***Online Dating Support Thread***

meesch said:
if you cant take rejection thats all the more reason to have your pic up. dudes will already know whether or not they think youre ugly/pretty, and if they dont like what they see, they can reject you without you ever knowing about it :yep:
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True but bumping into to people on the site on my way to work just drives me crazy. Especially when they look at you so you know they know you looking for a man.
 
^^^Do people really pay that close attention?

I swear I would never know whether I saw someone on OKC in passing on the street or not... I dont think people are so much into remembering every single face they see (of hundreds) on an online dating site and trying to place them irl...
 
This in my OKC box just now made my day!

"Hi, I have no car, make little money, but I am the most loyal friend you could ever hope to find."

Looked at his profile and he's also 1000 mi away too. Lights are one, but nobody's home...?
 
blue_flower said:
So I decided to give online dating a 2nd chance. The last time I closed my account because I was disgusted with all the perverts and the last straw was when I received a message from a transvestite. Anyway.

#1: Today I just met this young Asian guy. We met at Starbucks and we talked for nearly an hour. He's very attractive, laidback, nice and easy to talk to. He said he'd like to see me again so I'll just wait and see what happens with that.

#2: Tuesday morning I'm supposed to have a brunch with this older East Indian guy. He's a neurologist or something.

#3: Today I was contacted by another East Indian guy. He says he's a physician.

I"m kind of surprised about being contacted lately by Asian men. But I'm also wondering if these older guys are married, although I wouldn't mind having a sugar daddy. What the hell. I'm still being contacted by white guys. One of them I had to block because he was whining about me not calling him. The others like to email and text a lot, but not much else. Not a lot of black guys contact me either. Just recently I was contacted by one who is a "post doc." Very handsome and well dressed.

That's it for now. No expectations when it comes to online dating.
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So the other day I had lunch with guy #2. He's not East Indian, he's actually from Cypress which is right off the coast of Greece. He's older, 42, and looks better in person than he does in his pictures. He's a researcher and he studies biomarkers of neurological diseases or something. He's very sweet, easy to talk to and so far I like him a lot. He said he wants to see me next week but I'll wait for him to call me.

Guy #1: We went out after work to have drinks. I had no idea that Asian guys could be smooth, but he actually tried to kiss me and I told him no. He seems like a good guy, but it could be a front. Men are men.

Guy #4 is a black man around my age, post doc in engineering. Grew up an only child, traveled to many places and loves museums. We met at a coffee shop today, which is pretty much his hang out spot since he works from his lap top. He was very nice, but he seemed very serious at times, which I found boring. He's an art fanatic and he wants to go to the musuem.


So far this online dating has been very fun and interesting. I like going out on REAL dates- not chillin' at my crib and watching a movie. So far I like guy #2.
 
MizzBrown said:
So..a guy sent me a message saying he saw me at his damn job today. I dont like that. I keep deletin his messages and he recognized me from my profile pics.
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See this is what I don't want happening to me. I'm reading this whole thread hoping to find some happy ever afters.
 
I decided to take a dive and open an online dating profile. I still feel hella silly about it...but ((shrugs)) ill try to be positive. I dunnnnnno.
 
it feels so great to wake up to multiple texts from cute guys :lol:. alright im down to 3 prospects and dates :grin:

Guy #1: lives about 45 mins away from me with out traffic:ohwell: He is an elementary school principal and is teaching a basketball camp during the summer, 6'6"very intelligent and a gym rat. he has not skipped a beat on keeping in contact with me and he initiates every call. we are scheduled for this saturday around late noon for iced coffee at starbucks since its so dang hot out here. i really like him.

Guy #2 is an insurance agent who lives too close for comfort. like right up the street. he is an art nerd on the side and we both have an affinity for japanese anime and harry potter. he is 6' 5'' and too dang sexy for his own good :grin:. we are scheduled for ice cream tomorrow. I like guy #1 more but he is not a bad back up plan if guy #1 falls through.

And then there is Guy #3 a navy veteran we just started messaging last saturday but for whatever reason i gave him my number quicker than usual. i am still trying to feell him out. im having a hard time remember much about him which says alot. idk yet. we haven't set up any plans but he has been nice to talk to. he is not as cute as the other guys but hes not a gremlin either, we shall see.
 
le sigh so never mind.... =(

guy #2 got off early today and wanted to hang out. we were supposed to meet at 4:45. at 4:43 i got a text from him saying that he was there. i didn't answer back but i made it in at 4:47. No one was there. knowing how these things go i gave him 1 minute the asked the employees if they had seen someone fitting his discription, they said yes and that he left a few minutes ago. :ohwell: irritated i drove home to cool off then called him when i got into my house to ask him what was up.
He said "well i was there, how long was i supposed to wait"
are you kidding me? he didn't even give me 5 minutues before he left. i told him that i just left the place and that we were in a few mins between each other and he couldn't wait an extra minute? He asked why didn't i answer him back when he texted.

well thats all of the red flags that i need for him. I'm not playing with these guys this go around. its on to the next. im so irritated though. now i have on eye liner for no reason. i couldve used this time to take a nap.
 
meesch said:
well, why didnt you?
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because i was on my way in. didnt think that i needed to text back "ok" but appearantly so. i mean he left after only 4 minutes. seems a little impatient and mellodramatic to me. had he stayed one more mintue we couldve met.
 
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mallysmommy said:
because i was on my way in. didnt think that i needed to text back "ok" but appearantly so. i mean he left after only 4 minutes. seems a little impatient and mellodramatic to me. had he stayed one more mintue we couldve met.
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Meeting someone for the first time is different though. He probably thought you were standing him up when you did not respond. Honestly I don't blame him. Give him another chance.
 
mallysmommy said:
guy #2 got off early today and wanted to hang out. we were supposed to meet at 4:45. at 4:43 i got a text from him saying that he was there. i didn't answer back but i made it in at 4:47. No one was there. knowing how these things go i gave him 1 minute the asked the employees if they had seen someone fitting his discription, they said yes and that he left a few minutes ago. :ohwell: irritated i drove home to cool off then called him when i got into my house to ask him what was up.
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damn ol boy was not playing around.:lachen: i am the Queen of Impatience and even i will wait longer than 4 minutes.
 
Kinkyhairlady said:
Meeting someone for the first time is different though. He probably thought you were standing him up when you did not respond. Honestly I don't blame him. Give him another chance.
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i guess. well when i called he didn't sound like he was going to try again either. and i was ready to eat ice cream and talk anime all night. im more upset at being dressed up with no where to go now.
 
alright guy #2 of course is gone so guy #3 moves up and his spot has been filled by a 5'10" cutie from new orleans and he has the accent.he owns a motorcycle and seems to be in love with it. :look: He calls it "his baby" and uses pronouns like "she" and "her" when referring to it. (ok i think i can deal) he seems shy or a maybe a bit unsure, but whatever it won't hurt to entertain it if nothing comes from it.
 
mallysmommy- Better to find out now that he is inflexible! You weren't 4 minutes late, you were 2 minutes late and he was 2 minutes early...it seems completely ridiculous to me for someone to leave after waiting for one minute :nono: I understand that this is first date and people worry about being stood up, but c'mon son! This isn't a job interview, it is a date that is supposed to be fun :lachen: He had to walk out after ONLY a minute to completely miss you! If he was that into you, two minutes would have made no difference to him because he would just want to be in your presence :look: So good for you for moving on to the next :yep:
 
LilMissSunshine5 said:
@mallysmommy- Better to find out now that he is inflexible! You weren't 4 minutes late, you were 2 minutes late and he was 2 minutes early...it seems completely ridiculous to me for someone to leave after waiting for one minute :nono: I understand that this is first date and people worry about being stood up, but c'mon son! This isn't a job interview, it is a date that is supposed to be fun :lachen: He had to walk out after ONLY a minute to completely miss you! If he was that into you, two minutes would have made no difference to him because he would just want to be in your presence :look: So good for you for moving on to the next :yep:
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my sentiments exactly. i think he was there even before 4:43 because when i asked the employees they said he'd left a few minutes ago. or maybe he was there checking me out and didnt like what he saw and left. whatever the case is i wasnt important for him to wait another minute longer and for that reason i think its best that i dodged this bullet now. im chatting up a few other nice fellows. if they can pass my "crazy" test then i will give them my number and they can move up. but for now its just the three that ive mentioned.
 
Came across dude's profile. Dang... this is a bit... much
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Don't they tho?!?! It took me like 3 looks to even notice his face! And they got like... balls hangin off em... wth!

Of course, he's 'in the music industry'. Lordy...
 
DarkJoy said:
Don't they tho?!?! It took me like 3 looks to even notice his face! And they got like... balls hangin off em... wth!

Of course, he's 'in the music industry'. Lordy...
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Of course he's in the music business, any other profession would make him cut those things. I don't understand why people get dreds and don't take care of them. Just from his hair u can tell he's trifling, he obviously don't take care of himself. I can't stand when guys wear those goofy glasses. Now it's cool all of a sudden to wear glasses.
 
I don't get it. Their profiles say to message them but when you do they don't reply.
They add you as a Favourite, you message them and they don't reply.
They message you and they expect a reply.
Men don't want women to message them. Period.
 
MizzKutieQ said:
Of course he's in the music business, any other profession would make him cut those things. I don't understand why people get dreds and don't take care of them. Just from his hair u can tell he's trifling, he obviously don't take care of himself. I can't stand when guys wear those goofy glasses. Now it's cool all of a sudden to wear glasses.
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Preach girl.....:lachen::lachen:
 
So a new influx of men not being truthful about their employment status

Me: Your profile reads in the future tense, that you are newly qualified and are looking for work.
Him: No, I AM working. I am volunteering. I've done the theory side, just doing the practical now.

Dude, you are unemployed.
 
Last night #2, whom I'll call T, and I went to the movies last night to see Ted, which is hilarious. He was a real gentleman. So far so good. I just hope he doesn't have another side to him. Hes from Seattle but he was adopted from Asia by a white family. His biological mom was on drugs. He has biological siblings but he hasn't seen them or his mom in years and doesn't know where they are. So he has an older non-biological brother and another adoptive sister. He's in the contruction industry and has traveled to Canada, Alaska, California, Montana and he's been to Hawaii many times.


That's it for now. I have a couple dates lined up for next week. Still getting messages.
 
Bublin said:
I don't get it. Their profiles say to message them but when you do they don't reply.
They add you as a Favourite, you message them and they don't reply.
They message you and they expect a reply.
Men don't want women to message them. Period.
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I don't message guys. I figure if they're interested and they like to chase then they can contact me first. I've deleted and blocked a lot of guys, especially the lets-chill-at-your-crib-and-watch-a-movie types of guys who like to send one word messages. I've encountered a couple whiny ones who were upset that I didn't reply or call them. I'll visit a guy's profile and if he visits mine he's the one who can message first if he's really interested.
 
It's extremely hard to meet a respectful guy, I'm tired of talking to a guy for less than an hour before they ask if I have"naughty" photos. The audacity!!!
 
Bublin
Alot of these guys want you to chase them. I'll never forget on Black People Meet I talked to this guy for a day and we had tentatively set up a date for the next day. He was supposed to call me and he didn't. Next thing I know he has Favorited me (which I think is creepy :look:) and every time I was on for like 1 minute I would see him come on right after me. I know this because I always like to see the who is online part of these sites. I no longer use that site. I'm on POF exclusively and now I see him over there. I hope he doesn't find me.
 
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