You would look three times at the new guy I am dating, Boo!!!
lol
LOL!!
As for the reason for the prevalence of IR dating on this site, I just think it boils down to attraction and what you want out of life, I guess. Because whenever there's a thread about men posted, some of the WM and AM that people swoon and
over, I'm looking like "really?
" Like, it would never even occur to me to ever be attracted to them and I don't mean it in a shady way. So when you can find attraction in a wider variety of random people, I guess that helps. I think when some people suggest that people who prefer not to date interracially aren't openminded because we don't think we can, they may be missing the point that we don't really want to.
Also, for me it's not just a looks thing. As for my point about "what you want out of life," I don't really know how to articulate my thoughts on this but I'll make a parallel to the thread about the woman who was single and childless (I think it was called "The Truth About Single Women" or something). Posters were saying that she could have had a child if she had pursued more alternative options like in vitro and adoption. Well, for her, children probably come as a package and it wouldn't have occurred to her to do all that because it's not the same package. For me, when I picture married life, I picture a BM that I can relate to. Someone that I can have meaningful conversations with (not to say that meaningful convos can't be had with anyone, but follow me camera
), and who understands my background and certain things. Someone who is strong (again, not to say that other men aren't strong, but in the way that I mean). I won't say that I couldn't ever have that with a nonblack man, BUT there's a certain package that I want for myself and unless there was something spectacular about a WM or my feelings for him then that type of marriage would be settling
for me and I don't see that as a sad thing. But for some people, marriage is the end game, so I can understand but I can't relate to why they would go for someone outside of their personal ideal (and I understand that everyone who dates IR is not going outside of the ideal; for some people that is the ideal, or their ideal doesn't involve race). For me, I would be sadder with someone that I looked at everyday and had to explain things to or that didn't give me what I wanted. When I've gone on dates with WM--and I don't want to generalize, this is just my experience, but it's always my experience; and I grew up as the only black kid in the class for years, so it's not like I've only been around 2 white guys--they're either trying to talk about things that they think I'm interested in (one guy was like "I like hip hop, but I don't like rap." what? What the hell you talkin about?) or just random stuff that he's interested in like Seinfeld type discussions about altitude or the first moon landing or some randomness like that. No, I'm not doing that. I can't and I won't.
And I like to be pursued, so I haven't completely cut off WM just because they're white, when and if pursued I may give them some play, but they basically have to be on point--and that's never really happened.
I, of course, have no problem with other people dating IR--because it's not my problem to have, but when I see women on this forum or IRL who are the main ones trying to enlighten people to the wonders of IR dating get dogged or played by a nonblack man--or to not be so dramatic--put up with behavior from a nonblack man that they wouldn't from a black man,
all while acting like they've found the golden ticket then I'm just like
To bring it back to the original question, though, my answer to why there are so many IR relationships here is that most of the women don't feel the same way I do, and that's cool.
and yeah, I said it
bye
Makes me wonder where people are looking or living...
which is exactly the same complaint of BW that BM do when they justify dating out; which is my issue.
Truth. But I mean, really none of the stuff we talk/debate about on LHCF matters. 
