Hotep Bible-Thumper
So, in spite of all of the trash nakers I have encountered in my life, I am still very much of a Romantic. HBT has an email address that is verrrry close to mine. Mine only has my middle initial as well. As such, he often accidentally gets my emails, and he is courteous enough to forward them. This has been going on for YEARS . . .maybe even since college (not quite sure, but it’s been a long time). Anywho, last year around January, he forwarded me yet another email, and I replied, “HBT
, I feel like we are old friends. Thanks so much for forwarding my emails all of these years.” He replies, “It’s all good Ms. (Silkycoils), just treating others as I want to be treated. This is me so you know who I am. Have a blessed day.” He attaches a picture of himself and I am surprised that he is a Black Man. He’s alright looking . . .like a regular-degular Black Man, but not a gremlin
. I send him a picture of me in my Flight Attendant uniform with my “good wig” on
. . .no response. I was like, “Aiight den Ni-- . . .
”, but it was all good.
So anyway, fast-forward to December 2020 and he hits me up stating that he will be in Georgia and would like to meet up. I didn’t have anything else going on
, so I was like cool. Now, I ain’t doing no blind meetup just because . . .you gone have to feed me!
I picked this brunch spot not far from me (I wasn’t driving too far either) and we’re all set. I told him that I started locs, just so he wouldn’t expect me to look all wigalicious like my pic. On the set day, he’s a bit late because his hotel is downtown. I get to the restaurant on time, but I have to wait for him for like 20 minutes . . .no biggie. I’m playing on my phone. When he finally comes in, he is SUPER tall (6’9”). My server had come over to check on me, and then to check on us as soon as he arrived. I could tell that he was feeling me because he was just staring.
I said, “You might want to look at the menu to see what you want to order.” Anywho, it’s time to order, and he says, “You can get what you want, but I don’t eat pork.” I ask, “Oh, are you Muslim?” and he says that he isn’t. This struck me as kind of weird because in my mind I was like, “I KNOW I can get what I want . . .and you’re gonna pay for it!”
He says that he’s trying to eat more plant-based. So I get what I’m getting (a smoked salmon frittata) and I’m still my usual bubbly self. He then asks me what I think about Corona. I said, “I feel like the government had something to do with it (my thoughts), but I think it’s real. He says that he thinks it’s not that serious. Here we go . . .
I said, “But people are dying.” He says he believes they are spreading the propaganda because they want us to get the vaccine. I’m sure we have some anti-vaxxers on this board, but I’m not one of them. I respect people’s beliefs as long as they don’t try to impose them on me.
Then he compliments my locs and I thank him of course. I said that I can’t wait until they mature because I want to color my grays. He says, “Oh no, no! Don’t do that!” I said, “I’m gon do it.” He says that hair color is linked to cancer, and this may be true, but he was killing my vibe for real. I told him that there are all-natural hair coloring products like henna and indigo . . .BLOOP!
He says he likes it when women are natural, with no makeup, and by this time, I’m fighting for my face not to get twisted.
I said that I don’t necessarily wear makeup on the day to day, but that I do wear it to court sometimes. Also, my Flight Attendant job is sort of like a character. I would feel “unpolished” if I wasn’t made up when at work. But in my mind, I’m like, “Ain’t nobody ask you what you like", like Bruh.”
So, he tells me that he’s been divorced since 2017 (I can’t remember), but then he volunteers that he’s been celibate for five years.
He said that the marriage broke up over his beliefs. I couldn’t help but to laugh to myself like, “Good one God (like the joke is on me)."
Anyway, we’re finished and leaving. He asks if he could take a picture with me, and I indulge. I already knew that I was not going to EVER see him again, so why not? He has to take the tape off of his camera to snap the photo. He asks if he can see me again, and I reply, “You know where I am.” He walks me to my car, and I say goodbye and get in. As I’m pulling out, he pulls up to me in his truck and gets out to hand me a piece of paper . . .It’s a handout with scriptures on it. It has scriptures that reference why women should dress modestly, and not want to lead, blah-blah-blah . . .whoo-chile. Needless to say, he wernt it.
He emailed me a week or so later with the photo of us and he said (copied and pasted with name edits), “Hey Silkycoils, how have you been? I want to be open and direct in writing this to you. First of all, thank you for the breakfast we shared together, it was really good to see you. I think you are a beautiful woman and I really like your spirit. There is something about you that I really admire and fond of. I was also impressed by your humility, that’s attractive to me. You are a strong woman in making it through your struggles in life and accomplishing your goals. I didn’t realize you were as tall as you are, nice… (smiling)!
I know we’re about 800 miles (11hrs) apart, and that’s fine. You have a life in ATL and I have one in DAL. I also understand we may differ on a few things, but our foundation is in Christ/Messiah, and we are building on that foundation. I would love to just stay in contact with you, converse, hear your voice and really get to know you and become your friend... and it’s not a coincidence that we met. We are both are grown 1975 babies... (smile). It’s nothing for me to hop on a plane to ATL just to see you and spend time with you. Hope you have a great week and may the Most High bless you abundantly.
Sincerely,
HBT”
I PROMPTY reply, “Hey HBT,
Happy New Year to you! Thanks for the pic. I've been well for the most part . . . just trying to stay on top of my work and get this year off to a great start. Thanks so much for your words. Yes, it was refreshing to be able to "look up" to someone. HBT, I'm certainly open to being your friend, but I must be honest and say that that is where it would end. While we are both believers, I feel that we are very different in our ideologies. I think this could cause discomfort and unease down the line. As such, I would rather keep things as they have been. Thank you again for breakfast and for forwarding my mail all of these years. Best wishes to you for a peaceful and abundant year.
Best wishes,
Silkycoils"
Y’all, WHY did that naker call me THAT NIGHT?!!!! I had gotten a new phone, and his number was blocked in my old one
, so I didn’t recognize the number. When he identified himself, I asked, “Did you get my email?” and he replied that he had?!!! In my mind, I’m like, “Then why are you calling?”
I reiterated what I said in my email, but I kept it pleasant before ending the call. Here I was thinking it was gone be like some "Sleepless in Seattle" typa thing . . .but it was not.
Y’all, I cannot promise that I will always be this detailed, but this is kind of fun for me.
Next up is a quick blurb about the 35 year old (I’m 45). He was my first date of 2021.
I joined Hinge last week, and it's been a flurry of activity. Now I wouldn't be me if I wasn't truthful and didn't tell y'all that I've encountered at least one narcissist and one sociopath, but nevermind that for now. 
Btw how tall are you? I’m tall too (6ft) and people are always surprised when they meet me. 
