Lilakoi’s_Sister
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six years ago my mother (and father) decided to adopt one of the foster children that my mother (and father) was caring for. my parents were in their late fifties and early sixties at the time. i was very much against this and informed them both that i thought it was a bad idea. quite frankly, the main reason is because they are both too damn old. i do not have children. i am unsure if i want children. at this point in my life i am leaning towards hell naw i don't want no kids! anyway, my mother (who is quite strong willed and stubborn) decided to proceed with the adoption anyway. the entire time she was going through the process; she told the social workers that she would receive support or help from her other children (namely ME! ) I never agreed to anything, vehemently opposing the adoption to the point where i did not attend any legal/court proceedings related to it and the finalization of the adoption. to make a long story short, i think my mother is beginning to see why i was opposed because i think she's getting tired. now she's asking me to do more and more things, i.e., take my sister for the weekend, help her choose schools, apply to schools, check out programs... i'm like ,'ok, i'll do some stuff but... i ain't got no kids! i'm only a sibling...' my mother and i have gotten into some heated arguments over this. she wants me to sign some documents saying that i will take over if anything bad happens. i'm like you need to look at an alternative. it's not like i'm just saying this. i've been saying this for over 5 years! my question is: am i being selfish? should i "co-parent" my sister? by the way, i'm already sacrificing some of the things i want because of this situation. i have no desire to spend the rest of my life in chicago. but... because of the guilt trips i let my mother lay on me, i can't even muster the guts to move to another side of town. i'm working on this though. in any case, what would you do? i just want to live my life before i really have to settle down with my own damn kids should i choose to have them. thanks for reading this.