ellennicole
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Venting forum.
I’d like you all to share your online dating horror stories. After my last experience, I’ve decided that online dating is NOT for me. It may be me, or I may have some issues, but I am really starting to believe that most men online have hidden agendas. The Internet has been around for a while and I think a lot of people (men and women) are becoming experts at creating online/telephone personas. I’ll share my last two experiences (one with blackplanet—shoulda known betta, and the other with blackpeoplemeet).
BlackPeoplemeet Guy
I’ll start with my most recent. Met a “nice” guy on bpm. He lived in Atlanta but grew up where I live. Anyway, we clicked, chatted for a while. I thought he seemed really sweet/nice patient and unassuming. Anyway, we talked on the phone a lot, he sent me beautiful ecards (BEWARE OF MEN WHO DO THAT WITHIN THE FIRST TWO DAYS). He even sent me a beautiful card and flowers on Valentine’s Day. So we talk and we shared. He was unassuming, didn’t make any sexual references at all. At one point I thought he was a-sexual b/c he seemed so innocent. His page stated he was a CEO of his own company, and he had an MBA from Clark. He was very intelligent, and we had wonderful conversations about God, spirituality, relationships. He told me his wife stole 150,000 and he spent most of his funds paying off her debt to society. Then he told me about some of his business ventures that didn’t go well. It seemed like everyone seemed to dupe him into various business ventures. His ex-wife wasn’t supportive of his dreams. So he tells me (right off the back) that he has some financial issues. His house is in foreclosure and he blames it on his sacrificing his finances for his ex wife (who was a liar and dishonest).
He tells me he’s thinking about moving back home (where I live). I am a deciding factor b/c he feels so close to me. He tells me about his most recent ex who broke up with him b/c she wanted him to fly her all over the world and she wanted him to be more stable and she too didn’t support his dream. He tells me he wants to have a family and that he knows that he’s going to have to work a 9-5 and work on his business ventures on the side. He’s moving back home to start a new life so he can establish himself and have a family. (He’s 44).He’s the youngest of six and his family is really important. He says he wants to incorporate me into his family and he wants me to meet them for Easter. He’s never invited anyone (besides his ex wife) to meet his family. Fast forward, he moves here in March. Everything was WONDERFUL. He treats me well. He's a complete gentleman. We spend every weekend together. We decide to go to church and bible study to build a more spiritual relationship. We are going to wait for sex b/c we don’t want to rush things. He gets a job immediately. It’s not in his field---he works it for--- a month. After a month he quits his job b/c he’s met a couple of businessmen who want him to work for them (for free). They tell him he can generate his salary by fundraisers and writing grants. SMH.
He becomes more distant. I start asking how he feels b/c when he was in ATL he always expressed his feelings. How he cared, what he wanted from our relationship. He still makes a few references to family yet he’s colder, not as kind--- something is different. Anyway, we have a minor disagreement. He stops calling, returning texts. Tells me he wants a break, then breaks up with me on the phone the next day. He’s mean, cold, nasty, and disrespectful .
A week later, I see him on black people meet…. He’s looking for a serious relationship. He’s a CEO of a company and is making 50,000+ a year.
I find names of women in various folders. I find out that he’s had back to back “relationships” with women throughout the country up until he met me—his last one ending in November. The folders start from the time they meet on (blackpeoplemeet/blacksingles/blackplanet) and go through their breakup. I see numerous ecards with him expressing his undying love and devotion. They too have something special, he has never felt this way about them before. I see tickets purchased (usually they fly to him). Then they stop. No more communication –the folder ends. The next folder (another woman) starts the next month.
A week after the breakup, he’s emailing three, four, five women at a time (some old some new). He’s looking for a serious relationship with all of them. . . .
I realize. He’s a serial internet dater. It’s easy to write,text, instant message. All of the other women lived in different cities and their “relationships” consisted of emails/phone calls and the occasional weekend trip. . . A seemingly innocent man was in fact... an internet male-whore. . .
I’d like you all to share your online dating horror stories. After my last experience, I’ve decided that online dating is NOT for me. It may be me, or I may have some issues, but I am really starting to believe that most men online have hidden agendas. The Internet has been around for a while and I think a lot of people (men and women) are becoming experts at creating online/telephone personas. I’ll share my last two experiences (one with blackplanet—shoulda known betta, and the other with blackpeoplemeet).
BlackPeoplemeet Guy
I’ll start with my most recent. Met a “nice” guy on bpm. He lived in Atlanta but grew up where I live. Anyway, we clicked, chatted for a while. I thought he seemed really sweet/nice patient and unassuming. Anyway, we talked on the phone a lot, he sent me beautiful ecards (BEWARE OF MEN WHO DO THAT WITHIN THE FIRST TWO DAYS). He even sent me a beautiful card and flowers on Valentine’s Day. So we talk and we shared. He was unassuming, didn’t make any sexual references at all. At one point I thought he was a-sexual b/c he seemed so innocent. His page stated he was a CEO of his own company, and he had an MBA from Clark. He was very intelligent, and we had wonderful conversations about God, spirituality, relationships. He told me his wife stole 150,000 and he spent most of his funds paying off her debt to society. Then he told me about some of his business ventures that didn’t go well. It seemed like everyone seemed to dupe him into various business ventures. His ex-wife wasn’t supportive of his dreams. So he tells me (right off the back) that he has some financial issues. His house is in foreclosure and he blames it on his sacrificing his finances for his ex wife (who was a liar and dishonest).
He tells me he’s thinking about moving back home (where I live). I am a deciding factor b/c he feels so close to me. He tells me about his most recent ex who broke up with him b/c she wanted him to fly her all over the world and she wanted him to be more stable and she too didn’t support his dream. He tells me he wants to have a family and that he knows that he’s going to have to work a 9-5 and work on his business ventures on the side. He’s moving back home to start a new life so he can establish himself and have a family. (He’s 44).He’s the youngest of six and his family is really important. He says he wants to incorporate me into his family and he wants me to meet them for Easter. He’s never invited anyone (besides his ex wife) to meet his family. Fast forward, he moves here in March. Everything was WONDERFUL. He treats me well. He's a complete gentleman. We spend every weekend together. We decide to go to church and bible study to build a more spiritual relationship. We are going to wait for sex b/c we don’t want to rush things. He gets a job immediately. It’s not in his field---he works it for--- a month. After a month he quits his job b/c he’s met a couple of businessmen who want him to work for them (for free). They tell him he can generate his salary by fundraisers and writing grants. SMH.
He becomes more distant. I start asking how he feels b/c when he was in ATL he always expressed his feelings. How he cared, what he wanted from our relationship. He still makes a few references to family yet he’s colder, not as kind--- something is different. Anyway, we have a minor disagreement. He stops calling, returning texts. Tells me he wants a break, then breaks up with me on the phone the next day. He’s mean, cold, nasty, and disrespectful .
A week later, I see him on black people meet…. He’s looking for a serious relationship. He’s a CEO of a company and is making 50,000+ a year.
I find names of women in various folders. I find out that he’s had back to back “relationships” with women throughout the country up until he met me—his last one ending in November. The folders start from the time they meet on (blackpeoplemeet/blacksingles/blackplanet) and go through their breakup. I see numerous ecards with him expressing his undying love and devotion. They too have something special, he has never felt this way about them before. I see tickets purchased (usually they fly to him). Then they stop. No more communication –the folder ends. The next folder (another woman) starts the next month.
A week after the breakup, he’s emailing three, four, five women at a time (some old some new). He’s looking for a serious relationship with all of them. . . .
I realize. He’s a serial internet dater. It’s easy to write,text, instant message. All of the other women lived in different cities and their “relationships” consisted of emails/phone calls and the occasional weekend trip. . . A seemingly innocent man was in fact... an internet male-whore. . .
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mayn I dont know. That is crazy. Blackplanet I really dont trust but BPM is going on that list too now I see lol. But they say the same crazies you meet offline are the same crazies you meet online. They just high tech now. 
. Saying all these peverted things like if he hugs me he is gonna explode LOL . I tell him that for someone who is a virgin, you sure make a great deal of sexual references. He then precedes to call his best friend on speaker phone to "prove" that he is indeed one. Needless to say I never answered his calls again 
These are some interested stories.. I don't do internet dating so I know this won't happen to me.. Imagine, you can't trust them when you meet in person, are you going to trust them if you meet them online???
Thats all kinda nuts right there! 
AND GRABS HER BY THE NECK ,PUSHED HER DOWN AND THEN PROCEEDS TO DRAG HER BACK INTO THE VEHICLE. She stayed put.They drove off.
That sounds like a movie!
