Crystalicequeen123
Well-Known Member
Okay....I have a question:
How important is attraction (not necessarily simply just physical however) to you in a romantic relationship?
I'd like to know from ladies who are either married or in long-term serious relationships. I'm just wondering because I have a friend of mine who has recently expressed some interest in me, and while I'm loving the attention and he's pursuing (YESS!! ), I'm finding that I don't feel a "spark" when I'm with him! He's not super "ugly" or anything, but he's not really my "type". I almost can't look at him sometimes because I'm not feeling any attraction for him...poor guy. He likes me so much too. But he's a GREAT guy don't get me wrong, we have great conversations together (over the PHONE and text lol) and he's DOING and SAYING alllll the right things , but I find that when I see him in person I don't feel anything! I'd rather talk to him over the phone instead of in person. Is attraction something that grows over time for women? Should I give him more time?
My only beef is that when I ask my friends about attraction that they have for their SO almost every single girl friend that I talk to who is dating or is engaged to be married has told me that they either felt some sort of attraction or a feeling of "he's kinda cute" when they met their boyfriends/fiance's. I always feel so down because I want that too!
I'm thinking...when will I get that feeling??? I need something MUTUAL! Come on...IS this so hard to find?? I've had that "feeling" before for another guy friend of mine, but that didn't work out. But I would hope that the next guy that I date seriously would be someone who would not only be INTO me, but also someone who I could be INTO as well. I want the giddy feelings...the butterflies...the "I can't wait to see him" feeling.
So tell me ladies...am I crazy for wanting this? Have I been duped by Hollywood and thier silly portrayals of romantic fantasy? Have I been watching too many Lifetime movies or something? lol.... Should I continue to talk w/him and see him and see where things go? Or...cut my losses now? He has almost everything I look for in a man in how he treats me, but is that enough? I don't want to be TOO picky and end up alone....
How important is attraction (not necessarily simply just physical however) to you in a romantic relationship?
I'd like to know from ladies who are either married or in long-term serious relationships. I'm just wondering because I have a friend of mine who has recently expressed some interest in me, and while I'm loving the attention and he's pursuing (YESS!! ), I'm finding that I don't feel a "spark" when I'm with him! He's not super "ugly" or anything, but he's not really my "type". I almost can't look at him sometimes because I'm not feeling any attraction for him...poor guy. He likes me so much too. But he's a GREAT guy don't get me wrong, we have great conversations together (over the PHONE and text lol) and he's DOING and SAYING alllll the right things , but I find that when I see him in person I don't feel anything! I'd rather talk to him over the phone instead of in person. Is attraction something that grows over time for women? Should I give him more time?
My only beef is that when I ask my friends about attraction that they have for their SO almost every single girl friend that I talk to who is dating or is engaged to be married has told me that they either felt some sort of attraction or a feeling of "he's kinda cute" when they met their boyfriends/fiance's. I always feel so down because I want that too!
I'm thinking...when will I get that feeling??? I need something MUTUAL! Come on...IS this so hard to find?? I've had that "feeling" before for another guy friend of mine, but that didn't work out. But I would hope that the next guy that I date seriously would be someone who would not only be INTO me, but also someone who I could be INTO as well. I want the giddy feelings...the butterflies...the "I can't wait to see him" feeling.
So tell me ladies...am I crazy for wanting this? Have I been duped by Hollywood and thier silly portrayals of romantic fantasy? Have I been watching too many Lifetime movies or something? lol.... Should I continue to talk w/him and see him and see where things go? Or...cut my losses now? He has almost everything I look for in a man in how he treats me, but is that enough? I don't want to be TOO picky and end up alone....