Welll,,,,
Being the utter committment-PHOBE freak-weirdo that I am, it probably wouldn't be me that ended it because we'd been casually dating too long.
1) I'm normally not interested in guys whose intentions are sincere- and I'm pretty awesome at gauging ppl's intentions.
BUT this is a problem, because I am attracted to the ones that are sincere and want to start something meaningful. This contradicts my fear of commitment. But I think the reason is because guys move fast when they want a relationship. Not necessarily sexually, but when they're ready to be in a relationship, they're ready and they move right on into it. I may be interested in this guy, but it normally takes me no longer than 2 days to start to feel claustrophobic and literally panic.
For things to work for me, everything has to move slow. And this isn't a fear of the one eyed snake (lmao) but a fear of committing to a relationship and feeling caged and smothered.
This means I end up being the one- holding things up. The things that scare me the most are multiple pointless calls a day. Damnit, I need to miss you. And when we talk- I'm not into the mushy "I just called to hear you breathe/hear your heartbeat." Simply calling because you're thinking of me, is nice- really. But when you call 10 times a day just to say "what are you up to?" Umm, the same thing as two minutes ago? I go crazy and RUN. And this from men who have FULL time careers? Unacceptable.
For things to work, he needs to continue with his life, act like he
wants me (not
needs me for oxygen) and be willing to become GOOD friends first. Basically, the gender reversal of Why Men Love B!tches
So I guess it's not necessarily an overall fear of any commitment, just a fear of rushed, dive in head first, suffocation. LOL