You think so? Maybe I'm taking what he said out of context. Then again after what I just dealt with, or should I say, allowed myself to deal with, I just don't trust myself to pick quality people anymore.shame.
...........it might have rubbed me the wrong way too and i might write him off... depending on how cute he is
very cute boy, 6'6, liked my profile
wants a godly women who will be active with him in the church
it's always something
it might have rubbed me the wrong way too and i might write him off... depending on how cute he is
I need this thread in my life... you all were speaking of arrogance. A little background, I viewed his profile but didn't message.
Him: Always speak?
Me: No
Him: You should speak to me
Me: I don't take orders from men who don't bother to even ask my name. Even dogs don't do that. But other than that why?
Him: I'm a boss
Me: I don't work for you
Needless to say, that did not go anywhere
no he didnt
A 43 year old man that lists the Backstreet Boys as his all-time favorite band...Should I go for it?
Ask him who's his fave? If he says Howie he's a keeper! 
Now if he had NSYNC as his fave.... delete!
. ) and I should be attracted to. But the ones who approach me, act like they are God's gift to black women and I should fall at there feet because they have expressed an interest. When I tell them I am not interested nor impressed by their crap nor am I looking for them to change my situation and want to know about the man inside, I'm not liking what I see. Just because I'm 38, single, no kids, and live with my parents does not mean I'm desperate to have a man, far from it. I'm cool where I am. And, it certainly does not mean I have to deal someone who immediately thinks so little of me and assumes I'm cool with bad behavior. 
. They don't beat around the bush, want to meet and greet, take me on actual dates and pay. 
Well Daydream2876
About 90some percent in my mind and experience are this way. Race aside. It seems to be an American male thing.
Don't waste cash on the sites. Match was a waste of money. They just if not more trife as if paying gives them a real reason to be douches
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I had good luck on okcupid. Went out with a few nice guys and met my SO on there. 
I meet several with 25-30 years in their career well into 6 figures. I met one at work yesterday. His wife told me she works when she wants to because she doesn't have to 
I was surprised at how blue collar men were perceived here. Blue collar men in my town start out in most industries at $60,000 a year entry level. And I'm in the south where cost of living is low
and they seem to be a little smarter about their money (i.e. paying for big ticket items in cash, living within their means, have union benefits with pensions) I also like that they go to work, do their jobs for a solid 8 and can enjoy the rest of their time off how they see fit. They are not working slave hours at somebody's job, unless they are getting time and half or double time to do so.
So, I have been actively online dating for on POF the last six months. I know its reputation, but I never really dated before and wanted to get my feet wet with the process before I go investing a whole lot of time and money. Also, I'm not actively looking for a relationship, if one happens fine, if not that's cool too but I am enjoying the process for the most part. But now I feel the need to make a few observations that hopefully you all can give me some perspective on. My biggest one, I don't understand why men who are blatantly disrespectful continue to try to talk to me.
Case #1
We were messaging I an told him that I did not think I was the right one for him. He was persistent, I figured why not, and gave him my number. Five minutes into the phone conversation he decided he did not like what I said and hung up on me. I figure OK, cool onto the next. Get messages saying he's sorry, I told him he couldn't handle me in a five minute phone conversation so there is no need to continue this conversation. Over the next two months, he keeps trying and I say the same thing, politely and respectfully (meaning I did not say knee grow puh- leeeze). He messaged last night, I showed how cold blooded I can be, and now I am the one who is wrong.
Case #2
Dude flat out stood me up because his kid got sick. That's fine, I really do understand and will NEVER be the one to stop a man from being a father to his child, especially a black man. But he did not call until days later (not even a text saying "*****, I ain't coming") and when he did he expected me to come out of pocket for our next date. Every time, he messages me its with the same expectation and he gets no love here. Dude is cute and all, but not that cute
These are just two examples of the educated ones, with white collar jobs, who look good on paper, with a lot of crap (they cant pay for
All of that to say, it boggles my mind that there are women out there who sell themselves so short that men think its alright to treat them this way. I know they tried it with me because it worked on somebody else, they just came across the wrong one. I should not have to demand respect off the bat when all it really means for a man to be polite and be courteous of my time, when I do the same. On the flip side, the blue collar gents (think union railroad and commercial drivers) have been nothing but straight up, kind and treat me like a lady in every way
I need you all to please tell me its the site I'm using and all educated black men who are on other site do not behave this way.
