see what's going on, he may just be acting shy and trying to figure out how to make this work. Looking back that doesn't make any sense since he's been pursuing me for years, but she made me feel guilty so I called, we spoke then he hung up again (I thought it was because he didn't like my responses to his questions about what it means to have a boyfriend). That was over a month ago, I called and text and left messages b/c even though I don't appreciate his actions he is my best friend above all others. His excuse last time was his phone lost all his numbers, I believed him because his phone is a POS, the screen is blank and it's always cutting off, and he had never treated me like that before. This time he hasn't answered or called me back at all. First few attempts it would ring once then voicemail, then his phone was off then it was on and would just ring out so I get the point. He wants to ruin a friendship over not liking my responses during our conversations?
IDK I guess I just wanted to add my situation to the thread.
ETA: For clarification yes I liked him but I had never "chased" anyone so when I finally told my friend what happened (she had no idea about what we had going on until I felt I knew for sure whether we would pursue a romantic relationship or not- I feel some things are best kept between people that are involved) and I said I hadn't called/texted him at all b/c being in a relationship is not important, she told me I was being cold and to reach out to him. So feeling guilty about feeling so indifferent and not taking into account how he may have been feeling I called him, I guess taking her advice was part of what messed things up, who knows.
I'm going to try to peruse through this thread and see what's up.
I had/have an issue right now. Friend and I attempted to become something more, but during conversations two times his phone cut off on me. I didn't call him for 3 weeks and decided I didn't want to pursue it any longer, and to be honest I didn't even care because the idea of being in a relationship doesn't excite me anyways. My other bff (a girl) said I shouldn't be so hard on him and call him to see what's going on, he may just be acting shy and trying to figure out how to make this work. Looking back that doesn't make any sense since he's been pursuing me for years, but she made me feel guilty so I called, we spoke then he hung up again (I thought it was because he didn't like my responses to his questions about what it means to have a boyfriend). That was over a month ago, I called and text and left messages b/c even though I don't appreciate his actions he is my best friend above all others. His excuse last time was his phone lost all his numbers, I believed him because his phone is a POS, the screen is blank and it's always cutting off, and he had never treated me like that before. This time he hasn't answered or called me back at all. First few attempts it would ring once then voicemail, then his phone was off then it was on and would just ring out so I get the point. He wants to ruin a friendship over not liking my responses during our conversations?
IDK I guess I just wanted to add my situation to the thread.
ETA: For clarification yes I liked him but I had never "chased" anyone so when I finally told my friend what happened (she had no idea about what we had going on until I felt I knew for sure whether we would pursue a romantic relationship or not- I feel some things are best kept between people that are involved) and I said I hadn't called/texted him at all b/c being in a relationship is not important, she told me I was being cold and to reach out to him. So feeling guilty about feeling so indifferent and not taking into account how he may have been feeling I called him, I guess taking her advice was part of what messed things up, who knows.
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