sunnieb
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Oh no!.
Back to normal.
I swear you know way more than you should!
You know it's true. We laughing and talmbout football now.
Marriage. I tell ya. Ups and downs!
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I swear you know way more than you should!
You know it's true. We laughing and talmbout football now.
Marriage. I tell ya. Ups and downs!
locabouthair
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I'm thinking about confiding in my elder who gave us pre marital counseling. Have some things on my mind but it's hard for me to open up to people.
On another note, DH is alwaysss touching me. I know I shouldn't complain but it's like dag again??
@sunnieb (hugs) I'm praying for you and your DH.
On another note, DH is alwaysss touching me. I know I shouldn't complain but it's like dag again??
@sunnieb (hugs) I'm praying for you and your DH.
Yep...and you have to appreciate those ups and downs when you think about it! LOL!I swear you know way more than you should!
You know it's true. We laughing and talmbout football now.
Marriage. I tell ya. Ups and downs!
Dee-Licious
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So my push gift has been picked out
No, I'm not pregnant
No, I'm not actively trying
It came up and was decided on conversation
No, I'm not pregnant
No, I'm not actively trying
It came up and was decided on conversation
summertimewine
*sips tea*
So my DH is looking to join a branch of the military! I'm okay with it, all of the males in my family have served and I lived on bases until I was 10. I'm hoping he joins the air force but we shall see
Libra08
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Make him join the Air Force and make him get an Intel job or maybe cyber. We make good money on the outside because of the top secret clearance. People usually do a few years then get out because the money is that good. There are some comm/information systems type jobs that require top secrets too. If you want more info about that I can dig around for you. I don't know the specific jobs for cyber but I believe it's cyber transport systems? Starting salary around 80k (no bachelors) in the DMV area if you don't mind the northeast. And we don't deploy unless we really want to and even then it's pretty competitive. DH and I are both Air Force and Intel. Together, we were pulling offers that would bring our combined salaries to almost 200k when we were planning on getting out. We ended up getting orders to Hawaii so we'll be there for three years instead
. Please PM me if he has any questions about jobs or the process because recruiters are shady af. My recruiter tried to get me to take a supply job when I already had a bachelors.
summertimewine
*sips tea*
Thank you so much! I will be PMing you!Make him join the Air Force and make him get an Intel job or maybe cyber. We make good money on the outside because of the top secret clearance. People usually do a few years then get out because the money is that good. There are some comm/information systems type jobs that require top secrets too. If you want more info about that I can dig around for you. I don't know the specific jobs for cyber but I believe it's cyber transport systems? Starting salary around 80k (no bachelors) in the DMV area if you don't mind the northeast. And we don't deploy unless we really want to and even then it's pretty competitive. DH and I are both Air Force and Intel. Together, we were pulling offers that would bring our combined salaries to almost 200k when we were planning on getting out. We ended up getting orders to Hawaii so we'll be there for three years instead
sunnieb
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Happy 23rd Anniversary to me and the love of my life!
We've been together 27 years total now and people still can't believe we've made it this far.
The road has been long, joyous, thrilling, loving, laughing, giggling, kissing, smooching, and the best years of my life.
My baby is having some health struggles right now, but he's strong in spirit and we plan to celebrate many MANY more anniversaries!
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!
We've been together 27 years total now and people still can't believe we've made it this far.
The road has been long, joyous, thrilling, loving, laughing, giggling, kissing, smooching, and the best years of my life.
My baby is having some health struggles right now, but he's strong in spirit and we plan to celebrate many MANY more anniversaries!
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!
GoingNatural
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My husband is the guy that comes in the house and throws his clothes randomly across our bedroom floor. Last night he completely cleaned out our closet and filled three trash bags full of clothes for donation AND gave me more room in the closet. WHO IS THIS MAN. He can clean?! Happy Valentine's day to me
Hubby bought me the cutest pair of New Balance gym shoes. He knows I am into my fitness and my classes, so it's funny to me when I wake up in the morning to see another box of gym shoes. He's always like, "Bae these match this work out wear!". It is funny because he keep me stocked with fitness shoes, from Nike, Reebok, New Balance and Puma. I guess I look fashionable with all the sweating like a cow I'm doing! LOL!
Dee-Licious
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that's sweet and encouraging.. he's supports your efforts
Taleah2009
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Enjoyed our Vday. We usually don't do much to celebrate so I was very shocked Hubby made reservations for us at a really nice restaurant and bought me some sneakers and chocolate covered strawberries. I felt bad because I didn't get him anything. I will make it up to him.
Taleah2009
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So funny I got sneakers too! lol. If it wasn't for my husband I wouldn't have any lol. His intentions were for me to wear them to the gym, but I like them too much for that lol.
Femmefatal1981
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I know I agreed to move wherever we had to for his career but 
and a little bit of 
and a little bit of I know I agreed to move wherever we had to for his career but
Just take a moment to breathe!
Femmefatal1981
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Thank you!Just take a moment to breathe!
I'm over it...I will make it work as I always do when the time comes but I rarely say these things aloud.
Sky
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So.... I don't know if I'm being too sensitive but I got really annoyed at my husband last night when he suggested something "we" need to do to stay on top of the kids. So for example , he can be passive aggressive which I can't stand and will say something like " yes WE really need to make sure the kids get to bed on time" or "We need to make sure DS completes his projects on time ". But he says it in
a tone like " YOU" and of course it's after I dropped the ball with something he * easily * could've helped out with. Instead of saying " baby I see you got a lot going on - do you need help putting DS to bed?" It made me so mad last night " we need to make sure DS has her bath every night" I'm looking like you know where the tub is the soap and towels. Arghh Am I overreacting??????
a tone like " YOU" and of course it's after I dropped the ball with something he * easily * could've helped out with. Instead of saying " baby I see you got a lot going on - do you need help putting DS to bed?" It made me so mad last night " we need to make sure DS has her bath every night" I'm looking like you know where the tub is the soap and towels. Arghh Am I overreacting??????
Dee-Licious
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Dee-Licious
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My solution to his snoring is that there are other comfortable beds in our home.
If he starts snoring and nudging/pillows don't fix it, I politely move to another bed. He wakes up sour saying I left him, but he'll be alright. I need my sleep. Sleep study didn't find an issue, so he needs to find a solution... strips.. something
If he starts snoring and nudging/pillows don't fix it, I politely move to another bed. He wakes up sour saying I left him, but he'll be alright. I need my sleep. Sleep study didn't find an issue, so he needs to find a solution... strips.. something
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hopeful
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Right! Not at all. I once read that you should treat passive aggression like the aggression it really is. Imagine him saying, "You dropped the ball! You better do better with the kids!" Makes it easier to respond appropriately, boldly, and with more confidence. Say whatever comes naturally. Something like yes we do need to do better. Why don't you do ____ tomorrow. That would be very helpful to me and would help us do better
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Sky
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Yes and he agreed. But it just bothered me. He was like ok baby I need to step up - just tell me what I need to do. But I'm still annoyed. One thing I am working on is forgiveness and not holding a grudge. When you piss me off it's hard for me to let it go. I don't get pissed off easily but when I do .... lol. It's hard for me to redirect myself when I'm worked up. I'm working on it ....
Sky
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Right! Not at all. I once read that you should treat passive aggression like the aggression it really is. Imagine him saying, "You dropped the ball! You better do better with the kids!" Makes it easier to respond appropriately, boldly, and with more confidence. Say whatever comes naturally. Something like yes we do need to do better. Why don't you do ____ tomorrow. That would be very helpful to me and would help us do better
Right. I think it's the passive aggressiveness that annoys me more... I did say that. And he obliged. It still annoyed me...
I hate that and it IS annoying! My hubby used to say things like, WE need to do xyz. He was always good at pointing out things that needed to be done, but HE wasn't the one who ended up doing it. When I reminded him that I work a full time job just like WE and contributed to the household bills also he stopped all that. I told him whatever he see needs to be done hop to it.
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