What's the Longest You've Gone Without Coloring?

Charz said:
maybe its not normal cos pregnancy is the time when husbands tend to cheat/look outside.

If I decide to have kids, i hope I wont end up depriving my husband due to evil preggo issues
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Alot of men find pregnant bodies sexy. It's also a time women may want to have alot of sex because they feel free of the worries of BC, etc. Men kinda get off knowing they "made this baby that's inside of you":look:I can't describe it. But I had more sex when I was pregnant than ever probably. Well, hmm. maybe not.

I have read that in fact men cheat the most AFTER a baby arrives in a marriage. I could totally see why too.
 
Zaynab said:
Alot of men find pregnant bodies sexy. It's also a time women may want to have alot of sex because they feel free of the worries of BC, etc. Men kinda get off knowing they "made this baby that's inside of you":look:I can't describe it. But I had more sex when I was pregnant than ever probably. Well, hmm. maybe not.

I have read that in fact men cheat the most AFTER a baby arrives in a marriage. I could totally see why too.
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What do you think the biggest reason for this is Zaynab
 
Vanthie said:
What do you think the biggest reason for this is Zaynab
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Vanthie There is a real disconnect that happens in a marriage after you have a baby. It's not noticeable and both parents contribute equally, you're both so wrapped up in the baby, you lose an intimate connection with each other. I don't mean sex. A new baby is a huge adjustment but I always caution people to take time out with their spouse too. They are just as happy for the new addition but I think people forget the spouse came first, it's vice versa. I did it to my dh and he did it to me. I couldn't pry him away from baby#3. Just keep that intimacy open:yep:
 
Zaynab said:
@Vanthie There is a real disconnect that happens in a marriage after you have a baby. It's not noticeable and both parents contribute equally, you're both so wrapped up in the baby, you lose an intimate connection with each other. I don't mean sex. A new baby is a huge adjustment but I always caution people to take time out with their spouse too. They are just as happy for the new addition but I think people forget the spouse came first, it's vice versa. I did it to my dh and he did it to me. I couldn't pry him away from baby#3. Just keep that intimacy open:yep:
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Thank you for this Zaynab. DH and I don't have children yet, but this is a concern of mine and I've already addressed it with him. :yep:
 
MD_Lady said:
Thank you for this Zaynab. DH and I don't have children yet, but this is a concern of mine and I've already addressed it with him. :yep:
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I missed this bit of information on my first child but I figured it out later. I always try to remind both parents it's easy to get disconnected from your spouse. Take time out to get away for coffee, a movie, anything when you have a new baby. I'd pump and meet dh for dinner or something. Little things made a world of difference:yep:
 
^^^^that is excellent advice. It's your first instinct to make the baby your entire world and forget your SO/DH. Fortunately, I was smart enough to realize that. :yep:Best advice: Put your husband first and then TOGETHER you two put your children above everyone else in your life. Eventually, your children will grow up and pursue their own lives and then you are left with the one you have ignored all these years and don't really know anymore.:yep:
 
Hmmm.....I didn't color til I was 25 (big regret...oh well). That fling was short lived. After that, no coloring from February to August of that year. Then, I started dating a guy who was worse than the first. It lasted for four months and then ended VERY badly....haven't colored since November, 2010 the night before we split up. I have since had zero interest in coloring with any man except for a long time crush, but that's never gonna happen so I'm just avoiding men altogether.
 
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Coming up on 2 yrs. SO of 11 yrs and I broke up and haven't had any since :sad:. I wasn't really interested until I recently meet someone. We're just friends but, Good Lord, I would love to take that man for a ride!!! the things I imagine doing to him! Imma have to get some of that real soon :lick: :lick:
 
According to timeanddate.com, 973 days. I am actually okay with that. I have thoughts, but honestly I am not if it is worth the hassle anymore. I choose this, and I am okay with that now.
 
Something like 2 years.

It's a shame when you have a nice thick coloring book and 251 crayons and your playmate isn't worth coloring with. :ohwell: :rolleyes:

Slim pickins out here, ladies. I refuse to settle.

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9 months. I'm close to matching that now, but I'm so ready for this to be over. I might have to reconnect with a "friend."
 
10months and it was defin worth the wait lol.

Now im getting back into the dating scene. So im waiting til at least 3months before if he lasts that long and no home visit so we dont get tempted...ill let you know how it works out lol
 
If I had to count no self pleasure, no fantasy, etc - never.

I'm dating now, not coloring, but we do kiss a lot. To ME that's pretty sexual though we don't take our clothes off, "hump", touch, talk about sex, etc. I guess its hard to say, but the longest I've gone without penis...5 months as of now.

Having been married at one time and in subsequent relationships explains why I haven't been without until now. :look:

I lost my virginity at an early age (lots of sexual abuse and rape in my past) and it seems once you start, you can't stop. Especially when you're young and underdeveloped emotionally and don't feel like you're worth more than the dirt on the floor, but that's a different subject.
 
I didn't color while I was in grad school, so I guess that was 2-3 years. I didn't notice though because I was so busy. When I realized it I ran out and started coloring with my color buddy right away!
 
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Proud card caring member of Team Abstinence for 7 years now. :grin:
 
I honestly lost track lol

I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship. I cut off his coloring privileges long before I ended it.

I know I've had sex sometime this year. Maybe last time was around April so almost 8 months if I had to take a wild guess. Not 100% sure

Although he did "hook me up" sorta speak back in June (yall can guess what I mean) The favor wasn't returned. Sorry if thats TMI


It's going to be a super long time b4 I color again. So I'll basically be a virgin the next time I color.

Ouch
 
Lol, long time! Sometimes I wonder n contemplate getting a buddy but I don't do well with those, I need some type of connection..

So off topic, but last time was in June...

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tinkat said:
Longest I have gone is five months but I think that I will be beating that record soon next month bc I doubt I'll be doing anything with anybody.
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I wrote the above in feb. I did hit the year but currently active.

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