***Online Dating Support Thread***
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kweenameena
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I like to keep the momentum going before I meet them. But that's so I don't lose interest.
kweenameena
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Don't be nervous!!! Just remind yourself that he is lucky to be meeting you and to be graced with your presence.
What are you wearing?
How are you doing your hair?
thanks
i'm wearing a black and white sun dress with heels, (although i don't know what we're doing...so i hope that's not over the top). the dress is about mid-thigh but with the heels it looks a little short
. i'll be coming from church so i'll take a jacket.and
roller-set my hair yesterday so today the curls have fallen out into "beachy" waves.
kweenameena
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Update:
I had my date last night. Remember ladies...MEN LIE ABOUT THEIR HEIGHT!
So this guy said he was 5'11 but he seemed to be more like 5'9. It might be because I'm used to my ex who is 6'4 but I don't think so.
But anyway, he initially picked a restaurant that I hate but I was going to go along with it. But thank God the restaurant was booked for the night. So he changed our plans and asked if we could do dinner and a movie. So we went to one of my favorite asian fusion spots and shared a bunch of different types of sushi. I convinced him to get a lychee martini since he had never had a martini before and he loved it. And he convinced me to try a bunch of different raw sushi rolls. Ummm....he's lucky he's kinda cute
I had to do most of the talking and asking questions since he's so reserved and not much of a talker (he is the epitome of the strong, silent type). That was kinda annoying and exhausting. But he opened up more towards the end of dinner. Yes, he paid and tipped the waiter.
After dinner, we walked over to the movie theatre and saw Acts of Valor.
He made sure to put up the arm-rest between us so he could sit closer to me. He held my hand throughout the movie and kept caressing my fingers. I'm super ticklish so I was holding in giggles for the whole dang movie.
I also noticed him smelling my hair from time to time. A little coconut oil and flowerbomb perfume in your hair works wonders on a man
He kept mentioning how attracted he was to me and that he wanted to kiss me. I told him no kissing on the first date because I'm a lady. But really I wasn't feeling that my breath situation was fresh after eating all that wasabi
So after the movie, he walked me to my car. I found out he has a Volkwswagen as well. And we both talked about our love for german engineering.
He asked if we could go back to the asian fusion place next door to just have some drinks and talk. But I told him that I had church in the morning and that I was sleepy. It was already past midnight and little did he know...I was struggling to keep my eyes open during the movie.
At my car, he tried to make plans for our next date..but I told him he'd have to call me because I was too sleepy to think straight. He also asked if we could meet up in the morning for breakfast but I already had plans.
He called me to make sure I got home safely, said he wanted to see me again, and mentioned that he really enjoyed my company.
I want to see him again too
I had my date last night. Remember ladies...MEN LIE ABOUT THEIR HEIGHT!
So this guy said he was 5'11 but he seemed to be more like 5'9. It might be because I'm used to my ex who is 6'4 but I don't think so.
But anyway, he initially picked a restaurant that I hate but I was going to go along with it. But thank God the restaurant was booked for the night. So he changed our plans and asked if we could do dinner and a movie. So we went to one of my favorite asian fusion spots and shared a bunch of different types of sushi. I convinced him to get a lychee martini since he had never had a martini before and he loved it. And he convinced me to try a bunch of different raw sushi rolls. Ummm....he's lucky he's kinda cute
I had to do most of the talking and asking questions since he's so reserved and not much of a talker (he is the epitome of the strong, silent type). That was kinda annoying and exhausting. But he opened up more towards the end of dinner. Yes, he paid and tipped the waiter.
After dinner, we walked over to the movie theatre and saw Acts of Valor.
He made sure to put up the arm-rest between us so he could sit closer to me. He held my hand throughout the movie and kept caressing my fingers. I'm super ticklish so I was holding in giggles for the whole dang movie.
I also noticed him smelling my hair from time to time. A little coconut oil and flowerbomb perfume in your hair works wonders on a man
He kept mentioning how attracted he was to me and that he wanted to kiss me. I told him no kissing on the first date because I'm a lady. But really I wasn't feeling that my breath situation was fresh after eating all that wasabi
So after the movie, he walked me to my car. I found out he has a Volkwswagen as well. And we both talked about our love for german engineering.
He asked if we could go back to the asian fusion place next door to just have some drinks and talk. But I told him that I had church in the morning and that I was sleepy. It was already past midnight and little did he know...I was struggling to keep my eyes open during the movie.
At my car, he tried to make plans for our next date..but I told him he'd have to call me because I was too sleepy to think straight. He also asked if we could meet up in the morning for breakfast but I already had plans.
He called me to make sure I got home safely, said he wanted to see me again, and mentioned that he really enjoyed my company.
I want to see him again too
kweenameena
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thanks
i'm wearing a black and white sun dress with heels, (although i don't know what we're doing...so i hope that's not over the top). the dress is about mid-thigh but with the heels it looks a little short
and
roller-set my hair yesterday so today the curls have fallen out into "beachy" waves.
Oh he'll be in love! Don't hurt him girl!
I can't wait to hear all the details!!!!! Just have fun!
tinkat
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kweenameena
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Girl, it was! But he was my first date now that I'm single again and I can tell that he is going to want to be exclusive. Although I like him...I still want to date and be free. How do I keep him in the rotation and still see other people?
I feel like such a player saying that
Girl, it was! But he was my first date now that I'm single again and I can tell that he is going to want to be exclusive. Although I like him...I still want to date and be free. How do I keep him in the rotation and still see other people?
I feel like such a player saying that
you can do that by telling him you want to take it slow and build a great friendship first before making a commitment (while you're going out w/others)
b/c that should be true
kweenameena
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Thanks! Ok..that's good advice. That's what I'll do.you can do that by telling him you want to take it slow and build a great friendship first before making a commitment (while you're going out w/others)
b/c that should be true
But I do notice that men comment on the last time I've been on the site.
tinkat
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kweenameena said:Girl, it was! But he was my first date now that I'm single again and I can tell that he is going to want to be exclusive. Although I like him...I still want to date and be free. How do I keep him in the rotation and still see other people?
I feel like such a player saying that
Just continue to have fun. If he brings up relationship tell him you enjoy his company and want to take your time bc you just got out of a relationship if you are not looking for that. Just remember he may fall back and not pursue just in case you realize that you like him more than before. But then again that may be a challenge for him
!!!
hopeful
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Girl, it was! But he was my first date now that I'm single again and I can tell that he is going to want to be exclusive. Although I like him...I still want to date and be free. How do I keep him in the rotation and still see other people?
I feel like such a player saying that
Don't worry about that yet. Just relax and enjoy the ride. Keep slowing him down like you did and keep things at a pace you are comfortable with. If he asks to be exclusive before you are ready just tell him you need a little more time to get to know him better. He doesn't need to know you want to date other guys.
O-ren
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Glad you had fun kweenameena. so which site is this guy from?
kweenameena
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O-ren said:
I met him on OKC
Incognitus
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LifeafterLHCF
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When did POF change so much. They use to let you see when people lasted logged on,then they use to let you see who viewed you. Now these things you have to pay for. I'm scared to see what will happen next.
Today must be my POF is good today bc I have gotten responses to both messages I have sent out. One is a bit off in the head though. I guess my wmlb mentality is rolling out
big shout out to tinkat you know why you rock!
Today must be my POF is good today bc I have gotten responses to both messages I have sent out. One is a bit off in the head though. I guess my wmlb mentality is rolling out
big shout out to tinkat you know why you rock!
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tinkat
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GoddessMaker said:
Oh no problem girl. I got the link from a lovely op so I have no problem sharing. I love the book. Its common sense but sometimes you can forget. It's all about remembering what's best for you and setting up clear boundaries.
Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
so we had lunch and took a walk. the whole date was 3.5 hrs. i had a nice time, I don't know if he was just being polite- we shall see
kweenameena
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so we had lunch and took a walk. the whole date was 3.5 hrs. i had a nice time, I don't know if he was just being polite- we shall see
Yay! I'm glad you had fun. Did you all plan the next date?
mallysmommy
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Incognitus yes at the profile and his little message that he wrote in the end....
LifeafterLHCF
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Well I don't know if its just Im feeling lovely but I am at the point of accepting I have preferences and so do others and it's not a bad thing if I'm not someone's ideal esp if they aren't open to new things. One guy I was chatting with was a bit too forward I sorta laughed it off but he said he is looking for dating and sex so I just deleted the message. No sense of going forward as I'm not seeking sex at all. I feel alot better that I have the right to be picky on my dealbreakers and I don't feel bad about it, because these dudes sure and hell don't.
nope! but he didn't plan this one!! he planned for us to meet, and then he figured out where we were going.
there was talk over lunch about us going to play basketball.
he texted me and said he enjoyed "our time together"
LifeafterLHCF
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I have to give this one dude a bit of props he was up front about what he wanted fwb but said I read your profile and that def isn't something your game for. I messaged back thanking him for being up front. Why can't all men be that easy.
kweenameena
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tinkat
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I agree. I prefer direct, less time to waste.
