Hey y'all I want to share my experience so far..
Over the summer, I joined POF and put my location as NY, I was in Atl at the time but was moving to NY in August and i'm here now. I let the men I was in contact with know this and they were fine with. We just kept things casual. I met three men that stood out and was looking forward to meeting.
Angel- said he was 32, did some snooping (he gave me his email address) and this fool was 40. when I got to NY turns out he wanted some booty. NEXT
Ade- 23 Nigerian. we talked everyday! skyped too, it all seemed too good to be true; and it was. When I arrived he started showing out, turns out this fool had a gf. NEXT
Owen- 35 Lawyer, well traveled blah blah. This dude was cheap as hell, said he liked traveling by himself because it's less expensive and wanted to take me to IHOP on our first date. I politely declined. NEXT
Did I really think that I would meet someone worthy of consideration long distance? Not really. So I was not surprised or too upset. The only one I was a bit heated about was Ade. He was a smooth talker. Damn virgo. it's ok though, my aunt said I could never have introduced him to the fam as he looks like a gorilla according to her! lol
So that brings me here. I left the fishmarket and moved on to Okcupid, which I prefer alot more. Way better prospects, in my opinion.
The first weekend I joined I met a fellow j'can, Jermaine. I was so excited. We met up that same day he messaged me; just sat in his car and chatted. Conversation was flowing and the laughs were flowing, that was Sat and then we went on a proper date Monday. We went to some restaurant and everything seemed fine, except it wasn't, something was off, the easy going vibe had become a bit strained.hmmm. After dinner, he's like oh the night is young wanna come back to my place to watch a movie? -_- I should have known that any man that just got out (1.5yr) of a 7 yr relationship in which the gf cheated on him wasn't going to be taking women seriously for awhile.
Then there was the other j'can who only wanted to talk about sex, but presented himself as someone decent in convos.
Then there's this weirdo who I got into an argument with and who keeps viewing my profile.... like every other day....
The arrogant dominican who got mad cuz I called him out on his bull and then said ' see that why I don't date black women'....
There was a haitian who I was really feeling and who seemed very promising, but after 4 days of consistent communication he seemed to fall of the face of the earth and I wasn't abt to chase him so I left that alone and haven't heard from him since last thurs.
whew! that's alot of frogs, however since June till abt last week, I learnt that I would never meet a guy of substance unless I had firm boundaries and gave no second chances. with that being said....
I met someone who could be the diamond in the rough.
23, Cameroonian, in college. Did everything right from the jump, except for a bit too much texting, but after I told him I prefer talking we've been good. We had the most romantic date on Sunday. We went to central park, it was such a beautiful day. had lunch and then walked the park. We came to sit by the fountain overlooking the lake, there was a violin playing behind us, we saw a couple get engaged on the water; the ambiance was just perfect. I could tell he was a bit nervous and I found that so cute, he kept touching my back everytime I said or did something that he found endearing. We were speaking french, him fluently, me poorly lol, which made it even more special. He was holding back though, I could tell he wanted to hold my hand, he even once awkwardly threw his arm around me and then quickly dropped it back to his side. My stiffness wasn't helping I guess lol. But he has the most gorgeous brown eyes, I could just stare in them all day. We spent 6hrs! together that day.
While we were having lunch, my mom called me and started cussing at me for being on a date with a guy I met online, it was so funny and he could hear too. But he said that it was good my mother was so concerned, it showed that I came from a good family.
So i'm keeping my fingers crossed abt him, we're supposed to be meeting tomorrow to study together and then Friday for an open house at a museum. I'm excited to get to know him.
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