Married Ladies Random Thoughts

hopeful said:
@PrissiSippi
Good for you! If someone exchanged a gift I gave them for a color or design they preferred, I would be happy. It's not like you threw it away or something. Also, so happy you are getting your rest and taking care of you!
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lol I have no choice these days. I'm so tired. Were y'all like that? I can sleep 12 hours these days lol
 
lana said:
I'm not on here much, but read a few pages back about being direct and telling DH what I want. I want two things from him more regularly, so I told him. He was like "okay".

In certain ways, men are so easy to deal with, it's like I make things complicated. He doesn't.
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Pay attention to his behavior. My dh was always saying just ask. Then he'd say okay. Then keep "forgetting" what he promised. I hope your dh comes through for you and makes things easy for you. You deserve that:yep:.
 
divachyk said:
Next week is a big week. We will get an update on how well treatment is going. We are praying we hear the magical words, no evidence of disease (cancer). Every day has gotten better since I last posted. He's now walking without assistance and back driving. God is good!
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This makes me so happy! I've been praying for your DH since the last time you posted about his health! God is good! I will continue to pray for your husband to be healed!
 
I miss my husband terribly. He works offshore and is gone for two weeks at a time. So I manage the house and kids by myself...I just miss him so much. He's such a big help when he comes home- he cooks, takes over picking up the kids and running errands. Our marriage isn't perfect and I'm the crazy one usually, lol but I just miss him so much. The weeks he's gone are very long and the weeks he's here are too short. He's been working offshore since we first started dating, so this isn't new..but 4 years later- it isn't any easier. He requested a voluntary leave package that was supposed to terminate his job at the end of the year but they extended his time there until the end of February. I'm just over it....my baby is growing and changing at a fast rate and he's missing it...
Anyway I'm sorry for the long rant. I try not to complain to him because it makes it harder for him while out there- so I'm just venting here. Thank you ladies.
 
hopeful said:
@futurelonglocks
No need to apologize for venting. It's ok, we understand and we got you. Vent anytime. I hope these next couple months pass quickly. Hang in there. You hubby sounds very sweet.
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Thank you! When he told me it was going to be February instead of December my heart sank. I am getting through the time with just taking things one hitch (2weeks) at a time. Some days it's one day at a time.
 
Crap.

I just realized that I've been looking at stuff on Amazon on DH's account. I don't know why I'm still logged into his account on the Web version! This is why I need to stick with the app. I had to go through his recently viewed and delete everything I looked at for him and try not to spoil my own present if he got it through there. Oy vey.
 
DH does the silliest things sometimes and I can't help by laugh to keep from strangling him. He got a tattoo that he didn't tell me he was getting (well he mentioned it but I didn't take him too seriously about it). He came home like I have a surprise for you and shows it me. UGH... dude!

Anywho, last night he sleeps on the side where the tattoo and he wakes up he is says you are going to me. I'm like whats wrong. Dude had ink all over our brand new sheets. I just smh and told him he owes me a new pair of sheets. I just can't with him sometimes. lol
 
Are there any things (other than issues between you and your DH) that you think DH should not discuss with your parents?

DH and I argued over something about my sister that he confronted my mom about. They have a great relationship but I felf he overstepped his bounds by discussing how my mom parents my sister. I at least felt he should have talked to me first. He says he feels like 100% family and doesn't understand why I was upset by it. I was worried he would really piss my mom off but she was upset but ok the next day. Honestly I probably was the one who was most upset. Unfortunately I cannot reveal what it was about.

In as much as I like them being close I believe as hunan beings the in law relationship can never be the same as the biological one if the bio one is functional. I feel like when dealing with in-laws it is best to let the spouse whose parent it is deal with certain issues.

Perhaps also there is a cultural aspect to me being upset. Sure, stand up for yourself but it is very disrespectful to confront an adult parent over an issue that is not about the two of you

Another time he was upset because my siblings and I plus mom were talking to my mom about where to bury her when she dies and we did not include him. I felt it was not really his place no and I would not expect to be asked where to bury his mom. They get along but if she died it would not mean the same to him as it does us.
 
I feel like you have a closer bond to those you are biological with. Therefore if DH has a problem with my brother i should be the one to address it most of the time not DH and if I has a problem with DH family he should be the one to address it because thats his family.
 
Farida said:
Are there any things (other than issues between you and your DH) that you think DH should not discuss with your parents?

DH and I argued over something about my sister that he confronted my mom about. They have a great relationship but I felf he overstepped his bounds by discussing how my mom parents my sister. I at least felt he should have talked to me first. He says he feels like 100% family and doesn't understand why I was upset by it. I was worried he would really piss my mom off but she was upset but ok the next day. Honestly I probably was the one who was most upset. Unfortunately I cannot reveal what it was about.

In as much as I like them being close I believe as hunan beings the in law relationship can never be the same as the biological one if the bio one is functional. I feel like when dealing with in-laws it is best to let the spouse whose parent it is deal with certain issues.

Perhaps also there is a cultural aspect to me being upset. Sure, stand up for yourself but it is very disrespectful to confront an adult parent over an issue that is not about the two of you

Another time he was upset because my siblings and I plus mom were talking to my mom about where to bury her when she dies and we did not include him. I felt it was not really his place no and I would not expect to be asked where to bury his mom. They get along but if she died it would not mean the same to him as it does us.
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I agree with you with regard to discussing with MIL and FIL. Dh has known my sisters over 25years and they have a close relationship so I'm ok if he discusses stuff with them in a diplomatic way.
 
Mini Olivia Pope. That's what I do. I fix things. Credit, your resume, wardrobe, image, goal making and etc. however I feel like I help people outside of my home a lot but not so much my husband because he doesn't reallynopen up to me or I feel he never makes a game plan with his dream which I in turn find annoying.

I fixed someone else's credit in which i probably shouldn't have but it didn't take much effort on my part. I just did what I've been doing for my credit to theirs. I think I get a high off of it because DH won't let me help him with his credit. He seems secretive and lets me see his score but only let's me look st his report from his computer and seems antsy when I do.

There were no red flags he mostly just hasn't had different types of credit. I keep pushing to let me help him with his credit but maybe I'm the only one who cares about credit scores, savings, and the like. Maybe he doesn't want my help because he just doesn't care. Maybe I'm just controlling and can't see it. Ima stand down.

From a practical point we don't "need" credit anymore. We have a house, card, and etc. I just like knowing if I DID need it. Baby I got it.
 
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