Confession time: My on and off ex and I broke up and then I created a POF profile. I got a lot of messages from some sexy and interesting dudes. Well come to find out...one was my ex's best friend's friend.
They told the ex. I felt weird/panicked and took down my profile. We got back together and then finally broke up for good for real this time.
And now I wanna get back on there because there was this one guy who I was really feeling.
OKC moves too slowly for me. Although POF is full of dudes who play games....there are also a few men who aren't like that at all.
Ladies, is it normal for men to message you only to say Hi? This has happend to me 3x's in one day....ninjas only saying hi. I haven't done the online thing in 10 years, please tell me this ain't the way it works now
I get plenty of messages that are like "Hey, how are you?" & put forth no real effort to get a conversation going...I usually ignore or reply "Good. How about you?" so they can see how it feels to get nothing to work with LOL It just depends on if I am in an ignorant mood 
But lately, I have gotten long messages that demonstrate the men have actually READ my profile and are interested in learning more about me bc of it 
Ladies, is it normal for men to message you only to say Hi? This has happend to me 3x's in one day....ninjas only saying hi. I haven't done the online thing in 10 years, please tell me this ain't the way it works now
Those two definitely cause men to mention them in their messages If they think that is childish, they aren't my type anyway...I think it is good bc it shows them a bit of my personality so they know what they may be getting themselves into
Daeuiel- I completely agree! Interesting photos are good conversation starters! I have one posted with me in a shopping cart and one dressed up as Cleopatra
x1000 to that! I'm sure y'all know what kind of photos I have up I take it to a whole other level of interesting :superman: If he's not down with that, then I'm outta here :hero:
@Daeuiel- I completely agree! Interesting photos are good conversation starters! I have one posted with me in a shopping cart and one dressed up as Cleopatra
tells a lot about the person and also because i'm too chicken/moody to ever allow myself to be photographed that way
I was excited and he seemed like he was having fun, but after our date, he didn’t contact me for almost TWO WEEKS 
I am not into chasing men, so I let it go and started cyber mingling again LOL It brought a smile to my face to see a man who put forth the effort to craft a thoughtful and funny message! It clearly demonstrated that he read my profile and was interested in learning more about me…and he never once commented on the physical, even though he gave me several compliments ☺ +100 points for him 
It was just the boost I needed after the last couple months of one date wonders and half-*ssed pursuit from some guys… We have spoken several times on the phone and it has just been a natural and easy vibe with him. He asked me out on a date, so we are going out tonight for jazz and dinner! I just had to share my excitement with yall because this online dating journey has been discouraging (especially lately)…so I celebrate every ray of hope that this experience may be worth it in the end 
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I don't need any extra rachetness in my life, it finds me enough as it is Sounds like you have your hands full...sounds like you like Guy1 the most Are the other three mostly serving to keep you balanced while you wait for things to develop with Guy1?! ** That is my plan for the summer hahaha All the men on BPM look old and dusty The dates I have had through OKC have been with mostly well-educated, attractive, and open-minded young black men! I have encountered a few duds, but mostly decent guys. Just so happens most of them I just didn't click with...
The date with Mr. Awesome Message was so GREAT! I got lost and was uber late for the date, but he was so cool and understanding. We had a lovely time at dinner and talked for hours afterward...he is a musician and showed me his studio where he works since we didn't want the date to end He even taught me some basics of playing piano and started teaching me to play a song *swoon* I have to admit it was pretty hot Nothing sexier than man who can teach you something 
And he was a complete gentleman, even though our date ended at 4am Definitely in my Top 2 best dates of all time We have talked every day since and he asked me out again before our first date ended, so we are going out again today 
It was early when he called, so he said I could call him back later since I was half asleep...I don't know if I even will. He seems a bit controlling for some reason. Like he tells me things, doesn't always ask me, which kinda pisses me off! But I don't want to cut off dating other guys until my favorite guy indicates he wants something more exclusive. So what to do?), so I feel like I definitely need to take my time and make sure I know what I'd be getting myself into. That's so funny, guy1 is a musician too (plays guitar).
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