***Online Dating Support Thread***

Hi Ladies:hiya3:.

I'm new to online dating thingy. I joined eharmony last month and pof a couple weeks ago.
So far...
eharmony: 3 notable guys.

Numero uno we'll call him frenchie. French white Lawyer who studied law in Boston and lived in new york for 3 years. Just moved here in Jan. He's 6'0 (yay) and cute. Not as hot as my ex but cute none the less. He's into the arts and we talk about opera and ballet. He's invited me to see a ballet film on sunday as well as brunch. He's very witty. Fingers crossed he's not too reserved. :perplexed. I find with him i'm extra extra vigilant with my grammar (excuse the mistakes here, I just can't be bothered to be consistent).

The other 2 not so much to talk about.
pof: Blahhhhh...Soooooooo many hits; no-one like frenchie though. For me its kinda like an ego boost.

General Consensus: I personally think black women are the bomb diggidy at the minute with the non-blacks. 95% of men messaging me are white. Maybe it's just London but I'm being to get super excited when i see a black face in the message box:lachen:.
 
Guy on pof. Started speaking yesterday. He's funny.:lachen:
Original Message YOU sent on 9/8/2011 1:08:11 PM
Wow. I think I might play the lottery tomorrow lol


yeah play the lottery. i hate the way you see it advertised
'estimated jackpot'
I didn't know that was estimated. That would suck if you
won and it turned out the estimation was off by a few
zeros.
'we estimate you must be angry'


ok that was just ridiculous
 
cocomochaa said:
Guy on pof. Started speaking yesterday. He's funny.:lachen:
Original Message YOU sent on 9/8/2011 1:08:11 PM
Wow. I think I might play the lottery tomorrow lol


yeah play the lottery. i hate the way you see it advertised
'estimated jackpot'
I didn't know that was estimated. That would suck if you
won and it turned out the estimation was off by a few
zeros.
'we estimate you must be angry'


ok that was just ridiculous
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i'm not 100% positive but i'm almost certain that is a Mitch Hedberg joke.:look:
 
Do yall get a lot of white guys messaging you too?

Why the white boys don't give me any play in real life? :lol:

They stay hittin' me up online though. I asked a guy and he said it's cause they are too scared to approach in real life. The walls come down when online & they have no problem speaking up.

I don't know if i'm quite ready to date out but i'd like to be approached in real life..I wonder if I give off a look or dont bother keeping their gaze because I dont gravitate to whtie first. Always black. Hmmm...
 
Omg. Forget online dating. I shut off my ok cupid 2 days ago and I am about to shut off match.com. Eureka, I have unlocked the secret! If you don't live in NYC or DC you are sh*t outta luck! I'm meeting my next husband this year and it will not be online!!
 
LivingDol1 said:
Omg. Forget online dating. I shut off my ok cupid 2 days ago and I am about to shut off match.com. Eureka, I have unlocked the secret! If you don't live in NYC or DC you are sh*t outta luck! I'm meeting my next husband this year and it will not be online!!
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Huh? How did you come to this conclusion? And I thought you lived in NYC?
 
lushcoils said:
Huh? How did you come to this conclusion? And I thought you lived in NYC?
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Let's just say I have a "socialista" in my corner. Online dating allows people to peek at each other and make straight up assumptions before having the in person first impression experience. I am notoriously picky so after I meet a guy I emailed with online, I am more inclined to ditch him if he doesn't meet how I pictured him in real life. I have to force myself into social situations in order to meet guys. The in-person first impression is detrimental. So, I am glad I have unlocked it. I can't be successful at online dating. I need the experience of meeting in person on the fly. At least I learned something from my lackluster online experiences!!
 
Frenchie (he's 31 btw) studied Law at Harvard:headspin:.I like them smart. I pray he's not really 5'4 with some sort of weird fetish. We're meeting for brunch in a very nice restaurant come sunday.
There's another on eharmony called Ted. He's 26, American (I love American men:bdance:) BUT just moved to Belgium. I'm really not one for LD but he's super cute. He can be my penpal if anything.

Ladies what's your take on age gaps? My ex is 30, I was 23 (24 now) when we dated and that's the largest gap I've ever had. There's a nice (seemingly) 37 on pof that I've been speaking to. Is that too much?:perplexed
 
Funniest thing I've read on POF even though i'm super confused:

. I played the trumpet for twelve years and haven't picked one up in twelve years, is that now negated? I do the stanky leg, crank that soulja boy and can teach you how to dougie. Io parlo italiano così se lei fa anche, ciò è buono. My buddy met a sexy, smart girl on here and I'm sure anyone can imagine meeting an awesome person that they really want to get to know better. I've never had unprotected sex, and I'm not gonna start with your black a## so don't even ask. I think retards are funny. Diarrhea is the single funniest word in the English language. Why on earth would any woman get a tattoo on her breast? I've called into radio talk shows to give "the black perspective".
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by the way, this is all coming from a white guy lol.
 
:yep: getting contacted by the white boys and I say boys because some of them as young as 23 yo and I'm 39 yo. I'm being told they like the curves. Also getting really old dudes like from far away. I'm like really I ain't moving nowhere.
 
MizzBrown said:
Do yall get a lot of white guys messaging you too?

Why the white boys don't give me any play in real life? :lol:

They stay hittin' me up online though. I asked a guy and he said it's cause they are too scared to approach in real life. The walls come down when online & they have no problem speaking up.

I don't know if i'm quite ready to date out but i'd like to be approached in real life..I wonder if I give off a look or dont bother keeping their gaze because I dont gravitate to whtie first. Always black. Hmmm...
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i'd say 98% of my messages are from white doods. at first i thought there were very few black men in my area on OKC but turns out they just weren't messaging me.:lachen:yts are more likely to approach me irl life too but it's usually very subtle.

black men only step to me at the club.:look::lachen:
 
:cry3:So I just back from my date with frenchie.
We went to a nice Italian restaurant he picked out. We laughed, joked and chatted for two hours; we really got along. We went to the cinema to see the Pena ballet film and then he walked me to my bus stop. As a date it went really well. He wants to take me to the Opera next. The only problem is...

He's not fine. :sad:. For a 31 year old he's slightly balding up top. I did not want to pounch on him. He is 6'0 as he stated in his profile which is good. :whyme:Like I meet a guy that's potentially perfect and I'm not attracted to him :(

I'll go on another date and look at his positives.
 
cocomochaa

I, personally, don't really care about age gaps as long as we connect at the core. We don't have to agree on everything, but I want to share perspectives on the value of deep relationships of various kinds and the value of a human life. No Eeyore or laissez-fairre attitudes, as I believe life is what we make of it, partially because of how we choose to view it. I also believe in giving back, so... that's a must.

Things like age or thinning hair? Well, one must decide what works for oneself alone. But, some men go bald at 35. So, who knows what you'll end up with? This moment in time is forever changing, but if thinning hair now is a roadblock, then maybe you two arent right for each other.

Sidenote: my friend just turned 24 and her bf is 37. They're really happy together and seem to make a good team. He's successful and secure enough to allow her her own successes with his encouragement and genuine support. That's the reason I tend to prefer a guy that is about 5 - 10 years older than I am.

I had an amazing lunch date with a guy yesterday. He is 39, I am 25! But, personality-wise everything is there. I think, his hair is also thinning. I actually had to think about the age gap and potential differences. He's also in a significantly different tax bracket and has traveled all over the world. But, he's such a good man. Even if we don't work out, he really is a good, giving man. So... I'll leap. And hope for the best.

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EtherealEnigma said:
@cocomochaa

I, personally, don't really care about age gaps as long as we connect at the core. We don't have to agree on everything, but I want to share perspectives on the value of deep relationships of various kinds and the value of a human life. No Eeyore or laissez-fairre attitudes, as I believe life is what we make of it, partially because of how we choose to view it. I also believe in giving back, so... that's a must.

Things like age or thinning hair? Well, one must decide what works for oneself alone. But, some men go bald at 35. So, who knows what you'll end up with? This moment in time is forever changing, but if thinning hair now is a roadblock, then maybe you two arent right for each other.

Sidenote: my friend just turned 24 and her bf is 37. They're really happy together and seem to make a good team. He's successful and secure enough to allow her her own successes with his encouragement and genuine support. That's the reason I tend to prefer a guy that is about 5 - 10 years older than I am.

I had an amazing lunch date with a guy yesterday. He is 39, I am 25! But, personality-wise everything is there. I think, his hair is also thinning. I actually had to think about the age gap and potential differences. He's also in a significantly different tax bracket and has traveled all over the world. But, he's such a good man. Even if we don't work out, he really is a good, giving man. So... I'll leap. And hope for the best.

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I hear you. Thank you for your perspective. As we get on so well, I won't rule him out.

Fingers crossed for you and your guy!
 
Just when I was about to venture into The Land of the Clears to find me a man, I rec'd this in my inbox: you are gorgeous! love a sexy, thick, curvy woman w/BIG tits ( . Y . ) 's, fat *** & thick thighs. especially when they are into white guys. i'd def like to see more of you & those curves, care to share????


Why me Lawrd??!:whyme:
 
kweenameena said:
Just when I was about to venture into The Land of the Clears to find me a man, I rec'd this in my inbox: you are gorgeous! love a sexy, thick, curvy woman w/BIG tits ( . Y . ) 's, fat *** & thick thighs. especially when they are into white guys. i'd def like to see more of you & those curves, care to share????


Why me Lawrd??!:whyme:
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Oh no he didn't :lachen:
 
kweenameena said:
Just when I was about to venture into The Land of the Clears to find me a man, I rec'd this in my inbox: you are gorgeous! love a sexy, thick, curvy woman w/BIG tits ( . Y . ) 's, fat *** & thick thighs. especially when they are into white guys. i'd def like to see more of you & those curves, care to share????


Why me Lawrd??!:whyme:
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Wow he was that bold? :lachen::lachen::lol::lol:
 
Ok so I joined POF Saturday and out of well over 100 messages I've only gotten 3 inappropriate ones... This one takes the cake:

Beautiful pix. I will be upfront and honest...Im married. 32, white, athletic, cute (I have pix to prove it) LOL... So I will be in Chicago from Oct 25-27 but leaving early the 28th. Im in town for some training for work but I will be free in the evenings. I thought I might try and find a friend for while I am there. Decided to look and your profile caught my eye (would love to see some more pix)

So, I will have a hotel to myself. Just so you know ahead of time :) Let me know if this is something you might be interested in and I can send some pix and we can get to know each other before I make the trip up there :) Hope to hear from you soon!

btw, I didn't mean to offend you if I have. So I apologize ahead of time, I am sure I am looking for a needle in the haystack but you did catch my eye and I had to see if you were open to something like this.
 
All4Tris said:
Ok so I joined POF Saturday and out of well over 100 messages I've only gotten 3 inappropriate ones... This one takes the cake:

Beautiful pix. I will be upfront and honest...Im married. 32, white, athletic, cute (I have pix to prove it) LOL... So I will be in Chicago from Oct 25-27 but leaving early the 28th. Im in town for some training for work but I will be free in the evenings. I thought I might try and find a friend for while I am there. Decided to look and your profile caught my eye (would love to see some more pix)

So, I will have a hotel to myself. Just so you know ahead of time :) Let me know if this is something you might be interested in and I can send some pix and we can get to know each other before I make the trip up there :) Hope to hear from you soon!

btw, I didn't mean to offend you if I have. So I apologize ahead of time, I am sure I am looking for a needle in the haystack but you did catch my eye and I had to see if you were open to something like this.
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:huh: wtf is this?? Go on craigslist you nasty bastard!
 
All4Tris said:
Ok so I joined POF Saturday and out of well over 100 messages I've only gotten 3 inappropriate ones... This one takes the cake:

Beautiful pix. I will be upfront and honest...Im married. 32, white, athletic, cute (I have pix to prove it) LOL... So I will be in Chicago from Oct 25-27 but leaving early the 28th. Im in town for some training for work but I will be free in the evenings. I thought I might try and find a friend for while I am there. Decided to look and your profile caught my eye (would love to see some more pix)

So, I will have a hotel to myself. Just so you know ahead of time :) Let me know if this is something you might be interested in and I can send some pix and we can get to know each other before I make the trip up there :) Hope to hear from you soon!

btw, I didn't mean to offend you if I have. So I apologize ahead of time, I am sure I am looking for a needle in the haystack but you did catch my eye and I had to see if you were open to something like this.
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What did you say to him? Cause I would have let him know......:ohwell:
 
I just replied..."No Way!!!" I thought about saying "I feel sorry for your wife," but I didn't want to prompt him to reply! What a jerk!
 
All4Tris said:
Ok so I joined POF Saturday and out of well over 100 messages I've only gotten 3 inappropriate ones... This one takes the cake:

Beautiful pix. I will be upfront and honest...Im married. 32, white, athletic, cute (I have pix to prove it) LOL... So I will be in Chicago from Oct 25-27 but leaving early the 28th. Im in town for some training for work but I will be free in the evenings. I thought I might try and find a friend for while I am there. Decided to look and your profile caught my eye (would love to see some more pix)

So, I will have a hotel to myself. Just so you know ahead of time :) Let me know if this is something you might be interested in and I can send some pix and we can get to know each other before I make the trip up there :) Hope to hear from you soon!

btw, I didn't mean to offend you if I have. So I apologize ahead of time, I am sure I am looking for a needle in the haystack but you did catch my eye and I had to see if you were open to something like this.
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HA! I didn't know white guys used the word "friend" too! :lachen:

I wonder if his wife is black?

If you reconsider going to meet him, there is a thread in OT talking about how to be a 'respectable' jumpoff/mistress :lachen::spinning:
 
POF is amazing for the self confidence it really is. (Not that I need made attention to feel confident but it helps).

I've had old old men, young young men and loads of inbetweeners. I've exchanged numbers with two guys and have a date with a lawyer this week.

At the minute I'm torn between dating for marriage and just dating to get out the house.

Frechie sent me a message today and said:

"I really enjoyed our date. You were my first one and honestly speaking I feel like I don't want to go on dates with anyone else!"
 
qchelle said:
HA! I didn't know white guys used the word "friend" too! :lachen:

I wonder if his wife is black?

If you reconsider going to meet him, there is a thread in OT talking about how to be a 'respectable' jumpoff/mistress :lachen::spinning:
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Lol... I'm definitely not interested. I've never dated a white guy and being a white guys jumpoff surely won't be my first experience!

I agree with the previous poster about POF... The men there are not shy at all! I actually talked to one guy I met on the phone... We talked for quite some time and he seems cool... We'll see!
 
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