Married Ladies Random Thoughts

[PrissiSippi]

What I learned from the conference so far is that our relationship is not deeply rooted in the Word. We don't have a family vision. My husband doesn't lead so I will have to learn how to step back and not do anything until he leads. And just give it up. The pastor said you can't keep criticizing people for what God has already forgiven them for but I want to know what to do when they just keep doing it over and over. I'm looking forward to the conference again today to learn more and have more tools to use in my relationship.

 

[divachyk]

@Miss617 thank you so much!!

@sunnieb, dh never drank or smoke yet this is the card he was dealt in his 30s and again as he approached his 40th birthday. I could deal with it better if lived a life of neglect. Dr's believe his time in the military exposed him to questionable things that caused this. I need to join a support group and do things to get our affairs in order in case anything happens to either of us. We should not be here in our 40s. I'm greedy and want at least 50 more years too so I'm claiming that's exactly what we're going to get!!

 

[HappywithJC723]

I'm praying for both of your husbands, and you too ladies @sunnieb and @divachyk.

 

[PrissiSippi]

@Miss617 thank you so much!!

@sunnieb, dh never drank or smoke yet this is the card he was dealt in his 30s and again as he approached his 40th birthday. I could deal with it better if lived a life of neglect. Dr's believe his time in the military exposed him to questionable things that caused this. I need to join a support group and do things to get our affairs in order in case anything happens to either of us. We should not be here in our 40s. I'm greedy and want at least 50 more years too so I'm claiming that's exactly what we're going to get!!

Praying for his body to be healed andnyour strength during this time!!

 

[Shiks]

@sunnieb @divachyk I pray healing over your husbands. I pray you get to old age loving and laughing together. Lots of hugs and warm thoughts.

 

[Taleah2009]

I'm too excited my boudoir book arrived just time for our anniversary on Tuesday. I was sure I wouldn't receive it in time because they said I wouldn't get until after the 12th. I'm flipping excited and can't wait to give it to him

 

[divachyk]

Muah! TY ladies. @HappywithJC723, @PrissiSippi, @Shiks

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

@divachyk and @sunnieb Praying for both of you and your families!!

 

[sunnieb]

I need to post in the Planner thread, but this is appropriate here too.

2016 will mark our 27th Christmas together. At first, it was easy to buy gifts for him. As the years tick by, and we pretty much buy what we want/need all year, it got harder.

Around October, I'd usually start looking heavy for gift clues. That didn't always work. Now that I've gone back to an old fashioned planner, I write down gift ideas all year.

I listen to him talk about stuff he would like and I immediately write it on my secret gift list.

We were watching tv one night and he mentioned a hat a guy was wearing. I was able to Google it and added it to 'the list'.

Christmas shopping for dh is finally stress-free!

 

[Taleah2009]

Our marriage turned 1 yesterday! On to year two!

 

[Brwnbeauti]

So.... Dh friend is now dating his side chick from when he was married. Ima try to tuck my stank face in but...

 

[Taleah2009]

I don't think I have ever shared this before but I have a bonus daughter who lives in Florida. We are down here visiting her for the weekend and seeing my DH in daddy mode truly warms my heart and fills it with so much joy. I can't wait until we have kids.

 

[syze6]

So.... Dh friend is now dating his side chick from when he was married. Ima try to tuck my stank face in but...

I'm sure it's hard to do! LOL!

 

[PrissiSippi]

I don't think I have ever shared this before but I have a bonus daughter who lives in Florida. We are down here visiting her for the weekend and seeing my DH in daddy mode truly warms my heart and fills it with so much joy. I can't wait until we have kids.

What's a bonus daughter?

 

[hopeful]

What's a bonus daughter?

A step child. Dh had a child before they got together.

 

[PrissiSippi]

A step child. Dh had a child before they got together.

Ahhh I've never heard of that word before lol. I like how bonus sounds though.

 

[hopeful]

Ahhh I've never heard of that word before lol. I like how bonus sounds though.

Yes, some say bonus now because step has negative connotations.

 

[lux10023]

Dh has worked my last nerve today
Smdh.

 

[biznesswmn]

Why take the groceries out the shoppg bag and not put them in the fridge?
Why empty the trash and not replace the bag in the trash can?

Am i being ungrateful? This kind of thing irks my nerve

 

[Taleah2009]

Ahhh I've never heard of that word before lol. I like how bonus sounds though.

Yes, some say bonus now because step has negative connotations.

I heard somewhere here refer to it as a bonus daughter and I like how it sounded. Like @hopeful said I don't like using the word step so I say bonus daughter.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Why take the groceries out the shoppg bag and not put them in the fridge?
Why empty the trash and not replace the bag in the trash can?

Am i being ungrateful? This kind of thing irks my nerve

I always wondered why it was so hard to replace the bag.

Or why if he takes out the trash in the bathroom he never puts the bathroom trash cans back.

lol I never say anything but it's annoying

 

[PrissiSippi]

I would like DH to do things without me asking like being silly and painting my nails or buying me food or taking me out without me asking for it. Is there anyway to create this environment without nagging or even worse comparing him to someone else? How would one start hinting to what they want in an amicable way.

 

[SheenaVee]

So weird to be married. Well, it's weird but somehow exactly the same as how it used to be lol. I think the weirdest part is calling him my husband and being called his wife.

 

[tilati]

I would like DH to do things without me asking like being silly and painting my nails or buying me food or taking me out without me asking for it. Is there anyway to create this environment without nagging or even worse comparing him to someone else? How would one start hinting to what they want in an amicable way.

Most men don't get hinting. You should just ask on a pleasant manner.

Trust I tried hinting. I wanted my dh to be romantic and think about those little things. It left us both miserable. I was angry and he was sad because he didn't know how to please me.

Now 8 years into my marriage I can say we are really happy. Tired, overwhelmed and happy lol. My dh is so happy to make me happy, I just say what I want and he gladly comply.

And I read your other posts and wanted to add. As a couple we didn't do pregnancy well. I wanted out and vented about it on this thread. First pregnancy was the worst. The 2 others we were more prepared lol. Hang in there. I really think you all will figure it out.

 

[Taleah2009]

So weird to be married. Well, it's weird but somehow exactly the same as how it used to be lol. I think the weirdest part is calling him my husband and being called his wife.

1 yr and it's still weird saying husband

 

[Daina]

Why take the groceries out the shoppg bag and not put them in the fridge?
Why empty the trash and not replace the bag in the trash can?

Am i being ungrateful? This kind of thing irks my nerve

@biznesswmn, no you are not but common sense is not that common especially when it comes to Y chromosomes!

 

[Daina]

Some days I am utterly exhausted having to think for the both of us...

 

[hopeful]

Some days I am utterly exhausted having to think for the both of us...

Stop now. And let the chips fall where they may. Why let a man, especially a husband, burden you down like that? You did not marry a brainless man. He is fully capable of thinking and partnering with you.

 

[Daina]

Stop now. And let the chips fall where they may. Why let a man, especially a husband, burden you down like that? You did not marry a brainless man. He is fully capable of thinking and partnering with you.

@hopeful, you are right but difficult to do when my babides are impacted.

 

[hopeful]

@hopeful, you are right but difficult to do when my babides are impacted.

I understand. Just want you to know that his behavior is not innocent and that you do not deserve to be burdened down and exhausted. Best of luck to you.