i ignored damn near everybody unless i actually LIKED what i saw and would have messaged him first if he had never messaged me. but its very easy to spot the losers online. just ignore the ones who cant articulate an interesting thought, sentence, or opinion. that's gonna cut like 80% of guys right there. if their profile says absolutely nothing of interest just let it go.
heres a tip. their profiles all say the same thing. (i mean really i think if a woman doesnt know this already, she really doesnt need to be dating until she learns to pick up pertinent cues when she sees em, but ima spell it out anyway.) itll say something along the lines of "im a laid back guy who likes to laugh/have fun/have a good time." if he describes himself as any of the following:
laid back
"a nice guy"
a [nice, cool, sweet, funny, romantic] guy
"looking for the right girl"
i can be quiet around people until i get to know them
i like to stay home and just chill but i also like to party and go out
and basically any other combination of a generic personality trait with its exact opposite HE IS A BORING LOSER WHO CANT GET WOMEN WITH ANY EASE IRL. real people with actual personalities rarely describe themselves with adjectives. they have enough brains to express those traits indirectly. they dont have to tell you.
people without personalities aka people with nothing to offer who only suck the time and energy out of others hoping to extract whatever it is they want describe what other people are because they know it's what you'd want them to be
they wouldnt be able to get that across without saying it directly, because theyre not it.
its really easy to spot, but one has to actually KNOW what certain types of people are before they can know how to watch out for them. and that starts from learning from previous experiences and stop doing the same damn thing over and over.
So it would be cool to know how your experience will be!
i'm VERY particular about the men i respond to. sometimes i would go 1+ month without responding to anyone.
