Married Ladies Random Thoughts

It's a boy!! Lol I have said, "What am I going to do with a lil boy?" about a million times today. I legit don't know how to treat love a boy. I think I'm overthinking. I about raised my nephew. He was soooo much fun. Dinosaurs wrestling sports and outdoors all day. I miss those days.
 
-DH called and remembered my shoulder has been hurting and swollen. He told me I shouldn't cook and he would just bring me something to eat so I wouldn't have to lift pots and pans

-He cleaned out the laundry room without me asking

-Told the dog he can't be around the baby stuff lol and locked him out of that part of the house lol

-Actually tried to come up with some baby names instead of saying "I dunno whatever you pick"


-This man is really trying. Ima buy him a card and make him something special tonight to show my appreciation.
 
PrissiSippi said:
It's a boy!! Lol I have said, "What am I going to do with a lil boy?" about a million times today. I legit don't know how to treat love a boy. I think I'm overthinking. I about raised my nephew. He was soooo much fun. Dinosaurs wrestling sports and outdoors all day. I miss those days.
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Girl, initially I was so disappointed when we found out we were having a boy because I just *knew* it would be a girl since they run in my family. Totally forgot there was a 50/50 chance lol. I don't think it will be too bad because when he's young, you'll be more focused on his development than worrying about gender roles or anything like that. It'll be fine.
 
So I put DH's anniversary card in his bag yesterday before he left for work. He sent me the sweetest text after he read it. I'm just gonna paste it:

"I just found the card thanks babe calling me amazing I'm not sure I try to be the best for us. I love you and I appreciate everything you do for me and [DS]. I feel so bad that my [mind] has been elsewhere and I didn't even think that it was our anniversary. Some husband. Words really can't explain the happiness and how I feel about you. So I try to show with hard work and dedication to our family. I want us to be able to do the things we used to but we have a little guy who needs us more. It doesn't matter cause everyday I wake up next to my queen. That is more than enough to keep me going and thriving to be better for us. One day we will travel and do the things we always wanted to do. For now I'm more than happy just being with you no matter what's in our way. I love you honey."

I was half asleep when I read it but I read it again this morning when I woke up before he got home and I just melted. Now I remember why I fell in love with him. He really is a sweetheart.
 
Loving said:
@Miss617 that's so sweet :love: Print out a copy and go back to it on the "Why Did I Get Married" days. I've had to do that a few times.[
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I almost cried when I reread it this morning, I'm such a sap LOL. I've already locked the text and saved it in Evernote. I'm definitely gonna print out a copy and stick it in my journal (I should probably put the first draft of his wedding vows in there too, now that I think about it).
 
PrissiSippi said:
DH vaccummed the living room floor

Drove me to the airport to get my mom AND took her bags out the car without me asking.

I know this stuff seems like little stuff but he would "forget" or not do it before. I wonder what made him step it up lately?! And what I gotta do to keep this up?!
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Re the bolded: You don't have to do anything to keep this up:nono:. He has to figure out how to keep it up. Do not take that on. He is not a little boy or your son. He is a grown man who is responsible for his behavior.
 
PrissiSippi said:
It's a boy!! Lol I have said, "What am I going to do with a lil boy?" about a million times today. I legit don't know how to treat love a boy. I think I'm overthinking. I about raised my nephew. He was soooo much fun. Dinosaurs wrestling sports and outdoors all day. I miss those days.
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Congrats @PrissiSippi ! I love my boys, I have 2 and they are so loving and affectionate towards their Mommy. It drives my DH mad the bond that we have. I've always wanted boys though, I guess it's because I come from a family of 4 girls.
 
Taleah2009 said:
I really want to move. We need to make a plan because in the next 3 yrs I want to upgrade our home and move to an area with a great school district for future babies.
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I'm scared about this too. There are two gifted schools in the area. I'm hoping I can send my kid to them in a few years. And I've mapped out a few good daycares.
 
DH has been playing me lol. We were talking about having a hustle. DH talked about as a child he always had a hustle. He cleaned his church for $100 a week. Mopped. Swept. Dusted the pews. Organized papers.

I looked over and said ohhhhh so you DO know how to clean?

He started stammering. And back tracking. Lol previously, He's told me he never learned how to sweet or clean or mop. And he doesn't like to clean the house because he will never learn to do so up to "my standards" because he's never been taught lol. He lying. He just doesn't wasn't to do it lol. I need to start holding him more responsible.
 
^^^ @PrissiSippi
:yep: this is what I keep saying. They are not stupid :nono:. Even the quieter, sweeter "acting" guys are just being passive aggressive. They know what they are doing. That's why I keep saying treat all men like men, expect them to act like men, and if they don't act like men, that's on them. We must stop coddling these big, grown men. Stop treating them like little boys. Stop making excuses for them.
 
It's been one of those days. Dh has gotten on my nerves since last night and today he can't do anything right. It started last night, when he just quits on me. We got a 2 year old and a new puppy. He knows I'm trying to get our DD fed, a bath and into bed at a reasonable time. While all this is going on the puppy needs to be taken out every so often because we're trying to house train her. Dh decides he's just so damn tired and falls asleep on the couch. He doesn't care about the dog going to the bathroom inside the house , he's just too tired to do anything. I was heated because he just left me to do everything! Then today I'm still mad from last night so the mere sight of him irks me. Originally he was supposed to be off tomorrow, but his job asked him to work to cover someone's shift. So I go through the hassle of getting my mom to take off work so she can watch DD. After all of this, he busts in the house after going to the store and says, "I weaseled my way out of work tomorrow!" By this time I'm completely heated because he knows my mom took off tomorrow to specifically watch dd!!! I will probably end up taking DD to my mom tomorrow because I don't have the heart to tell her she took off for nothing. This means he will get a free day tomorrow which makes me even more mad!!!!!!!

I had to vent....wooosahhh


ETA: I ended up telling my mom that she didn't have to keep DD tomorrow. She was fine with it. Said she was going to use the free day to shop for a Homecoming outfit for church. So, dh won't get his free day tomorrow :angeldevil:
 
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hopeful said:
^^^ @PrissiSippi
:yep: this is what I keep saying. They are not stupid :nono:. Even the quieter, sweeter "acting" guys are just being passive aggressive. They know what they are doing. That's why I keep saying treat all men like men, expect them to act like men, and if they don't act like men, that's on them. We must stop coddling these big, grown men. Stop treating them like little boys. Stop making excuses for them.
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But what exactly does this look like? Like recently DH has been going to work looking a mess. He acts like he can't iron AT ALL. His pants look like wrinkled paper. So I watch him iron and he give him pointers. I iron one side of his shirt and he begins to walk away. Wtf. No I told him to watch and he would have to do the other side.:mad: So he does. He proceeds to iron the same way that he was before. :angry2: Lol so im assuming I messed up cuz I just ironed his pants this morning.:bricks:

He does but his own pants underwear socks clothes shoes or etc. should I just let him look a mess? Suggest he buys new ones and leave it up to him? I end up just getting him new things out of love because that's my love language (giving gifts). But it's not his (receiving affection). But he is a reflection of me. I hate him looking raggedly.
 
PrissiSippi said:
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But what exactly does this look like? Like recently DH has been going to work looking a mess. He acts like he can't iron AT ALL. His pants look like wrinkled paper. So I watch him iron and he give him pointers. I iron one side of his shirt and he begins to walk away. Wtf. No I told him to watch and he would have to do the other side.:mad: So he does. He proceeds to iron the same way that he was before. :angry2: Lol so im assuming I messed up cuz I just ironed his pants this morning.:bricks:

He does but his own pants underwear socks clothes shoes or etc. should I just let him look a mess? Suggest he buys new ones and leave it up to him? I end up just getting him new things out of love because that's my love language (giving gifts). But it's not his (receiving affection). But he is a reflection of me. I hate him looking raggedly.
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He is an adult. You are not his mommy. Let him look a mess and you look gorgeous:), spend that energy on you. He knows how to take his ish to the cleaners :). It's really very easy:yep:. So let him look a mess while you be slayin' :gorgeous:.
 
PrissiSippi said:
:help::mad:

But what exactly does this look like? Like recently DH has been going to work looking a mess. He acts like he can't iron AT ALL. His pants look like wrinkled paper. So I watch him iron and he give him pointers. I iron one side of his shirt and he begins to walk away. Wtf. No I told him to watch and he would have to do the other side.:mad: So he does. He proceeds to iron the same way that he was before. :angry2: Lol so im assuming I messed up cuz I just ironed his pants this morning.:bricks:

He does but his own pants underwear socks clothes shoes or etc. should I just let him look a mess? Suggest he buys new ones and leave it up to him? I end up just getting him new things out of love because that's my love language (giving gifts). But it's not his (receiving affection). But he is a reflection of me. I hate him looking raggedly.
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I know it's hard but let that man be. My husband can't dress for ish lol. Unless it's a serious function where we have to be dressed I just let him go on looking how he look. lol
 
Taleah2009 said:
I know it's hard but let that man be. My husband can't dress for ish lol. Unless it's a serious function where we have to be dressed I just let him go on looking how he look. lol
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Oooh wee that ish hard. I just rationalized like Priss you don't have to see how he looks when he's at work. And when he comes home he's going to change into comfortable clothes so you won't even realize if he looks bummy lol. I just don't want people at work/family think I don't take care of him lol. I currently iron his clothes whoever I have time but I feel like I'm not teaching him anything lol.
 
PrissiSippi said:
Oooh wee that ish hard. I just rationalized like Priss you don't have to see how he looks when he's at work. And when he comes home he's going to change into comfortable clothes so you won't even realize if he looks bummy lol. I just don't want people at work/family think I don't take care of him lol. I currently iron his clothes whoever I have time but I feel like I'm not teaching him anything lol.
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Ok, one last time. It is not your job to teach him how to dress or iron his clothes. That was his mommy's and daddy's job and now it is his job. Let people think what they want. You think you are going to teach him how to take care of his clothes, etc. But he is teaching you how to be his mommy. How to feel responsible for him. How to work yourself into a tizzy dressing yourself, him, and then a little baby too. And then he will focus on doing things that make him happy. And then you'll become exhausted and a nag and start looking haggard and everyone will be like what's wrong with Priss? Her Dh is always so relaxed and happy, what's her problem? When you could have just listened to Hopeful years ago and stopped parenting a grown man who full well knows how to clean, wash, press clothes, and/or take things to the cleaners. Again, repeat after me, he is being passive aggressive. Mommy and daddy dropped the ball and now he's training you to continue babying him. Being a baby is easy. Being a grown up is hard work and that is what he is avoiding. Okay, now I'm done:).
 
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PrissiSippi said:
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But what exactly does this look like? Like recently DH has been going to work looking a mess. He acts like he can't iron AT ALL. His pants look like wrinkled paper. So I watch him iron and he give him pointers. I iron one side of his shirt and he begins to walk away. Wtf. No I told him to watch and he would have to do the other side.:mad: So he does. He proceeds to iron the same way that he was before. :angry2: Lol so im assuming I messed up cuz I just ironed his pants this morning.:bricks:

He does but his own pants underwear socks clothes shoes or etc. should I just let him look a mess? Suggest he buys new ones and leave it up to him? I end up just getting him new things out of love because that's my love language (giving gifts). But it's not his (receiving affection). But he is a reflection of me. I hate him looking raggedly.
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What do I do: I say, you look raggedy...I'm honest like that. Last night I was talking to dh and told him to schedule a dental appointment because he needs his teeth whitened.

I'm not ironing his clothes, I'm not shopping for him ( unless he ask me to tag along). I am not his mother and I know for a fact that his mother taught him all this stuff. I'f I'm feeling petty i might mention it in from of his Mom so she can go on a "I didn't raise you like that" tangent, lol. But don't do that...after 15 yrs my MIL & I have that kind of relationship.
 
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