Overly Complimentary Men- Why do they annoy me?
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FlowerHair
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MzLady78 said:Girl you are too much!!!
He was trying to get me to come over to his place, cause I was telling him I haven't watched Desperate Housewives since The Sopranos came back on. Apparently he's a big fan and DVRs it. I'm like damn, can a sista at least get dinner before you try to have me all up in your house. I don't even know you!!
Ill admit, the tickler thing had me a little intrigued, but not that much.
Why is a man a big fan of Desperate Housewifes?
And what do I hear about triplets and a pending divorce
Wow! this man really needs to stop going out until he has sorted out some things
sunnydaze
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FlowerHair said:Why is a man a big fan of Desperate Housewifes?
And what do I hear about triplets and a pending divorce
Wow! this man really needs to stop going out until he has sorted out some things
Yea...MzLady had me up until the above sentence...he's not even worth discussing now!
Hidden_Angel
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Alright I'm gonna go clean up cause I'm acting a hot mess up in here.. Lordly..
ScandalousBeauty
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I hate this! It's flat out corny. When guys do this to me, I cut them off. It makes them look like a clown and, a desperate clown at that. 
erplexed
erplexed
MzLady78
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FlowerHair said:Why is a man a big fan of Desperate Housewifes?
And what do I hear about triplets and a pending divorce
Wow! this man really needs to stop going out until he has sorted out some things
Yeah, basically. When he told me was in the process of divorcing, he was like "I still gotta live my life". Okay, buddy, I ain't mad at' cha.
Gotta say, the Desperate Housewives thing caught me off guard, lol.
Hidden_Angel
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MzLady78 said:
Because its HIS LIFE in a female version..
FunkyMunky
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I see this in two ways:
1. The guy is running game OR
2. The guy is being sincere and genuine but the girl doesn't know how to accept compliments and someone showing her with constant affection because we as a people always feel a person has an ulterior motive.
We want the guy to love us and talk to us like they do in the movies, compliment us, say how they truly feel, chase us when the relationship is over and when we meet a man that does that we think he is being corny or running game but we stress ourselves over the men that we have to beg to express these things. Dang, a dude can't win for losing.
1. The guy is running game OR
2. The guy is being sincere and genuine but the girl doesn't know how to accept compliments and someone showing her with constant affection because we as a people always feel a person has an ulterior motive.
We want the guy to love us and talk to us like they do in the movies, compliment us, say how they truly feel, chase us when the relationship is over and when we meet a man that does that we think he is being corny or running game but we stress ourselves over the men that we have to beg to express these things. Dang, a dude can't win for losing.
blasianbeauty
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When men used to do this to me, it was a HUGE turn off because it made me feel that they were desperate (if they kept saying it over and over) and desperation is a big turn off. Years ago I talked to a guy on the phone for two weeks and broke it off, told him I didn't want anything to do with him. Do you know that he called me every other week for almost 4 months! He was the "baby you so fine" type, wanted me to meet his family, friends, talked about all kinds of stuff that people talk about when they are in a relationship. Just be careful...
firecracker
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MzLady78 said:Gon' wit'cha bad self, girl!!!! LOL. That's amazing!!
Seriously, like he hasn't asked me anything about my background, my education, where I went to school. He just wants to know when he's gonna see me again and if I'll come over.
Uh sweetie that is why I made my first post. His bs was a dead giveaway. A real man that isn't a cheap skank a-hole knows he has to take you to a neutral setting, spend some time and moola, demonstrate integrity and consideration to be in your presence again. You can talk to him, you just can't f with him sweetie cuz he ain't bout nothin.
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cocosweet
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^^^^what she said!firecracker said:Uh sweetie that is why I made my first post. His bs was a dead giveaway. A real man that isn't a cheap skank a-hole knows he has to take you to a neutral setting, spend some time and moola, demonstrate integrity and consideration to be in your presence again. You can talk to him, you just can't f with him sweetie cuz he ain't bout nothin.
AnnDriena_
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They annoy you for the same reason they annoy me. They seem like snakeoil salesmen. I work at a prison and the officers are like sharks at feeding time. I had one who stopped by my office, made note of my extension, gushed all over me and then called me five minutes later on his way home talking about "you probably don't even remember me do you?" It was 5 minutes, did he think I developed alzheimers? And then the other day he called telling me he was calling just to say hi and that I could use his number he gave me. I can? Gee thanks. He's like a stalker. And I'm sick of him.
Hidden_Angel
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men are dumb 
firecracker
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No sweetie a few are simply too dumb to know any betterHidden_Angel said:men are dumb
. I say tell the fools the truth and shame the devil.
Hidden_Angel
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firecracker said:No sweetie a few are simply too dumb to know any better
Oh speak it! speak! Yes Iknow there some good ones out there but on avg... they dumb as door nobs...
Hidden_Angel
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Bunny77 said:This is how my friend and I ALWAYS end our conversations!!! We'll discuss someone's man or our own men and the silly things they do and then say... the moral of the story is...
Men are dumb. Or men suck.
(but we still love em!)
Yay! glad someone agrees..but i do like them...
BUT DONT YOU TELL ANYONE 
or ill beat that 
MzLady78
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auntysmoky said:
Yeah, we want all those things, but there also needs to be some balance. If he was saying all these things but we were having other meaningful conversations, it be one thing. But as I said earlier, I have to interrogate him to get info. I wonder how long it would have taken for him to mention his kids if I hadn't asked. Or if he would have informed me about marital status if that hadn't been my follow up question when I asked about his kids. I don't need you to spend 15 minutes harping on how good you think I look. This is the getting to know you stage, I don't really feel like he's trying to get to know me. Come on now, what happened to dinner and movie? Why is your first propostion as far as spending time with me coming over to your house to watch a show that I could just as easily watch on my computer?
All this is to say, it's not just the compliments or the niceness that's the issue. It's the absence of other things.
AND THE TRIPLETS!!!!!!!
LOL. Just thought I'd throw that fact in there again.
MzLady78
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firecracker said:Uh sweetie that is why I made my first post. His bs was a dead giveaway. A real man that isn't a cheap skank a-hole knows he has to take you to a neutral setting, spend some time and moola, demonstrate integrity and consideration to be in your presence again. You can talk to him, you just can't f with him sweetie cuz he ain't bout nothin.
You're absolutely right. I'm trying to think of how to tell him that I'm not really feeling him. He called me last night (once again, I told him I had plans) but I missed his call. I'm not in the habit of playing games with people cause I don't like it being done to me, so I need to let him know it's not happening.
firecracker
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MzLady78 said:
I feel you on not playing games. Chile the next times he blows one of his weak *** lines tell him he turned you off big time with those innuendos and bye ****
. Aunt Smoky unfortunately this situation isn't about a guy can't win from losing or speaking his mind. He is trying to get a quick easy lay w/o any courtship or dating. You gotta pay (dates etc) to play. He would have been better off complimenting her and inviting her to a bookstore, coffeeshop, library, park, walk etc which doesn't require much money.
His **** was obvious and lame. Your so cute your so fine could work on someone that has real low self esteem. Uh Mzlady can tell herself she is cute by looking in the darn mirror.
FunkyMunky
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firecracker said:I feel you on not playing games. Chile the next times he blows one of his weak *** lines tell him he turned you off big time with those innuendos and bye ****
Aunt Smoky unfortunately this situation isn't about a guy can't win from losing or speaking his mind. He is trying to get a quick easy lay w/o any courtship or dating. You gotta pay (dates etc) to play. He would have been better off complimenting her and inviting her to a bookstore, coffeeshop, library, park, walk etc which doesn't require much money.
His **** was obvious and lame. Your so cute your so fine could work on someone that has real low self esteem. Uh Mzlady can tell herself she is cute by looking in the darn mirror.
My bad I was commenting on overly complimentary men in general not her specific situation.
IMO, not all men are trying to get in a woman's pants at all times. In my experience if a man is romantic and senstive he will tend to be more complimentary and there is nothing wrong with that. The woman may not be able to handle hearing someone think so highly of her. Men want to be understood and have general affection as much as we do and a lot of men aren't getting laid as much as we believe. I think the belief that men are always on the make is a common misconception about the male species, especially when a man has moved past his childish ways and feels he has found a woman that he may think is all of that and a bag of chips.
MzLady78
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auntysmoky said:
ITA with this on the whole and would never claim otherwise. I know guys that really want to have meaningful relationships and are having just as hard a time as the women I know.
It just so happens I don't think this is the case in this situation
. I could be wrong, but our convos, etc. thus far seem to be pointing in that direction.OT: Great progress on your hair!!!
MzLady78
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OMG- Why did this dude just call me?
My cell phone rang, I didn't recognize the number but I answered. He's like Hi ________? I'm like who is this? He's goes it's so and so, we met at the bar a few months back.
I had to search for this thread cause I knew it was more than a few months- it was damn near a year!!!!!erplexed
I told him I was work, he said he'd call me later.
I guess that whole theory on men loving bytches is right, cause I'll admit I was not very nice to this dude- and look, a year later I'm still on his mind.
Men.
My cell phone rang, I didn't recognize the number but I answered. He's like Hi ________? I'm like who is this? He's goes it's so and so, we met at the bar a few months back.
I had to search for this thread cause I knew it was more than a few months- it was damn near a year!!!!!
erplexedI told him I was work, he said he'd call me later.
I guess that whole theory on men loving bytches is right, cause I'll admit I was not very nice to this dude- and look, a year later I'm still on his mind.
Men.
Divine Inspiration
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@ him popping up. Men kill me with that "Oh, it was a few weeks ago..." when it was indeed years ago! And I'm even harder at the fact that this dude said he was going to call you later! Whew...can't wait to hear how THAT goes. MzLady78: Hello?
Mr GirlUSoFine: Hey, what's up?
MzLady78: Um, I was just about to organize my sock drawer. Can I call you back?
Lame Dude08: Yeah, thas coo.
Fast forward to December 12, 2008...
MzLady78: Hello?
Mr GirlUSoFine: Hey sexy. I was calling to see what chu been doin? We ain't talked in a few weeks.
MzLady78: Uh, I'm in the middle of something.
Mr GirlUSoFine: What chu doin' for Christmas?
MzLady78: Nothing that involves you.
Mr GirlUSoFine: I like it when you get feisty.
MzLady78:
***dial tone***
Mr GirlUSoFine: Hello? Hello?
