***Online Dating Support Thread***
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RoundEyedGirl504
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This guy on POF is running some kind of MLM scam I think LOL! He sent the link to his website and it one of those that never tells you how you're going to make this extra $500 per month, then he had the nerve to ask me if I understood it LOL, yes I did fool, you scamming!
sky_blu
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Ok he's cute and all but I just can't get over that he's not in school but works 3 days a week, 16 hours a week, lives with a roommate, and our conversation consisted of porn and how big my arse is mmmh yeah...this isn't going anywhere. Oh yeah he's my age which is hitting 30 so why?!?!???
tropical-punch
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So I was OKC chatting with this guy last night. He tells me he's been having trouble sleeping lately. I asked him why and he explained that he's been working alot and is sexually frustrated 
erplexed Then he goes on to explain how he's inexperienced in relationships and only been with and kissed 2 or 3 women.
I'm like whoa buddy! TMI. He really turned me off with all that.
erplexed Then he goes on to explain how he's inexperienced in relationships and only been with and kissed 2 or 3 women. I'm like whoa buddy! TMI. He really turned me off with all that.
LifeafterLHCF
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runwaydream
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^^^ you know..i've been trying to wrap my mind around this for awhile now. i asked one guy this question and he said something about how he never thought about having a pic w. a lady friend up being a bad thing and how it was an old pic and he didnt have many to choose from. i told him it sent the wrong message and that a lot of girls with any sense probably passed him up bc of it. he has since took it down. i dont think a lot of guys are smart enough to realize the signal it sends. the pic above is particularly disgusting, altho im not surprised a guy would be dumb enough to put it up.
sky_blu
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GoddessMaker LOL really? Is that BPM or POF? Just rachet on so many levels.
LifeafterLHCF
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SUPER SWEET
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I mean this is just getting on my LAST NERVES!
This right here! Somebody check these stats.erplexed
"In Atlanta there are 15 women to every man. So men can pick and choose any woman they want."
I've heard this 3x tonight.
And NONE of the men are really that HOT. They are avg. and make avg $$$.
This right here! Somebody check these stats.erplexed"In Atlanta there are 15 women to every man. So men can pick and choose any woman they want."
I've heard this 3x tonight. And NONE of the men are really that HOT. They are avg. and make avg $$$.
dm81
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Met with a guy from OKC this evening....we meet at Starbucks. So he orders a hot cocoa, and I get a smoothie...he pays. So there was nowhere to sit in that joint, so we leave and start walking and talking and we find another Starbucks. So I didn't feel comfortable just sitting in there and tell him that I'm going to just get a slice of cake...he says...can you buy me a muffin? I was like....
. So I get MY CAKE...and ask if he wanted some...he says yes.....and we start talking. During our convo he made mention of how beautiful my lips are...erplexed...and how they're so distracting...thinking that $hit is cute.
I really wanted to leave, so anyway he says that we should go to Highline Park, we get there and the $hit is closed. So then he suggests that we go to this bar he likes to go to...but he doesn't drink...he just goes for the ambience. So we get there and I'm like I could go for a drink...he excuses himself to the restroom...
. So I order my drink and when he comes back the waitress asks if he'll have anything...he gets water. So she brings us our drinks and she tells me how much mine costs, $12, and his, $3, this fool only pulls out money for HIS.......
. So I'm like oh hell no...
So he says we should go to a quieter part of the bar, so we're talking and he says "Oh I know this is our first date..." and I'm thinking and our LAST, "but can I kiss you"....I'm like this niggum has the nerve to invite me out to Starbucks only pays for my smoothie, tries to get me to buy him a muffin, and NOT pay for my drink at a bar he suggests we go to and then ask for a kiss....NIGGUMS IS CRAZY Y'ALL!
So I tell him that I do not kiss on first dates, so yeah we continued with small talk and then bounced. I'm so disgusted, but I will send him my courtesy, I had fun but there was no chemistry, good luck with your search text.
Dating is frustrating...
. So I get MY CAKE...and ask if he wanted some...he says yes.....and we start talking. During our convo he made mention of how beautiful my lips are...erplexed...and how they're so distracting...thinking that $hit is cute. I really wanted to leave, so anyway he says that we should go to Highline Park, we get there and the $hit is closed. So then he suggests that we go to this bar he likes to go to...but he doesn't drink...he just goes for the ambience. So we get there and I'm like I could go for a drink...he excuses himself to the restroom...
. So I order my drink and when he comes back the waitress asks if he'll have anything...he gets water. So she brings us our drinks and she tells me how much mine costs, $12, and his, $3, this fool only pulls out money for HIS........ So I'm like oh hell no...So he says we should go to a quieter part of the bar, so we're talking and he says "Oh I know this is our first date..." and I'm thinking and our LAST, "but can I kiss you"....I'm like this niggum has the nerve to invite me out to Starbucks only pays for my smoothie, tries to get me to buy him a muffin, and NOT pay for my drink at a bar he suggests we go to and then ask for a kiss....NIGGUMS IS CRAZY Y'ALL!
So I tell him that I do not kiss on first dates, so yeah we continued with small talk and then bounced. I'm so disgusted, but I will send him my courtesy, I had fun but there was no chemistry, good luck with your search text.
Dating is frustrating...
Glamorous_chic
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^^ i would be upset about that too. i met up with someone from pof and he suggested we meet at the mall, so we meet up there and having a good conversation. he mentions that he's really hungry because he didnt have time to eat breakfast. so, he suggests we go to a wrap/smoothie restaurant, and asks if i want anything. i order something, and as soon as they start making the food, he starts talking about how its mortgage/car note/bill time and money is tight. he then says that he knows how women are and he doesn't want to offend me by paying for my food, since its not officially a "date" i told him, you won't offend me, i prefer you pay for it, then he starts talking more about his bills.... i said if you want me to pay for my own food, i can and will, but don't not pay because you think i'll be upset. i was LIVID. how do you invite me out, then suggest we get food, then ask me if i want food, only to make me pay for my own meal. uggghhh!!! i mean, the meal was only $6, how are you that hard up for money?
I swear..if yall dont start posting some POSITIVE stories!!!
This is RIDICULOUS!!
Right, this thread is almost 100 pages, and I can probably count on one hand the amount of success stories. I'm just taking it as a sign, that as a bw especially, depending heavily on online dating may not be the best strategy.
MizzBrown
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I agree. Its gotten a little too saturated and folks have to just go back to the old fashioned way. GO OUT with your girlfriends, go OUT and do things by yourself as well so that you are approachable and have the type of friends around you that KNOW you are looking so they can be on the lookout for a mate for you to.
Even the stories that started out great, about 4 posts later it ends up being a dud.
tarheelgurl
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I swear..if yall dont start posting some POSITIVE stories!!!
This is RIDICULOUS!!
The guy I met on POF is pretty good so far. He has paid for every meal and any other expenses, he opens all doors, offers to drive everywhere, calls and texts everyday....including good morning messages....I don't have any complaints with him so far and enjoy spending time with him. I'm sure there are others out there. Don't give up......The lakes are full of frogs that you have to step over to catch a fish....
runwaydream
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so i didnt hear from the law student for 2 days and i got sad bc it seemed typical that as soon as i was into someone they would fall off the face of the earth for one reason or the other. and i saw that he's been on so i didnt get what was going on and had decided maybe i should just chalk it up to a loss. but then i remembered a post someone posted on here saying we let men off too easy and that if he's going to bounce for w.e. reason he can at least be upfront about it.
so i msg'd him today and asked if something was wrong. he was very apologetic and told me that the only reason he didnt write sooner was bc he has been busy and didnt have the time to write a long drawn out response like he wanted to. but he wrote a detailed msg answering all of the questions i asked and telling me more about himself. he then gave me his number and asked me to msg or call him to continue the convo. so im pretty happy about that
tho im not sure why im bothering, seeing how he is a student and isnt well established. and in that case im sure he doesnt have much money to take me out
meaning this prob wont get very far. but ill enjoy it for as long as i can.
so i msg'd him today and asked if something was wrong. he was very apologetic and told me that the only reason he didnt write sooner was bc he has been busy and didnt have the time to write a long drawn out response like he wanted to. but he wrote a detailed msg answering all of the questions i asked and telling me more about himself. he then gave me his number and asked me to msg or call him to continue the convo. so im pretty happy about that
tho im not sure why im bothering, seeing how he is a student and isnt well established. and in that case im sure he doesnt have much money to take me out
meaning this prob wont get very far. but ill enjoy it for as long as i can.
dollface0023
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Soooo...I went on my very first OK Cupid date last Friday. I actually went out of my way for the first time on that site and sent out a message to a really handsome red headed actor. He responded and asked me out.
We ended up meeting at this really nice restaurant in Santa Monica and had a fabulous time...or so I thought. He had me cracking up throughout the whole date. My cheeks literally hurt from smiling and laughing so much. I'd like to think that I amused him as well with all the laughing and snorting that he was doing. On that date I realized that he was 42 (Much older than I initially thought he was for some reason) had been married twice (but absolutely wants to do it again) and was on a semi popular TV show for 2 years. Throughout the date he mentioned taking me riding on his motorcycle to one of his favorite places. Which I would think is a good sign that the date is going great.
After we finished our meal we sat at the table for a total of 3 hours straight just talking and laughing. Once we left I maneuvered us to the parking garage because it was getting a little late. This man made every excuse to keep the date going by asking me if I wanted to walk a little more or visit some stores in the area. As we said our good nights we thumb wrestled (Silly I know!) and he kissed me. He even asked me to let him know when I'm available since I'm the one that has a set schedule (He has his own business and gets acting jobs, so his schedule is a little more flexible than mine). I parked on the 3rd level of the garage and took the stairs up. As I was walking up the stairs I saw him walking backwards down the street with his hands in his pockets looking up at me with a dreamy smile on his face. I sighed as I realized that I must have this one in the bag this time. Not even close.
Since that date I've talked to him only once on Tuesday...By text. A text that I had to send him. I have no clue of what could be the issue. I go on these wonderful dates and then nada. I'm going to leave this dude alone because chasing a guy is not the business right now. I want to go out with this guy again, but I'm not comfortable being the one to make the first move. Even though he wanted me to let him know what my schedule is like after our date, I would feel silly texting or even calling him again. Hopefully I hear from him soon, but if not oh well....
We ended up meeting at this really nice restaurant in Santa Monica and had a fabulous time...or so I thought. He had me cracking up throughout the whole date. My cheeks literally hurt from smiling and laughing so much. I'd like to think that I amused him as well with all the laughing and snorting that he was doing. On that date I realized that he was 42 (Much older than I initially thought he was for some reason) had been married twice (but absolutely wants to do it again) and was on a semi popular TV show for 2 years. Throughout the date he mentioned taking me riding on his motorcycle to one of his favorite places. Which I would think is a good sign that the date is going great.
After we finished our meal we sat at the table for a total of 3 hours straight just talking and laughing. Once we left I maneuvered us to the parking garage because it was getting a little late. This man made every excuse to keep the date going by asking me if I wanted to walk a little more or visit some stores in the area. As we said our good nights we thumb wrestled (Silly I know!) and he kissed me. He even asked me to let him know when I'm available since I'm the one that has a set schedule (He has his own business and gets acting jobs, so his schedule is a little more flexible than mine). I parked on the 3rd level of the garage and took the stairs up. As I was walking up the stairs I saw him walking backwards down the street with his hands in his pockets looking up at me with a dreamy smile on his face. I sighed as I realized that I must have this one in the bag this time. Not even close.
Since that date I've talked to him only once on Tuesday...By text. A text that I had to send him. I have no clue of what could be the issue. I go on these wonderful dates and then nada. I'm going to leave this dude alone because chasing a guy is not the business right now. I want to go out with this guy again, but I'm not comfortable being the one to make the first move. Even though he wanted me to let him know what my schedule is like after our date, I would feel silly texting or even calling him again. Hopefully I hear from him soon, but if not oh well....
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Lilac87
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I swear..if yall dont start posting some POSITIVE stories!!!
This is RIDICULOUS!!
I went out on a second date with a guy I met on POF, yesterday. So far, I'm having fun with him! He seems like a really nice guy. He calls when he says he'll call, texts me throughout the day and really likes planning dates for the both of us. He's really considerate when planning the dates too. Like, he found out that I love Mexican food so now he really wants to take me to this Mexican restaurant that I never been to and he says is really, really good. We may go there next weekend. When we go out, he pays for everything and he drives (except for the first date where we actually met at a place instead of going there together).
Yesterday, we went to look at some puppies because he's been thinking about getting a dog and afterwards we ate at Buffalo Wild Wings (because he found out I hadn't been there since college) and then we went to an amusement park (we're both big kids lol). He says he loves roller coasters, as do I, but I think he's low-key scared of them because after we rode one, I saw tears coming out of his eyes. I was like, what's wrong with chu?? Why are you crying?!
Anyway, like I said, so far, so good. I still carry my pepper spray just in case he turns out to be crazy or something during these first several dates. That way, I'll at least have a minimal form of defense lol!
I just hope that I don't get to nit-picking about things about him. I tend to do this with guys after a while and I'm really trying to adopt the 'nobody's perfect' mentality because nit-picking is what has kept me single in the past.
Keshieshimmer
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I just googled and apparently the ratio is closer subtracting the gay male population. 209K women to 206K men.I mean this is just getting on my LAST NERVES!
"In Atlanta there are 15 women to every man. So men can pick and choose any woman they want."
And NONE of the men are really that HOT. They are avg. and make avg $$$.
Shay72
Natural, 4A
Okay I've been doing this for a little over a month now. I'm on OKC, Match, POF, BBPeopleMeet, and True.True I will never officially join. I ain't paying like $60/month. What's crazy is I got 115 messages and/or winks before I even uploaded my pics on True .I've talked to guys on OKC, Match, and POF. I've talked to alot of guys and once you get them on the phone they are quick to ask you out. I've only agreed to 2 dates and went on 1. I cancelled one because he was acting a bit stalkerish. He still texts me daily 
. The one date I went on was a bust. We both knew in 5 minutes it was a bust. I started talking to a guy today but that ended with the quickness bc I figured out he was only looking for FWB and he already has a few FWB going on now. No thank you.
I've decided I can't deal with the build up. If the guy asks me out during the first phone convo I will say yes and we will go the next day or within that week. I don't feel like wasting my time with all the talking then getting disappointed.
.I've talked to guys on OKC, Match, and POF. I've talked to alot of guys and once you get them on the phone they are quick to ask you out. I've only agreed to 2 dates and went on 1. I cancelled one because he was acting a bit stalkerish. He still texts me daily . The one date I went on was a bust. We both knew in 5 minutes it was a bust. I started talking to a guy today but that ended with the quickness bc I figured out he was only looking for FWB and he already has a few FWB going on now. No thank you.I've decided I can't deal with the build up. If the guy asks me out during the first phone convo I will say yes and we will go the next day or within that week. I don't feel like wasting my time with all the talking then getting disappointed.
SuchMagnificent
Taking a Break from Posting
Just had a really nice conversation with a guy from blackpeoplemeet..I went outside and I missed a phone call from him..I called him back, no answer...I hope he calls back...I like what I heard so far...We have similiar interests..*crosses fingers*
sky_blu
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Mayn I forgot about BPM...I haven't been on there in awhile. A looonnggg time ago I met this guy on there who wanted to more than friends but I thought we should just be friends. He ended up logging into my account and sending out winks and replies to a bunch of guys under it. Well I cant prove it was him but I have my reasons for believing it was. I ended up closing the account out and haven't been back since.
cocomochaa
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Okay I've been doing this for a little over a month now. I'm on OKC, Match, POF, BBPeopleMeet, and True.True I will never officially join. I ain't paying like $60/month. What's crazy is I got 115 messages and/or winks before I even uploaded my pics on True
I've decided I can't deal with the build up. If the guy asks me out during the first phone convo I will say yes and we will go the next day or within that week. I don't feel like wasting my time with all the talking then getting disappointed.
Yes this is my approach. I cannot be bothered to get to know you for ages, back and forthing online then 3weeks of phone conversation. Who's got time for all of that?!UPdate...
So far my dating confidence has improved. I'm less shy talking to guys and I care less. Meaning I'm not watching my phone checking to see if 'he' has called me. Multiple dating is definately the way forward. I'm having tonnes of fun!! I'm learning so much about myself, what I like, don't like; the general art of conversation.
Sooo... Frenchie, took me to see an orchestra the other day. It was lovely; he got us very good tickets and after we went to the bar which was along the river, had a few drinks and laughed the night away. As we were walking to the train station he suggested I come back to his for champagne *insert side eye gif* I kindly declined his offer and went home. He has since offered to cook me dinner for tomorrow. I've accepted his invitation but i've asked for his address which I will give to my mum and friend. I've also asked my friend to text me every 30min. If I text back, it's all good. If an hour or more goes by no text. Call the police. I'll also restrict my alcohol intake to 1 glass of wine.
Braziliano...I was supposed to meet him friday just gone but frenchie had offered to take me out. I was planning to cancel on Braziliano but he didn't call/text me from sat-fri. Friday evening came and he's like hey blah blah blah. Send me a pic...Yeah, I'm not really feeling him anymore. He's hot but the whole possibly knowing my ex and big ego is too much work. I just wanted him because he looked good lol.
Wine guy...So Mr wine (eharmony) took me out yesterday to a 1Michelin Star restaurant Amazing food. He was a little difficult with the convo at first. But once he relaxed they convo flowed better. No sparks for me though.
Keshieshimmer
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So this guy who is a 2-Pac look-a-like with dreads messaged me. Funny thing is that I saw him and decided to message him before I knew he contacted me.
Anyways he has nothing on his profile (which is why I asked him about himself) he responded with this
Um maybe I am just being pissy but this seems to be a typical answer from young black men as if I should be impressed that they have a car, place to live and no kids. I expect that, even if that is becoming less common. Ugh and don't get me started on the 'dat', and 'sumone'.
He is sexy though, I am surprised because I usually don't like dreads.
Anyways he has nothing on his profile (which is why I asked him about himself) he responded with this
Um maybe I am just being pissy but this seems to be a typical answer from young black men as if I should be impressed that they have a car, place to live and no kids. I expect that, even if that is becoming less common. Ugh and don't get me started on the 'dat', and 'sumone'.
He is sexy though, I am surprised because I usually don't like dreads.
SUPER SWEET
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Keshieshimmer[USER][/USER]
Just sleep with him
Ok, my real answer. Chat a lil more and see what he's about. The online is hard because we visiualize tone, speech and other stuff.
runwaydream
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tarheelgurl
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I went on date #6 from POF for lunch today. It was meh....his looks were meh, the conversation was meh, his attitude was meh.
No connection there at all for me. But I guess he did fill some time while POF guy #5 is out of town....we really have a good connection. Well, lets see if I can get a #7 and hope he's another good one to hang out with.
No connection there at all for me. But I guess he did fill some time while POF guy #5 is out of town....we really have a good connection. Well, lets see if I can get a #7 and hope he's another good one to hang out with.
Shay72
Natural, 4A
Around these parts I like to know that upfront. Alot of these guys are living with roomates and family members. A car, job, and own place are musts for me. Old as I am you would think that would be easy to find but it's not. It's expensive here so I guess that explains some of the living situations.
