GetHappy2014
Well-Known Member
I know that most of your answers would probably be the same as mine .... But there is more to the story...so read on and then decide....My friend (once co-worker) met a guy about one year ago. He was in the lobby of her office building ... Waiting for clearance to enter the building (not an employee) & she was waiting for the elevator. When she first approached he smiled at her and said "hi". She found him handsome and responded in kind. He is now also waiting for the elevator he compliments her outfit. While on the elevator with other co-workers, he stands uncomfortably close to her. As she gets off on her floor he says for all to hear , "Have a great day". She picks up on his flirting and is flattered. The following week she runs into him on the elevator, he introduces himself and give her his business card. He owns his own consulting business and has contracts with her company. These run-ins continue over the course of a month. One day he runs into her in the cafeteria, he approaches her and asked why hasn't he heard from her. She replies, cause she hasn't been in need of consulting. They are talking in a crowded cafeteria, for all to see. Not long after their very public exchange, she calls him. Very early in the conversation he says to her, you know I'm married, right? She explained to him that she did not know, and that she does not 'do married men' and abruptly ended their call. About two months pass and no sign of Mr. Player. Then...as she is walking through the lobby someone calls out for her from behind ... She turns around and it's him.....she gives him an unpleasant look and is waiting to hear what he wants. He asks her how she's been... She responds with short, flippant answers. Later that day she runs into him again with a crowd of people around she attempts to ignore him but he calls out for her. She turns around and says hi and notices other people are watching their exchange. One particular woman has this look of surprise/confusion. Well.... Turns out not only is he married... But he is married to someone who works for her company..... A co-worker. Not long after these public exchanges ... She begins to get unexplained "eye rolls" , stares and "disses". It took her months to figure out where this tension stemmed from (cause no one has ever told her about his wife or anything about him). Well, Ms. Wifey who always worked in close proximity of my friend was spreading rumors and building alliances against my friend, as if an affair was going on. Without my friend even knowing anything. So very recently out of the sheer frustration from dealing with Ms. Wifey and her shenanigans (& for vengeance) she agreed to go out to dinner with Mr. Player ( he continued to publicly pursue her at work ). She had hoped he would come clean and tell her everything but instead he just wanted to take things further. Since, I once worked for the company I can describe the atmosphere... If you wonder how uncomfortable this situation can be...Since, most of Wifey's friends/co-workers/ posse are probably those she once managed, this group can be un-professional and ruthless. Wifey even managed to turn mutual co-workers/friends against her. Although my friend can hold her own... I don't think it's fair what she has had to endure. So, how should she handle this?
