Kb3auty
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my first thread, I'm so excited! 
I found some interesting articles online. This one is really good. it's based on the book "Why Men love *****es".
the blogger states "It’s about women who have enough value and respect for themselves to not fall into the trap of being their partner’s doormat."
do you think this is relevant to dating today?
for those who are married, during the times you were dating, have you put any of these steps into action, has it worked or not?
Do you plan on trying any of these? If you do, please come back and report if any of these steps work after trying it out, and what was the guys response.
you are welcome to give scenarios, Ask questions about situations, or a time when you tried one or a number of these steps and it didn't or it did work for you.
Bump!!!!
100 Attraction Principles, from Why Men Love *****es
by: Love, Ashley
1. Anything a person chases in life runs away.
2. The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much.
3. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her.
4. Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.
5. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
6. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
7. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
8. The biggest variable between a ***** and a woman who is too nice is fear. The ***** shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.
9. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the ***** will prioritize her dignity above all else.
10. When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.
11. Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied.
12. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.
13. Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl.
14. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.
15. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.
16. A ***** gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his.
17. If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.
18. Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.
19. More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.
20. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.
21. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is.
22. Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same.
23. Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.
24. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.
25. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him.
26. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort.
27. If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease.
28. If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.
29. A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex.
30. Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.
31. When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock.
32. Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes.
33. When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.
34. When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
35. He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl.
36. The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters.
37. If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.
38. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.
39. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.
40. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery.
41. Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.
42. When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; he feels LUCKY.
43. If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner.
44. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.
45. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life.
46. The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship.
47. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.”
48. You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed.
49. Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior.
50. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
I found some interesting articles online. This one is really good. it's based on the book "Why Men love *****es".
the blogger states "It’s about women who have enough value and respect for themselves to not fall into the trap of being their partner’s doormat."
do you think this is relevant to dating today?
for those who are married, during the times you were dating, have you put any of these steps into action, has it worked or not?
Do you plan on trying any of these? If you do, please come back and report if any of these steps work after trying it out, and what was the guys response.
you are welcome to give scenarios, Ask questions about situations, or a time when you tried one or a number of these steps and it didn't or it did work for you.
Bump!!!!
100 Attraction Principles, from Why Men Love *****es
by: Love, Ashley
1. Anything a person chases in life runs away.
2. The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much.
3. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her.
4. Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.
5. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
6. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
7. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
8. The biggest variable between a ***** and a woman who is too nice is fear. The ***** shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.
9. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the ***** will prioritize her dignity above all else.
10. When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.
11. Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied.
12. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.
13. Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl.
14. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.
15. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.
16. A ***** gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his.
17. If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.
18. Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.
19. More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.
20. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.
21. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is.
22. Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same.
23. Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.
24. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.
25. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him.
26. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort.
27. If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease.
28. If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.
29. A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex.
30. Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.
31. When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock.
32. Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes.
33. When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.
34. When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
35. He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl.
36. The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters.
37. If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.
38. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.
39. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.
40. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery.
41. Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.
42. When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; he feels LUCKY.
43. If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner.
44. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.
45. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life.
46. The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship.
47. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.”
48. You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed.
49. Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior.
50. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
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And occasionally he still tries to make contact. Nah son, ya struck out.
