loolalooh
Well-Known Member
This is a spin off from the "Irritated" thread. I have more details and an update...
Dude and I have been getting to know each other for 3 weeks now. This weekend he invited me to a function and introduced me to his male and female friends as his friend. I was a lil irked at first. We're not official, so I didn't expect to get the "girlfriend" intro. However, something about the way he said friend made me feel like there was no distinguishing between me and his female friends at the function.
As the function progressed, I wasn't sure how to feel or respond. He paid for my dinner, which is a plus. He touched the waists and rubbed the backs of me and his female friends, which made me go hmm. He sat next to me, which is a plus. But he talked to his female friend sitting on his other side majority of the night.
Afterwards, we all went to a lounge. He danced with one of the female friends. He didnt dance with me at all. At one point, the group broke up. I was off on my own; he was off talking with a female stranger. (Not friend, but stranger.) I eventually walked over, told him I was tired, and he drove me home.
We've talked since, but I don't know whether I saw red flags or am I reading too much into his behavior. Context is important so I'll try to give more details of the weeks before this function...
We've had a talk about what we're looking for and agree that we're not looking to have fun but for something serious. We've gone out a number of times and he always pays. I went apt hunting and he joined me. He kisses me each time we meet up and calls to make sure I made it home safely. On the flip side, he says he's open to getting other women's numbers because we're not exclusive ... Just getting to know each other.
Your thoughts? Should I cut him loose or give it more time? Other?
Dude and I have been getting to know each other for 3 weeks now. This weekend he invited me to a function and introduced me to his male and female friends as his friend. I was a lil irked at first. We're not official, so I didn't expect to get the "girlfriend" intro. However, something about the way he said friend made me feel like there was no distinguishing between me and his female friends at the function.
As the function progressed, I wasn't sure how to feel or respond. He paid for my dinner, which is a plus. He touched the waists and rubbed the backs of me and his female friends, which made me go hmm. He sat next to me, which is a plus. But he talked to his female friend sitting on his other side majority of the night.
Afterwards, we all went to a lounge. He danced with one of the female friends. He didnt dance with me at all. At one point, the group broke up. I was off on my own; he was off talking with a female stranger. (Not friend, but stranger.) I eventually walked over, told him I was tired, and he drove me home.
We've talked since, but I don't know whether I saw red flags or am I reading too much into his behavior. Context is important so I'll try to give more details of the weeks before this function...
We've had a talk about what we're looking for and agree that we're not looking to have fun but for something serious. We've gone out a number of times and he always pays. I went apt hunting and he joined me. He kisses me each time we meet up and calls to make sure I made it home safely. On the flip side, he says he's open to getting other women's numbers because we're not exclusive ... Just getting to know each other.
Your thoughts? Should I cut him loose or give it more time? Other?
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