They don't got phones in Texas these days?
Mr Vacation just sent me a message after having not picked up the phone since he's been back in town. Of course I haven't called him
Here's his message:
Out of curiousity, was it something I said?
My response:
I didn't get the impression that you were feeling me. A woman knows when a man is truly interested and I didn't get that from you. I deserve to be courted, not have a man kind of fit me in to his schedule. I made it a point to call you to stay connected whereas you didn't do the same besides a few text messages in the last few weeks. I'm looking for someone that is able to make me a priority, not an option.
In any case Jay, good luck with your search. I hope you find that special someone
That's what I'm talking about. I told someone something like that once. Couldn't shake that dude for a minute after I said that.
Mr Vacation just sent me a message after having not picked up the phone since he's been back in town. Of course I haven't called him
Here's his message:
Out of curiousity, was it something I said?
My response:
I didn't get the impression that you were feeling me. A woman knows when a man is truly interested and I didn't get that from you. I deserve to be courted, not have a man kind of fit me in to his schedule. I made it a point to call you to stay connected whereas you didn't do the same besides a few text messages in the last few weeks. I'm looking for someone that is able to make me a priority, not an option.
In any case Jay, good luck with your search. I hope you find that special someone
I want to see if what the rule book says about not asking men to dance, not looking at men first, and not "hanging around" hoping a guy will ask you to dance is really true. 
I'll definitely make sure to apply "The Rules" on him! 
I guess I felt guilty. (Looong story) But anyway, "The Rules" have been working, because I've been in the BEST of moods lately for about a month! I finally feel genuinely happy, and I feel like my old self again. I think my guy friend (and guys in general) has definitely noticed! I'm telling you ladies, being happy, care-free, bubbly, and genuinely comfortable with yourself is intoxicating to a man! 
IN TOTAL AGREEMENT, and I'm a huge SATC Fan!
Carrie is the least "Rules" girl out of the 4 main characters and that why she "allowed" Mr. Big to string her along for 10 (........I repeat .......TEN ..
I was so disappointed in the movie for still portarying Carrie as the typical needy woman that had to accept LESS (movie spoiler......he left her at the alter because he did wantn't a big wedding with carrie...yet Mr Big had a big engagement party at the Plaza and public wedding along with Scoiety page announcement with the other chick) just to GET her man!
If the situation was reverse....Mr. Big would never had hang around (thru affairs and even a marriage to someone else) "hoping" that someday Carrie would come to her senses and "chose him".
Too much exposure. Overtime, if you're the one doing most of the talking, it doesn't leave him wanting more; there's no mystery, and you begin to look like an open book. If he's the one doing most of the talking, you'll probably start seeing him as chatty man and begin losing respect for him
. At some point, it will all become too much, and one of you will begin to avoid the other person's phone calls. Or one will begin to force the conversations to end sooner, and the other person will feel hurt because they'd gotten used to the long phone chats. They may even think the other person doesn't like them as much anymore or is seeing someone else, and it probably will be true.
Also, when you spend so much time talking with someone, especially if you do it frequently or too early in the relationship, you run a higher risk of "baring your soul" and sharing your deepest wishes, fears, and secrets. This makes you highly vulnerable to emotional pain/trauma if the relationship doesn't work out the way you'd hoped it would. This risk is the same for anyone you correspond with in that way, not just male suitors.
If a man, a potential husband, wants to spend 10+ minutes talking with you, keep the phone conversations short so that he will requests more dates with you. You want to see each other's faces (and demeanor) while you bond. That is how you will truly be able to determine whether the person is right for your or not. If he's not inviting you to meet with him via dates, you don't want to waste your time with him because he's not into you.
Well, I will be going to a formal evening affair this weekend.
Yet, another chance to practice "The Rules"!!
I'll be seeing my infamous "guy friend" I believe at the dance as well.
I made the mistake of e-mailing him some little joke earlier this week.
Yeah, so I made a mistake in e-mailing him earlier this week, but I'm dusting myself off and moving on again. I'm really looking forward to the formal affair this weekend. You know, it's funny...ever since I started doing "the Rules", I actually look forward to more "outings" and settings where I can apply "The Rules".
***I'll come back later with an update on how the formal went, and whether or not applying "The Rules" worked in my favor!
However, I would still probably opt for a year long engagement.I used to think it would take years to get comfortable enough to marry someone. Then I realized that we all change over time. What you need to know before you marry someone are their values and character, and MOST importantly if you both have similar goals in life. That doesn't necessarily take more than 6 months to figure out. I keep hearing of people with similar stories. A classmate of mine was introduced to his wife through their parents and after a short courtship of figuring out if they wanted the same things in life, they got engaged and married a year later.
I would not be surprised if I became engaged to someone within six months of dating.
I used to think it would take years to get comfortable enough to marry someone. Then I realized that we all change over time. What you need to know before you marry someone are their values and character, and MOST importantly if you both have similar goals in life. That doesn't necessarily take more than 6 months to figure out. I keep hearing of people with similar stories. A classmate of mine was introduced to his wife through their parents and after a short courtship of figuring out if they wanted the same things in life, they got engaged and married a year later.
I would not be surprised if I became engaged to someone within six months of dating.
Im not even the same person at 28 that I was at 21. When I think about some of the dudes I obsessed over 
During the friendship/getting to know you phase, I never called him unless I was returning his call. I didn't date at all, so the only time he got to see me was when we were out in a group or at church. It was very hard for both of us, but I'm glad I did it because even my dh said that it challenged him to be a better man.I used to think it would take years to get comfortable enough to marry someone. Then I realized that we all change over time. What you need to know before you marry someone are their values and character, and MOST importantly if you both have similar goals in life. That doesn't necessarily take more than 6 months to figure out. I keep hearing of people with similar stories. A classmate of mine was introduced to his wife through their parents and after a short courtship of figuring out if they wanted the same things in life, they got engaged and married a year later.
I would not be surprised if I became engaged to someone within six months of dating.
My dh said he knew I was the one after about a month of knowing me. It took me a few months, but that's because I was fighting it.Once he told me his intentions, we dated for a few months, got engaged, then got married about 8 months later.
Ok....someone lese may have mentioned this, but I picked up the RULES II book from the library this weekend and it is great!
I just started reading it last tonight, but the first chapter was on the DO's and DON'T OF GETTING BACK WITH AN EX......this is a godsend for anyone who tend to start reminiscing during the upcoming holiday season.
Other useful “real world” relationship topics include office romances, long distance relationships, the engagements, etc.
Just wanted to share!
