To be blunt and not care about sounding racist, Indian men are horrible. I had a professional looking one ask for my number and a date in my job parking lot. Immediately after getting my number he starts rubbing his penis and tells me he is so excited.
One before that on a first date from okc attempted to rip my top down to expose my breasts saying he just wanted to see what I had.
Another from okc I hadn't met yet was masturbating while meeting me on Skype.
They got 3 strikes. Never again.
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damn shame!
before anyone asks, i can explain why i said what i said. as a general umbrella, if a woman were ever to say she wouldn't date black men because they have "issues" i would say that reasoning applies more to indian men than it does for black men. for real!
in my first encounters with indian men, they came off sort of rapey. i didnt really meet any until i started clubbing downtown (all the indians in my city live downtown because by and large they are wealthy). i remember i met this one dude and he kept telling me over and over he was a pediatrician (ok so what, in doctor world thats low bar
). then he bought me a drink, i told him i wanted a ketel cran, and he ordered me two doubles
like, could you be a little less obvious about getting me drunk beyond the point of consent? jesus. just thirsty.
i met another indian guy one night and he begged me to come back to his place. it was halloween and i was with girlfriends so at the end of the night we went back to hang out with him. that was cool, but when everyone went to sleep, if i had been less forceful he basically would have raped me. he physically tried to force himself on me. it was in a begging way, so it wasn't violent, but he was having a hard time taking no for an answer.
additionally, indian men seem really willing to lick your butthole
the reason why i finally threw in the towel on indians is that my ex is indian, and i learned way too much. he didnt have the rape issue (he was sad about it because he knew a lot of women felt that way) and he was really smart, but he had too much race crap going on. i ended up feeling like he coveted whiteness to the point where he would jump at any opportunity to date a white girl, even when she was buttass ugly, had no personality, was fat, uneducated, and more or less a loser. he had dated a lot of white girls like that before he met me. in the end, i decided that he hated himself and hated being a brown person. he had assimilated as much as an non-american non-white person could, and i always felt like he was a much better representative of that kind of fractured racial identity than any black person i had ever met. i know we accuse black women here all the time of being self-hating but i have never really really seen a credible accusation like that on a black person in real life. naivete and stupidity and lack of knowledge, yes.... but not what i saw in my ex. i told him he better never date another black woman again and inflict that bs on them.
so yeah, long story short, even though sometimes i see indian guys who seem cool, im gonna have to take a pass.
lawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwd
years. So all in all it’s almost been 2.5 years. How long is long enough?
because I didn't want to be the one tasked with carrying the convo but I sort of like having that control. 
i can say for a fact that black women are not likely to be a preference for indian men. i think i was an "exception" for my ex because i was more attractive than any white woman he could have pulled. a white woman who was comparably attractive to me would never have dated him. basically, if i didnt have all those credentials to "win" i would have never been good enough for him based on compatibility alone (which is a shame because personality wise he is one of the most compatible men ive ever dated, and im probably THE most for him). i really believe if i were white he would have done everything in his power to marry me. i tried to deny this for awhile, because we discussed race and these issues frequently, and his denial made me want to believe it was true. but in the end, he did have these issues, and i wasnt respecting myself to pretend i didnt know.
