bmoreflyygirl said:I'm directing this more towards the younger women but everybody feel free to respond. I was having a conversation with one of my guy friends earlier (he's a good friend of mine) and it came up. He said something about wanting a girl to take him on a date. I thought he was joking but I guess not. I don't really know. I told him the man should take the lead. That's the proper way. And he was like it's 2007. Then he wanted to throw in there but what about women's rights? I feel like that's a cop out men use to get out of being a gentleman. I'm noticing that this is the trend with most men in my generation. They don't want to do all of that.
Personally, while I do agree that women should have equal rights in regards to some things like equal pay for the same jobs, voting, etc. that still doesn't mean that a man shouldn't hold the door open for you because you have arms. My dad still holds the door open for my mom and they've been married over 20 years. A man can still be your equal while maintaining his appropriate gender role as the man right? There are certain things I think men should do just like there are certain things women should do. Most men know what they should be doing that's why they do that stuff on the first date and whatever and then they don't do it anymore. Unless they truly have no home training, I think it's just a cop out.
Am I wrong for feeling that way? What do you think? Is Chivalry dead in your opinion? If so, why? or why not?
ETA: Please share your reasons and not just vote! Thanks!
sunshinelady said:I think that the woman has to establish chivalry as an expectation. She also has to do her part. Some men like a challenge and are willing to court you. Those are the men I want.
Dudes that act grudgingly get no love. My &$ssy is very sensitive and will dry up like the desert if I sense selfishness.
Now if you act right... eventuallytrampolin
MuseofTroy said:Ironically I believe that the feminist movement has caused a double edge sword when it comes to gender relations. If women want equal rights and to be treated just as men are in the work place, home, and society at large, then why should a man feel obligated to open a door for a woman? One of the goals in the feminist movement is to remove gender difference which I think is completely backwards for the simple fact that biologically men and women are different. Furthermore I also think that as a result of the changing dynamics between men and women, there are men out there who don’t feel the need to be “traditional†when it comes to paying for dinner or opening the door for a woman.
However there are other men out there who do believe in chivalry and they feel good about making a woman feel feminine and needed. My only irritation when it comes to some women is that they scream and holler about not needing and man and talking about being independent but are the first ones to complain when no man is interested in dating them or doesn’t want to play the traditional man role. My opinion is that you can’t have it both ways. I’m all for equal rights and allowing women the opportunity to do the same things as men (IF THEY QUALIFY) but I like the idea of gender rolse. I think there are some things men do better than women and vice versa.
But I digress. I don’t think chivalry is dead.
I'm directing this more towards the younger women
I think that the woman has to establish chivalry as an expectation. She also has to do her part. Some men like a challenge and are willing to court you. Those are the men I want.
Dudes that act grudgingly get no love. My &$ssy is very sensitive and will dry up like the desert if I sense selfishness.
Now if you act right... eventuallytrampolin
No chivalry is not dead but lets face it. Our culture is in a downward cycle of moral and ethical values. Today's men have not been taught how to behave like gentlemen and on the other hand women have not been taught how to act like a lady. I feel that before we jump all over the men we must first take a look at why we as women are not doing. I believe that you have to act like a lady first before a man will treat you like one.