Married Ladies Random Thoughts

Miss617 said:
LOL, they're fruits. They're also called Spanish limes or guineps. They're delicious (sorry for the huge picture!)
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Girl why did I come in here :cry3::cry3:

Now I want some guineps
 
IslandMummy said:
Girl why did I come in here :cry3::cry3:

Now I want some guineps
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Sorry!! He said they were like $4 a pound which is highway robbery. We got like 5 pounds for $3 or something like that in Puerto Rico. I brought some back and froze them. :look: Had quenepas for weeks!

Did I ever tell y'all about how when we went to Aruba, someone had a tree in their backyard, so we thought that meant they would have some in stores?

NOT A SINGLE STORE SOLD THEM. Most didn't even know what they were. I was so hurt. I wanted to ask the person with the tree if we could have some, I was willing to pay. But DH talked me out of it because the house looked sketchy LOL.
 
I really hope DH is just messing with me. We were playing with DS and he goes, "So, are you ready to do this again?" I'm like do what again? He says have another kid.

Me:
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DS was recently diagnosed as autistic. I asked DH if he was OK with not having another kid if that turned out to be the case. He said OK, he has DS and DSD, so he's good. So... what changed and when?

Me: "I thought we agreed."

Him: "Not even when he's like 4 or 5 and he's all settled?"

Me:
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Him: "We'll revisit this later."

Me:
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Him: "We'll revisit this later."

Me:
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I hope he's not serious because I don't see myself changing my mind anytime soon, if at all.
 
I believe my man picker worked well with dh. I had surgery on Tuesday and he's been there by my side, taking care of me, giving me my meds, tracking the times I took them, emptying my drains and recording how much fluid was in each etc. My mom is here too but she's afraid of medical procedures. She was in the room while he was emptying the drains yesterday. The woman literally ran out. She said she'll take care of the house and the baby.

I'm so appreciative that he's been so caring and supportive throughout this process.
 
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Today's our anniversary. Four years. He came home, didn't say anything. I was like, "Wow, you really forgot?" He said what's today's date and I told him, then he said happy anniversary. I'm not surprised or upset that he forgot - we have been so busy trying to make sure DS is straight that I almost forgot my darn self. I hope we're able to go out tonight or tomorrow even though we went out last weekend.
 
5 years in today
We made it back from Europe Wed and dh was like we have a lot to do. I told him all I'd do was sex and sleep. He insisted that we needed to get some things done that night. And I was like do what you gotta, shower, sex and sleep is all Ima do :)
Wake up Thursday and he's like pack a bag. I pack an overnight and he tells me to just pack the suitcase. And we head back to the airport. I really like him :lachen:
Except the part where he wouldn't tell me what to pack so I have one bathing suit, the one that's kinda a bit too sexy for this resort. Oh well. They gone get this :gorgeous:
 
DH and I are getting ready to start a family and I have been feeling conflicted because I have to say goodbye to a career that is burgeoning to begin settling into home life. I know that I would never be happy as a working mom but I'm competitive and the thought of losing this momentum makes makes me feel a bit sad. I know we are stable and "ready" but I'm really enjoying the climb and I can telecommute whenever the white people become too much. We've finally found a couple we enjoy double dating with and being around their 2 year old makes my heart beat faster. When we came home from dinner tonight, we spoke to my mom who is considering divorcing my father after 26 years of marriage... It's been difficult...so much more than I thought. I'm not a teenager anymore but it still hurts. Anyways, after we hung up with my mom DH told me not to worry and that it would never happen to us. He said that he knew as soon as we met that he had to commit to being my provider, caretaker, and protector and that it comes before everything. I think it was exactly what I needed to hear. He's got it handled and I just need to chill. I smiled at him but in my head I was like My ni...gga. When I woke up this morning replaying that brought tears to my eyes. I love him, truly. I have never felt more powerful in my life. I hope the same for all of you ladies.

Any advice on transitioning from working to stay at home life?
 
Virtuosa said:
DH and I are getting ready to start a family and I have been feeling conflicted because I have to say goodbye to a career that is burgeoning to begin settling into home life. I know that I would never be happy as a working mom but I'm competitive and the thought of losing this momentum makes makes me feel a bit sad. I know we are stable and "ready" but I'm really enjoying the climb and I can telecommute whenever the white people become too much. We've finally found a couple we enjoy double dating with and being around their 2 year old makes my heart beat faster. When we came home from dinner tonight, we spoke to my mom who is considering divorcing my father after 26 years of marriage... It's been difficult...so much more than I thought. I'm not a teenager anymore but it still hurts. Anyways, after we hung up with my mom DH told me not to worry and that it would never happen to us. He said that he knew as soon as we met that he had to commit to being my provider, caretaker, and protector and that it comes before everything. I think it was exactly what I needed to hear. He's got it handled and I just need to chill. I smiled at him but in my head I was like My ni...gga. When I woke up this morning replaying that brought tears to my eyes. I love him, truly. I have never felt more powerful in my life. I hope the same for all of you ladies.

Any advice on transitioning from working to stay at home life?
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I don't know but if you decide to...we're in it together. I quit my job to be a stay at home mom. And it feels lovely.
 
Virtuosa said:
DH and I are getting ready to start a family and I have been feeling conflicted because I have to say goodbye to a career that is burgeoning to begin settling into home life. I know that I would never be happy as a working mom but I'm competitive and the thought of losing this momentum makes makes me feel a bit sad. I know we are stable and "ready" but I'm really enjoying the climb and I can telecommute whenever the white people become too much. We've finally found a couple we enjoy double dating with and being around their 2 year old makes my heart beat faster. When we came home from dinner tonight, we spoke to my mom who is considering divorcing my father after 26 years of marriage... It's been difficult...so much more than I thought. I'm not a teenager anymore but it still hurts. Anyways, after we hung up with my mom DH told me not to worry and that it would never happen to us. He said that he knew as soon as we met that he had to commit to being my provider, caretaker, and protector and that it comes before everything. I think it was exactly what I needed to hear. He's got it handled and I just need to chill. I smiled at him but in my head I was like My ni...gga. When I woke up this morning replaying that brought tears to my eyes. I love him, truly. I have never felt more powerful in my life. I hope the same for all of you ladies.

Any advice on transitioning from working to stay at home life?
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Congrats on staying at home. I have been at home the past 4 years. I'm going back to work part time now about 20 hours a week but I always wanted to stay at home with my babies when they are small.

Would your DH be agreeable to you having your own account that he deposits some of his paycheck into? Whenever I've stayed at home, this has been our set up. We have a joint family account that we pay bills from, but I have my "own" money as well. I just believe in having this personally for any woman but I understand everyone is different. DH has always been ok with it, but I know some men might be put off.

Once you have children, I would advise you to find a network of other stay at home moms (which can be hard to do sometimes) who have kids similar ages. This has been one of the biggest things for me. Staying at home can sometimes receive negative reactions from other moms and people in general. When I decided to stay home the first time, people were trying to talk me out of it, telling me how my life would go downhill from now on, that they were surprised an outgoing person like myself would ever stay at home (I had no idea I was outgoing :lol: ) .

I think people have preconceived notions of how SAHMs are and it's not positive all the time. You may have to remind yourself why you are staying home, because more than likely, there will be some self doubt. It can also be hard seeing people who were in a similar career position progressing in their careers. Again, that is a time when you have to remind yourself for your reasons for staying home. Also, remind yourself that a lot of women would kill to be at home with their children (despite what people might say).

Keep a schedule and give yourself regulations . It's easy to fall off, especially when kids come along. No matter what, I get dressed everyday and follow a morning routine (I know a lot SAHMs who do not, they will show up to playdates in clothes they slept in, etc). Keep in touch with your friends as much as you can and make sure to have a girls night out on occasion, as well as date night with hubby :)

I treat taking care of my family and house as my job. It IS my job and something to take pride in and do well.

I wish I were had more for you, but that's just it off the top of my head.
 
locabouthair said:
I still use my maiden name at work and haven't changed it on my ID's. I think DH feels a way about it sometimes.
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Mine says he doesn't care, but he always makes a snarky comment whenever someone asks if I me, him and DS all have the same last name. Whatever, man. :rolleyes:

I will still be using my maiden name professionally though because that's what my portfolio is under.
 
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Miss617 said:
Mine says he doesn't care, but he always makes a snarky comment whenever someone asks if I me, him and DS all have the same last name. Whatever, man. :rolleyes:

I will still be using my maiden name professionally though because that's what my portfolio is under.
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I hyphenated only because I didn't want issues with our immigration paperwork :look: I changed my DL and SS card but everything remained the same.

I still use my name and get the :confused: face.

Anniversary was cool, not as much sex as I would have liked but fun times.

Now I'm back to house hunting full time so we can get on the by November. Hoping to have another $15k saved by then and also we are trying to open ourselves to the possibility of moving to a lower cost area. As much as we love where we live, buying a $600k home that's really only worth half of that makes no financial sense.
 
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