MissYocairis
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You're an inspiration. Sorry i have no advice but wanted to give *hugs*
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You're an inspiration. Sorry i have no advice but wanted to give *hugs*
Yes, my husband is Causcacian. He does work over in the Phillipines at times because this is were his business partner is from.
I really do believe my husband has no preference in the color of women.
I did leave. Took my girls and told him I would be back when I could think clearly. I feel better already just getting out of the environment.
I broke down and told my friend of 17 years.
I was scared because they are strong Christians very strict in their practices and thier children have been friends with my girls since they were born. She understood me.
I feel bad because I am concern about how they will think of him now.
Trust me I will be no fool where this is concerned. I needed to get away and pray and think.
(your siggy ain't right shock)
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The story he told did make some since and some didn't. For that reason it is all a LIE.
His business partner and friend show him a lap top of one of their biggest clients who is a friend as well. Evidently the client is having an affair and this is the girl.
My husband decides to upload the pictures after having his business partner tell him not to.
Why upload the pictures. I don't know.
He inturn goes back to work and their is a guy or guys who talk junk about women. One in particular he claims is angry and pissed because he has been through a nasty divorce. Claims all American women are greedy and selfish.
This when my husband states well some women in other countries aren't like that heres one I know and takes out the photo of the girl.
He says he didn't say anything, just smiled and allow the guys to weave their own story.
Me being upset and angry calls his business partner for answer to verify some of the story. The business partner is now mad because I know about the pictures and want answer. He fears that I will keep calling people and expose his major client of having an affair.
Therefore, losing money.
Anyway, I asked my husband at what time did he think it was okay. And why would he want to relate and weave himself into this group when he complains about them being jerks, losers, idiots. Whats does that make you? He said it was just a joke.
That he had never had an affair or any other sexual contact with her or any other women..
That he hadn't even met her.
I don't know what to believe. But I do know that what he did I can't forget. Even if he had cheated he still disrepected me and himself, his family. I ask him why didn't he stop to think about the consequences. He said he didn't know. It was just something he did.
My mind is going crazy because I know there is more to it. And I can't live with that.
I was confused reading that. Not because of you, but because the story was simply outlandish. It reminds me of high school.
However, if his story is true, it sounds as if your husband is bored. Not particularly with you, but with life. He has created an imginary world in which this young girl is in an ilicit affair with him. He needs help.
I have one question though...and you do not have to answer of course...
But when you say that he is "far from a Christian" what does that mean? Does he do things a man possesed by Satan would do, like killing small animals for pleasure? Or is he far from a Christian in the "I practice another religion" way?
I asked because the way I read it sounds like there are major issues other than looking at nude photos.
There was another thread on here with a woman finding k-y in her bedroom. The hubby claimed his FRIEND needed a place to have affairs and did it in their home so that's where the stuff is from. What's that about?
Sterry, (((hugs)))) I hope everything is well and this all works out for you. I'm concerned with the name calling. No man should ever call his wife out of her name. There is a certain level of respect that he should have for you as his wife and it seems that he does not. I do not have any advice because it seems that most of the ladies have given great advice. I will say that you do not deserve to be called out of your name by your own husband. You are the mother of his children. If anything he should have respect for you from that aspect.
Name calling. My husband does not call me derogatory names. But showing photos of another person is very disrespectful. I can't get passed that.
Why would he want someone to think he is having an affair.
He talked about not feeling appreciated and respected.I told him he had to appreciate and respect himself first. And how is he doing this by having everyone believe that he is a dog, a coward.
I can not gather this story.
I think he is going through a mid life crisis. Perhaps he feels I dont desire him anymore, so he made up this outlandish story so he could feel like he still had it. Like he could still get the girl. He said he felt neglected and not needed. That he has done so much for me and I never stroke his ego.
Bull, You see. Now I know why I like that show "Snapped" He really doesn't like me watching that show. I think he is afraid I will find the one where the women got away with the crime and repeat it.
Name calling. My husband does not call me derogatory names. But showing photos of another person is very disrespectful. I can't get passed that.
Why would he want someone to think he is having an affair.
He talked about not feeling appreciated and respected. I told him he had to appreciate and respect himself first. And how is he doing this by having everyone believe that he is a dog, a coward.
I can not gather this story.
I think he is going through a mid life crisis. Perhaps he feels I dont desire him anymore, so he made up this outlandish story so he could feel like he still had it. Like he could still get the girl. He said he felt neglected and not needed. That he has done so much for me and I never stroke his ego.
Bull, You see. Now I know why I like that show "Snapped" He really doesn't like me watching that show. I think he is afraid I will find the one where the women got away with the crime and repeat it.
Thanks ladies.
We talked again.
He said it was more like the guys knew he didn't do anything because it didn't fit his nature.
He claims as they were saying.....yeah man right like you did something he laughed it off.
He says it was just a joke. He didn't want me to take the blame for his actions. He knew it was wrong and understands.
He says the reason why no one talks about their wives this way is because wives and daughters are off limits when you are goofing off. He says he realized it was in bad taste and understands that if it was a boyfriend of our daughter or husband doing this he too would be pissed.
He told me to take whatever time I needed and it was up to him to make this right.
He just didn't think about the consequences.