Married Ladies Random Thoughts

We attended a friends wedding yesterday and before we left the house DH said the bride was going to ask me to leave :p

Get to the wedding and one his teammates comes up and asks if he has any money left in his account because he had to empty it out to make this happy and look this good :2inlove:

DH has been really taking care of me, which he always does, but since the miscarriage he doesn't like anything to stress me out. He's bought me more books on Amazon in the last few months than he's bought in eight years lol.
 
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Ran into someone my husband used to date while we were out today at an event we were invited to. It wasn’t a long event maybe a hour to show support and leave. I have never run into someone who used to date someone I was currently seeing before. I’m pretty drama free and go about life without those type of situations popping up. Ironic that this would occur for the first time after marriage. I supposed this is common. Since this was a first for me I will post about it.

I failed to notice her before she noticed me. I felt like when my husband let me know a glimpse of the past walked in(I tell him to do this if we run into exes so neither of us is ever caught off guard. It's not a big deal because neither of us have dealt with a lot of ppl but I digress) I was supposed to feel a way. My mind was logically looking for an adrenaline rush fight-or flight response to kick in. It didn’t. She was pretty. That I noticed. I can stand my ground with the best of them. I have no doubt she noticed my "pretty" also as when I looked in her direction her stare become a flustered redirect. My husband and I were doing our thing together and kept our focus on what we were doing. It wasn't an issue. My husband and I didn't cross paths with her and her friends before leaving. No real effort to cross paths or avoid them. It just didn't happen.

Once we got in the car and started driving home my husband was like “N*gga moment: I saw her reaction when she saw you next to me and it felt awesome. It was like a 1-2 knockout and you didn't even swing on purpose. Thanks for being my wife. Thanks for not being like nobody else ” and busted out laughing.

I admit that was petty. I imagine if we ran into one of my exes I would have a similar moment of pride in noticing the ex find out how fine my husband is and how he treats me when we are out. I would probably be amused too and let myself chuckle at the exes discomfort.
 
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Lylddlebit said:
Ran into someone my husband used to date while we were out today at an event we were invited to. It wasn’t a long event maybe a hour to show support and leave. I have never run into someone who used to date someone I was currently seeing before. I’m pretty drama free and go about life without those type of situations popping up. Ironic that this would occur for the first time after marriage. I supposed this is common. Since this was a first for me I will post about it.

I failed to notice her before she noticed me. I felt like when my husband let me know a glimpse of the past walked in(I tell him to do this if we run into exes so neither of us is ever caught off guard. It's not a big deal because neither of us have dealt with a lot of ppl but I digress) I was supposed to feel a way. My mind was logically looking for an adrenaline rush fight-or flight response to kick in. It didn’t. She was pretty. That I noticed. I can stand my ground with the best of them. I have no doubt she noticed my "pretty" also as when I looked in her direction her stare become a flustered redirect. My husband and I were doing our thing together and kept our focus on what we were doing. It wasn't an issue. My husband and I didn't cross paths with her and her friends before leaving. No real effort to cross paths or avoid them. It just didn't happen.

Once we got in the car and started driving home my husband was like “N*gga moment: I saw her reaction when she saw you next to me and it felt awesome. It was like a 1-2 knockout and you didn't even swing on purpose. Thanks for being my wife. Thanks for not being like nobody else ” and busted out laughing.

I admit that was petty. I imagine if we ran into one of my exes I would have a similar moment of pride in noticing the ex find out how fine my husband is and how he treats me when we are out. I would probably be amused too and let myself chuckle at the exes discomfort.
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Reading your story I was thinking how we have never really run into exes (just once when we were dated, my husband's ex was a waitress at one of the restaurants we went to.) But then I realized this just happened a few months ago. Hubby and I were out at happy hour with a few of my cousins. I was just enjoying the evening and not paying attention to who was in the building. When I left, I noticed my ex sent me a message like how were you just at XXX. I was thinking now how the heck would he have known that. So I responded yes. He said I saw you in there. I asked him why didn't he come say hi because I clearly didn't see him. He said because I was with my husband and it would have been awkward. Mind you, this ex is married, and I have not seen him in over 10 yrs. Why would it be awkward *shrugs*.

ETA my hubby can look intimidating I guess. He is 6'4 and is really muscular while this ex is kinda chunky and only like 5'8 so I guess I can see why he didn't want to come over lol to say hello
 
I ran into an ex several months ago during homecoming. DH is very well aware of him. He gave me a long hug, but we hadn't seen each other in over 15 years, so I guess it was appropriate. Then he held both of my hands, stood back and just stared at me, asked me how I was doing, etc... Throughout the night, I would look up and catch him staring at me. It was weird. Saw him the next night at another get together and I was going to approach him just to catch up and see how things are going in his life, but he was a bit cold/distant so I kept it moving.
 
so we looked at more homes this weekend and both of us seemed to be losing steam. I try to stay positive so he can remain positive. I know my home is out there waiting for me. I can't tell you how many homes I have looked at where the square footage is a joke and the price an even bigger joke. Then there are the homes where people jut slap a high tag on it and have not made any upgrades since living there. I will not settle but it is a frustrating time!
 
syze6 said:
so we looked at more homes this weekend and both of us seemed to be losing steam. I try to stay positive so he can remain positive. I know my home is out there waiting for me. I can't tell you how many homes I have looked at where the square footage is a joke and the price an even bigger joke. Then there are the homes where people jut slap a high tag on it and have not made any upgrades since living there. I will not settle but it is a frustrating time!
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You don't happen to be in south Florida do you? Because these prices and homes are big big jokes!

We've cooled on the home buying momentarily to scout out what we must have (space, pool, back yard) versus what we can live without (two stories, new construction) and which neighborhood is the most beneficial to our babies.
 
IslandMummy said:
You don't happen to be in south Florida do you? Because these prices and homes are big big jokes!

We've cooled on the home buying momentarily to scout out what we must have (space, pool, back yard) versus what we can live without (two stories, new construction) and which neighborhood is the most beneficial to our babies.
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Illinois...my friend lives in Indiana and has a 5 bedroom home, 4 stories two kitchens, three balconies off the lake and it cost 230,000. These folks are asking that in the west suburbs for three bedrooms, 980-1000 sq ft some don't even have a full basement or dining room.
 
syze6 said:
Illinois...my friend lives in Indiana and has a 5 bedroom home, 4 stories two kitchens, three balconies off the lake and it cost 230,000. These folks are asking that in the west suburbs for three bedrooms, 980-1000 sq ft some don't even have a full basement or dining room.
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Same mess going on here. 894 sq ft 3/2 for $230k; how sway??? Meanwhile two hours up 95 and you have 5/3 with a pool and 2 acres of land for $210k
 
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Same mess going on here. 894 sq ft 3/2 for $230k; how sway??? Meanwhile two hours up 95 and you have 5/3 with a pool and 2 acres of land for $210k
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Crazy...I just refuse to settle for a small home with that price tag...it is ridiculous. I'd get a town home before I do that. Sadly...it doesn't seem as if prices will decrease anytime soon. Its funny how my realtor fails to get me info on any homes I see that are rehab potential or foreclosed. then I look up and they have contracts on them. I inquired about two homes and she did not get back to me, then when she does, she says they had contracts on them within that week. Well maybe I could have been one of those contracts if she would have responded. She is so focused on me sending her the preapproval letter. Which I told her the bank and amount of approval.
 
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Lylddlebit said:
Ran into someone my husband used to date while we were out today at an event we were invited to. It wasn’t a long event maybe a hour to show support and leave. I have never run into someone who used to date someone I was currently seeing before. I’m pretty drama free and go about life without those type of situations popping up. Ironic that this would occur for the first time after marriage. I supposed this is common. Since this was a first for me I will post about it.

I failed to notice her before she noticed me. I felt like when my husband let me know a glimpse of the past walked in(I tell him to do this if we run into exes so neither of us is ever caught off guard. It's not a big deal because neither of us have dealt with a lot of ppl but I digress) I was supposed to feel a way. My mind was logically looking for an adrenaline rush fight-or flight response to kick in. It didn’t. She was pretty. That I noticed. I can stand my ground with the best of them. I have no doubt she noticed my "pretty" also as when I looked in her direction her stare become a flustered redirect. My husband and I were doing our thing together and kept our focus on what we were doing. It wasn't an issue. My husband and I didn't cross paths with her and her friends before leaving. No real effort to cross paths or avoid them. It just didn't happen.

Once we got in the car and started driving home my husband was like “N*gga moment: I saw her reaction when she saw you next to me and it felt awesome. It was like a 1-2 knockout and you didn't even swing on purpose. Thanks for being my wife. Thanks for not being like nobody else ” and busted out laughing.

I admit that was petty. I imagine if we ran into one of my exes I would have a similar moment of pride in noticing the ex find out how fine my husband is and how he treats me when we are out. I would probably be amused too and let myself chuckle at the exes discomfort.
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I was in dh bestfriend wedding. One of the other bridesmaids was his long time ex. Off and on 5 or so years.
We we're both present and involved in the bachelorette, bridal shower and pre wedding activities. At the end of the 6 month stretch we genuinely liked each other.
 
CafedeBelleza said:
I was in dh bestfriend wedding. One of the other bridesmaids was his long time ex. Off and on 5 or so years.
We we're both present and involved in the bachelorette, bridal shower and pre wedding activities. At the end of the 6 month stretch we genuinely liked each other.
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See I think this is wonderful, but I know my personal limits. There are certain areas that if someone crosses a line with me my response is going to drastically exceed the offense so I have to keep away from the opportunity and move the line out of reach. One day I may get to that level. I'm not chit chat, team building and smile in their face level. I'm don't let them impact what your doing level. Plan B remove yourself gracefully if need be level. Lol
 
Lylddlebit said:
See I think this is wonderful, but I know my personal limits. There are certain areas that if someone crosses a line with me my response is going to drastically exceed the offense so I have to keep away from the opportunity and move the line out of reach. One day I may get to that level. I'm not chit chat, team building and smile in their face level. I'm don't let them impact what your doing level. Plan B remove yourself gracefully if need be level. Lol
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She isn't the aggressive type, so I figured it would be fine. I gave her a chance to be justnanother chick in the wedding and I think she did the same for me.
 
syze6 said:
Crazy...I just refuse to settle for a small home with that price tag...it is ridiculous. I'd get a town home before I do that. Sadly...it doesn't seem as if prices will decrease anytime soon. Its funny how my realtor fails to get me info on any homes I see that are rehab potential or foreclosed. then I look up and they have contracts on them. I inquired about two homes and she did not get back to me, then when she does, she says they had contracts on them within that week. Well maybe I could have been one of those contracts if she would have responded. She is so focused on me sending her the preapproval letter. Which I told her the bank and amount of approval.
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We learned not to even look at the foreclosure houses down here; the investors offer cash so the sellers don't even bother with a regular buyer. The process has been frustrating but enlightening all in one go. I'm trying not to let it stress me out but I want to call these people and ask if they're smoking crack to offer these 1969 built houses with enough room for a toy poodle at an astronomical prices.

We will find the houses meant for us.
 
IslandMummy said:
We learned not to even look at the foreclosure houses down here; the investors offer cash so the sellers don't even bother with a regular buyer. The process has been frustrating but enlightening all in one go. I'm trying not to let it stress me out but I want to call these people and ask if they're smoking crack to offer these 1969 built houses with enough room for a toy poodle at an astronomical prices.

We will find the houses meant for us.
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Yes you will and so will I. Yes...I get angry when I see a home in 1960 priced 200+ really. I will make sure when I lay my head down the first night in my home, I have no buyer's remorse. Yeah...I think investors are buying up these homes as well. I can see a home listed and I swear within a coupe of days it has contingent on it. I don't even bother with the home once I see a contingent status.
 
I found my DH downstairs looing at an old cd-rom from 2004 when our daughter was first born. He kept saying, "I can't believe she has grown up so much. My little girl is growing up." He has been going through some things this year since she started her period, began developing, "noticing" boys, and having ATTITUDE for days. I have him a big hug and rubbed his back like I do the girls! He wasn't doing a full on Lebron, but I did notice some misting!
 
Alta Angel said:
I found my DH downstairs looing at an old cd-rom from 2004 when our daughter was first born. He kept saying, "I can't believe she has grown up so much. My little girl is growing up." He has been going through some things this year since she started her period, began developing, "noticing" boys, and having ATTITUDE for days. I have him a big hug and rubbed his back like I do the girls! He wasn't doing a full on Lebron, but I did notice some misting!
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LOL...it's funny how men hate to see their girls grow up. When my daughter got her cycle, my hubby was sad for three days straight.
 
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So I found the home and I loved it! We offered full asking price for it because of multiple offers. The listing agent said the seller was choosing the best offer...that's it. She stated she thinks it was priced below market price to begin with.So my realtor comes back last nigh at 10pm and says they want $7100 more. They see we are pre-approved for a much higher loan which speaks to our credit and they know there would be no issue with closing. They have others who offered higher but they want to negotiate with us. Well...I thought full asking price was good and I don't want to pay $7100 more from what you listed. The sellers are not paying anything, no home warranty, and we still have closing cost of $5000. They updated the kitchen and one bath back in 2010 they skipped the second bath, floors are original for this 1956 year home. There are other homes that have been rehabbed from top to bottom that have sold for close to what we offered this one I always said if the house is for me, it would be my home. I feel they are trying to take advantage of the fact we are pre-approved for more and our finances are in order. I say no thanks to the whole thing!

So my realtor said the seller actually priced a little below market value and that produces multiple bidding, so the seller actually ends up with the price they really wanted. It's just a game to me with this industry. The house is now under contract and the seller accepted an offer that was $$7000 over the house value.
 
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ItsMeLilLucky said:
I don't know what quenepas are and I'm too lazy to google, but yay for hubby gifts :toocool:
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LOL, they're fruits. They're also called Spanish limes or guineps. They're delicious (sorry for the huge picture!)
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