LostInAdream
Well-Known Member
@whosthatgurl
So sorry you are hurting.
So sorry you are hurting.
@whosthatgurl
You did so well to stop this nightmare before it got any further.
He sounds dangerous as %&*. Did you file a police report?
Do not let him back in. I know your family is upset you were with him to begin with, but you were so smart to get out early in the game. Ask them for help anyway.
Yes I did file. I reached out and received sarcasms, and you have low self esteem, along with a plethora of other negatives. So I'm in this thing by myself. Thankfully there is one person that is willing to help me get my car fixed.
Honestly it took me a while to get to this point, I really did not want to let go, trying to protect him from what eventually will happen if he doesn't get his head on straight. But I didn't receive the respect I deserved regardless of how he felt about what I did.
Exactly! I am sorry too. It hurts, but I will be alright.@Kimiche I'm so sorry he threw you for a loop but I'm glad he showed his true colors before you wasted time trying to make it work.
Men can be so trifling. They tell us what we want to hear and then don't expect us to hold them accountable. Good riddance
He is sweet, smart and has a decent job. I like him but iono if I can get past that head. I would need a plan to get him to shave that thang bald and exfoliate.
Lord knows I am not perfect but cheese on bread, can't we just fix this little thing?
My ex-husband fought me so hard on that! well he is bald now and he rocks a full beard. I don’t know if I had anything to do with that...lol it’s hard for men (especially younger men) to come to terms with losing their hair. I regret trying to push him into shaving the rest of his hair off. I know I would be resistant if a man tried to tell me to something I wasn’t ready for.Girl you gotta start talking that up now. Maybe wait until the third or fourth date and then do it. I did the same thing with my ex-husband and my oldest brother when they were holding on to their balding heads for dear life.
My ex-husband fought me so hard on that! well he is bald now and he rocks a full beard. I don’t know if I had anything to do with that...lol it’s hard for men (especially younger men) to come to terms with losing their hair. I regret trying to push him into shaving the rest of his hair off. I know I would be resistant if a man tried to tell me to something I wasn’t ready for.
@shespoison is his hairline receding ala male pattern baldness or is it just the dry patches and thinning? The thin spots may be because of the dry patches. He might have eczema or some other type of scalp fungus. He can probably save the hair follicles if he gets those spots cleared up. He may just need to see a dermatologist. I’d ask him about it but that’s just me .
The front of his hair is just fine. There’s just some spots on his crown and in the back that need the blood of Jesus.
Maybe I’ll just take my contacts out when I hang with him. If I can’t see it is it really there?
You think he has a scalp condition?The front of his hair is just fine. There’s just some spots on his crown and in the back that need the blood of Jesus.
Maybe I’ll just take my contacts out when I hang with him. If I can’t see it is it really there?
I don’t think I could ask
When he saw me he looked so happy and then a little nervous. I’m silly so I just made a joke about him looking nervous but I couldn’t imagine telling him his head looks crazy. Not unless we were already in a relationship.
You think he has a scalp condition?
Dang and hilarious at the same time.After the first time I looked my heart couldn’t take it. My eyes avoided it the rest of the night.
But from that first glance...prolly and most likely.
I don’t think you are being shallow. I don’t believe in a woman cleaning men up. He knows good and well what he looks like, and you shouldn’t have to go playing fix it/makeover lady trying to clean this man up. Ashy Patch Adams can be a project for someone else. But if you really want a man and don’t mind pulling out your makeover bag of tricks, go for it. It’s a thankless job.After the first time I looked my heart couldn’t take it. My eyes avoided it the rest of the night.
But from that first glance...prolly and most likely.
I don’t think you are being shallow. I don’t believe in a woman cleaning men up. He knows good and well what he looks like, and you shouldn’t have to go playing fix it/makeover lady trying to clean this man up. Ashy Patch Adams can be a project for someone else. But if you really want a man and don’t mind pulling out your makeover bag of tricks, go for it. It’s a thankless job.
I don’t think you are being shallow. I don’t believe in a woman cleaning men up. He knows good and well what he looks like, and you shouldn’t have to go playing fix it/makeover lady trying to clean this man up. Ashy Patch Adams can be a project for someone else. But if you really want a man and don’t mind pulling out your makeover bag of tricks, go for it. It’s a thankless job.
Agreed. I'm not doing any of that with work. Patchy mcpatchy is aware of his scalp he could carry his arse to the Dr if he was so concerned.
It isn't your job to contort yourself to like his ashiness.
I wanna fight him for you sis he is trashI've found out that he has moved on to who he thinks is his
"wife" as he states. How in the world do you destroy someone's life and move on in a week flat?
I pray for the lady. Whoever she may be. I told someone last week I do not wish what I've gone through on the next person.
I woke up feeling sad and started praying. Because I'm truly tired of feeling sad and crying. I really feel like the Lord has put it on my heart on what I need to do to heal. Without stating what it is, if you believe in the power of prayer, please lift me up in it.
Thank you
Awww! Sending you hugs as well. I know how you feel. I have been sad since my situation unfolded last week. I even did something that I didn't think I was going to do. I broke down crying at work when my co worker/ friend asked me how I was doing. We will be alright.I've found out that he has moved on to who he thinks is his
"wife" as he states. How in the world do you destroy someone's life and move on in a week flat?
I pray for the lady. Whoever she may be. I told someone last week I do not wish what I've gone through on the next person.
I woke up feeling sad and started praying. Because I'm truly tired of feeling sad and crying. I really feel like the Lord has put it on my heart on what I need to do to heal. Without stating what it is, if you believe in the power of prayer, please lift me up in it.
Thank you
I’m not a barbarathebuilder type of gal. I feel shallow because I actually like him and he’s makes more sense for me than most ppl I usually date.
I’ve played myself for men with full scalps of hair who didn’t deserve it. I’m going to mind my own head and skin until I find a man that acts right and doesn’t need doogrow.
Forgive me if this has already been posted, but this is fiyah!
And then he showed up