oddly enough i know many couple's living as like their roommates just living..not enjoy engaging one another and keeping the fire lit..let it blaze or simmer but keep it lit.....
And I don't know how they do it. I get ornery when I don't have my 'medicine'. 
That's a possibility, but I think it's equally as likely that he's keeping the records just to make sure he ain't going crazy. I've heard of men who do that in situations like these. Normally, they're husbands who want things to work out and are actually trying not to beast on their wives, but they just need an objective record.
Most men could do it every day, real talk.
Mine too. I always make mention of interesting thread discussions with my husband and outright asked him about this topic. Looks like I have work to do too, OP! I told him its harder when a man has longer stamina - 30 minutes or more of constant crayoning everyday can takes its toll, especially if a brother is packing.
I mean they have to compromise somewhere, somehow, lol. I have no clue how we will fair once kids come into the picture. I guess its one of those things you will need to pencil in.
OP, it may also help to explore things in the bedroom as well. There are devices, etc. if you get my drift. It makes for some great fun! Don't forget the lingerie.
Children never got in the way for me and all 3 of my kids slept in the bed until 2yrs old. We had sex in the living room a lot and would doze off afterward, then sneak back in bed. One time my oldest when she was 4 said in a sing songy voice "you get naked in the covers with daddy sometimes" I said "what are you talking about? She said she saw me sleeping naked with daddy when she went potty sometimes. I said oh, sometimes we like to talk and don't want to wake your brother up 
After that we had to get more creative but still got it in on the regular
Perfect suggestion. Thank you.
Just want to comment on the above. don't worry about it, continue to make it a priority and it will work out
It's very normal, maybe that's why I find it so endearing. I am hoping that we can keep it together. We started to strategize already, so I hope that we can stick to it. That was very comforting to read, thanks for posting!
...it would be a serious everything stop situation if we went days without..thats our love language though so it works.....unless one of us is traveling then there are no lapses..no children yet though..as women we go thru the motions of everyday life so i get it...
Yeah, but... women have to be more demanding. If you're busting your tail around the house and he busy trynna get some
, it's on *you* to state your needs. In fact, that's the perfect time. If you say you 'need' a spa day in order to feel 'right' 
, if he wants some, you'll have your spa day. every other day for us. I'd never get anything done if we did it everyday. I need my recovery time. 
OAN
We were like that the first few years, but people gotta work, people gotta cook/clean, etc. This dude be wearing me out. I used to be able to color, shower, and get back to the club. No more.
I'm lucky if I can make it to the bathroom before passing out.
In my last relationship I had considered keeping track of how often me and my live-in bf were having sex. I can be pretty technical. I just wanted to gauge if it was "enough".
I don't find his spreadsheet weird. But it doesn't help that other's find me weird either.
OP, you sound a bit too comfortable with the idea of not having sex. I wonder if he brought it up and you kind of missed what he was saying. Either way, I think the advice in the thread is pretty good.
so I will restrict and demand sex on certain days to make the pattern and I take a screenshot at the end of the month and send it to him to congratulate him on our pattern 
