***Online Dating Support Thread***

Are you on more than one online dating site at a time......my Match special is over in August but I think I'm ready to move on.

I really think it helps to be a "NEWBIE" .....so I would only join and stay active for a few months at a time. Also, before I leave a delete all my photos so that I don't come up in any searches.
 
None of the black guys who message me are much cuter so it's all the same to me. Don't let me start posting them :look: :lol: Oh, one guy who was really cute was the crazy European dude I mentioned some pages back but he made me want to :barf:
 
lmaoo...I can only imagine, I only got one message from a black guy who was kind of cute and he was a boxer/model from the UK...but when I looked at the rest of his pictures, I got a gay vibe...

no luck
 
geishagrrl24 said:
Do you guys find it hard to attract the type of guys you like of a different race? I always get older men or men that I would never look at twice in person. However, the men that are my type never really contact me. I don't know if it is because they are not attracted to my race or don't think I would like them OR they don't think i'm attractive.

It's very frustrating sometimes, lol. Do you guys have a men from other races that are your type contact you?
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totally misssed this post, but yes, yes...this is my situation...the attractive ones never message me, but theres not that many of them:nono:
 
I only think the last guy and the guy on the right are cute enough that I would look at them and not feel like I was compromising on their looks. I would post pics of black guys, but since I may get stuck having to leave those up if the other poster doesn't remove them, I don't want that to happen again posting some other people's pics.
 
Wow your pics are cute! and way better looking then the men I get. I don't get it when I look at like afroromance they say they SPECIFY black woman only. I'm like if they aren't picking us and they want us...who? lol I've gotten a little depressed over it.lol
 
the guy with the Arthur name tag and the guy below him are very cute, imo.:yep: or is that the same person?:lol: to be honest though, most of those guys run circles around the doods that message me.:(:lol:

Do you guys find it hard to attract the type of guys you like of a different race? I always get older men or men that I would never look at twice in person. However, the men that are my type never really contact me. I don't know if it is because they are not attracted to my race or don't think I would like them OR they don't think i'm attractive.

It's very frustrating sometimes, lol. Do you guys have a men from other races that are your type contact you?
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i find it hard to attract the type i like of any race. the fatties love me though!:lachen:

Shia LaBeouf/John Cho/Jay Alexander are my non-black types and they never message me. more like Michael Cera/Hiro Nakamura/George Lopez types.:lachen:
 
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They're okay looking to me overall. 4/5 ish. I would give some of them a chance if they met my personality, job/school, and other requirements.
 
Arthur is Mexican and the guy below him is Indian.

I think in general I actually may have gotten messaged by cuter guys on pof, but something was always wrong with them so that I wouldn't have dated them anyway (usually way too young or had no education or job)
 
I got a hispanic/middle eastern doc, wanting to meet me, but he's marriage minded and very serious about it. I find that very intimidating, but a part of me thinks it's hypocritical to say i'm not looking for marriage but am looking for a serious relationship :ohwell: marriage is the ultimate serious relationship right?
 
Afroromance is one of the worst. Mostly older European men preying on younger bw. I wouldn't waste my money unless that's what you are looking for.
 
lushcoils said:
They're okay looking to me overall. 4/5 ish. I would give some of them a chance if they met my personality, job/school, and other requirements.
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Yikes. You think so? Your standards are quite a bit higher than mine....

black dudes (PLEASE DON'T QUOTE):bye guys
 
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mischka said:
black dudes (PLEASE DON'T QUOTE)

but i did think these two guys were :lick:
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*sighs* i didn't find any of them attractive.:( i know i'll probably get stoned for this and i'm embarrassed to even admit it to myself but i think i have higher standards for black guys vs. white guys, but only when it comes to looks. this is why i try to stay silent on the "black men only wanna date black women when they look like Halle Berry" debates. i feel like such a self-hating racist. :cry:

i tend to be mostly attracted to average looking white guys but most of the black guys i wanna :lick: are Jesse Williams, Will Smith, Lance Gross waaay (imo) above average types.

i'm so ashamed. *flees into the darkness*
 
I just don't think in general men can be gorgeous like women can so I don't have excessively high standards when it comes to looks. Even the celebrity men that I think are good looking can be argued to be not that attractive by some women (probably except Zac Efron. He's pretty). For example I don't think any of the celebrity black men you mentioned are above average (especially Will Smith who I like but just don't think is very attractive.) If you got a cute face and a good body, you're good in my book.
 
:lachen: shame on y'all. Yet I'm the one who gets a bad rap as a white kang luver....

I mean those first four guys were legitimately :barf: but those last two guys are cute. I mean I'm not Halle Berry so I can't go running around demanding Gabriel Aubry :lol:
 
Victorian said:
ETA: I think what the guy is doing/the persona he gives off in the pic has A LOT to do with my impressions...and I'm not turned on by thugishness, so I think that's why a lot of the bm who email/wink at me get the side-eye. Like, the second to last dude and a couple of the other dudes I think are good-looking, but I am not attracted to them at all, for other reasons.
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The smoking turned me off too but when I read his profile he's a cool dude that I would hang out with. I wouldn't date him because that's just asking for trouble but I would definitely go out with him.
 
mischka said:
I just don't think in general men can be gorgeous like women can so I don't have excessively high standards when it comes to looks. Even the celebrity men that I think are good looking can be argued to be not that attractive by some women (probably except Zac Efron. He's pretty). For example I don't think any of the celebrity black men you mentioned are above average (especially Will Smith who I like but just don't think is very attractive.) If you got a cute face and a good body, you're good in my book.
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that's just the thing, though; i don't have excessively high standards when it comes to looks. i would get my *** handed to me on a platter if i showed y'all a pic of a guy i was jonesin' over last year.:nono: my friend said he looked like a homeless frog but i thought he was sooooo adorbz with his scruffy hair and 5 o'clock shadow. hell, i think Drake is sexy.:look: but when it comes to black men, i just seem to be super hard on them which really isn't fair.
 
Oasis said:
that's just the thing, though; i don't have excessively high standards when it comes to looks. i would get my *** handed to me on a platter if i showed y'all a pic of a guy i was jonesin' over last year.:nono: my friend said he looked like a homeless frog but i thought he was sooooo adorbz with his scruffy hair and 5 o'clock shadow. hell, i think Drake is sexy.:look: but when it comes to black men, i just seem to be super hard on them which really isn't fair.
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Oasis I would love to see this man. :lol:
 
runwaydream said:
ok.. this isnt really online dating but w.e. i'll post it here anyway. so i can just KICK myself. i saw this HOT guy while I was leaving walmart right? he was coming and i was going. he was maybe 6ft or a little shorter, hispanic, broad chest, muscular, just HOT right? and i accidentally made eye contact with him, but for some insane reason i continued this eye contact, i didnt look away. and he was looking ME in the eye too. so we are just getting closer and closer to each other, looking into each other's eyes. then suddenly i got really flustered and looked away. as he was passing me, he continued to look at me but i turned my head away.

*falls to knees* WHHHHY??!!!!

you see? THIS! scenarios like THIS is the reason I online date. if i'm not the most socially inept person in the entire state of FL idk what i am. all i had to do was smile. but suddenly i was completely unable to even look at him. *curls into ball* FML
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You've got competition with me bb. No matter where I am, I can't even *look* at a guy I think is hot in the eyes. It's horrible! D: Don't even get me started on if they actually approach me... orz

Oasis said:
*sighs* i didn't find any of them attractive.:( i know i'll probably get stoned for this and i'm embarrassed to even admit it to myself but i think i have higher standards for black guys vs. white guys, but only when it comes to looks. this is why i try to stay silent on the "black men only wanna date black women when they look like Halle Berry" debates. i feel like such a self-hating racist. :cry:

i tend to be mostly attracted to average looking white guys but most of the black guys i wanna :lick: are Jesse Williams, Will Smith, Lance Gross waaay (imo) above average types.

i'm so ashamed. *flees into the darkness*
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LOL I'm kind of the same. I think I've only ever found like.... 4 black guys attractive. 1 of those are Lupe Fiasco XD

But yeah... I'm just not that attracted to them so my standard are ridic high in the look department. I don't feel bad about it though since there has to be a physical attraction element... My ex's looks, on the other hand, would get me laughed at (>__>)
 
mischka said:
Yikes. You think so? Your standards are quite a bit higher than mine....

black dudes (PLEASE DON'T QUOTE):bye guys
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Well, I can see how you could find them attractive. Most of them were at least average looking and I'll give average looking a chance.

Don't mind me. I'm still in my pretty boy stage. :lol:

The guy that's into me now is average looking. The way he treats me is making him look soo much better.

Aww, man I missed the black dudes. :sad:
 
I had a pretty boy stage up until a few years ago, and the prettiest guys I dated f*cked my life up the worst. So I definitely had to grow up out of that.

eta: not saying who anyone should or shouldnt date but for me the experiences resulted in horrible trade offs that were not worth dating a gorgeous guy. i used to be lookist like nobody's business but ive had to suffer too many consequences from that that for me i know it's something i no longer value.
 
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