I'm so glad I found this thread! I am doing online dating for the first time in my life right now. It seems pretty dead that I am going to meet someone from school or just randomly in the city. I am having a lot of fun with it so far.
I have a profile on okcupid. I average between 80 and 120 views in a week (depending, I think, on whether or not my profile is featured on the home page). I get maybe four or five messages in a week, sometimes more, sometimes less.
Ok the first guy I met, we talked for a while and he started getting creepy and it creeped me out so I went home. Then he called me and badgered me for like 30 minutes on how I should let him come over. I didn't talk to him again after that (until I randomly ran into him several months later at my part time job, three months past the last time I had some penis and decided to sleep with him. It wasn't bad, I'll tell you that).
The second guy was my "practice" white guy, you could say, just to see what the experience would be like (this happened before the previous experience, I just met the first guy first). HE wasn't good, but I didn't let that sully my future outlook
he was in an open relationship at the time and shortly after we slept together, he and his girlfriend broke up and he started dropping all kinds of hints about how "my apartment is so great, you should come see it," "I went to a show today, we should go to some shows" and "we have an awesome pool and gym area, you could come use it" and I was like... no thanks.
The next guy, we texted a lot and it was very friendly, we didn't have much chemistry but I think I still would have gone out with him. Some people just aren't very verbose in messages was my rationale. When we had plans to meet up, he stood me up. Then, a couple months later, he messaged me online and completely overlooked the fact that he flaked on me like I wasn't supposed to notice or something... I was like, you must be out of your ****** mind if you think I'm going to pretend like what you did was okay.
Then I started chatting with another guy, and we clicked in that initial conversation, but then when some racial issues came up, he got really sensitive and crybabyish and stopped messaging me (he said he felt like nothing he could ever do would matter as far as showing he was anti-racist or whatever, but as far as I was concerned, he wasn't ready to date a black girl so I'm glad he ran off).
Then another guy I talked with online for a long time, he was 30 and VERY RELUCTANTLY revealed that he was living with his mom again. He had a bad attitude and would always want to argue with me and was one of those white guys who thought it was okay to make "black people" jokes. We had an argument once where we both said to the other person "I can see why you're single"
and then after we had tired out of arguing, he's like "I don't want this to change things between us" fool, please. He needs to not be trying to date anyone right now.
Now I have met a guy I really really really really like and I am very worried about messing it up. We chatted one night for a long time and it seemed to really click, our personalities seem very similar. We exchanged numbers and text a little throughout the day. However, we had plans to meet this weekend and he canceled at the last minute
he said he wanted to reschedule... so I asked if he was sure because last minute cancellations seem to turn into forever cancellations, and if that was the case we didn't need to draw it out to get there. He said he was being truthful and wanted to reschedule for the next weekend. I texted him later asking how his "imaginary" thing went (that was the cause of him canceling) and he laughed and we talked a little more before I stopped responding.
I'm starting to feel like maybe he's just being polite. But I can't figure out why he'd waste his time if that were the case... I know that he rated my profile four or five stars when he first saw it because of the little quickmatch thing. I'm wondering if now that he knows I'm interested he's backing off or something... so I'm not going to text him all week
I don't know what else to do.
erplexed than I was 
! So she asks him the obvious question, "Sir I thought you were white." and he says, "Well I figured you wouldn't talk to me if you knew I was black."
