Hello Everyone,
I was on here not to long ago with my holiday stress thread. Now I have another issue, this time with the boyfriend......here it goes..
I lost my dad two months ago to cancer. I did not have a relationship with my dad because of my mom, but I always said if anything ever happened to him I would be there. I took care of my dad until his last breath. He did not want to go to hospice so he stayed home. I fed, cleaned, changed etc. We had a excellent support team that helped us (my stepmon and sisters) out. Over the course of the time he was ill, we (my dad and I ) bonded a great deal. I had my dad back! Well needless to say again, cancer took his life. It has been a great ordeal for me.. We had to wait to bury him because he was a vet. We buried him on the day before thanksgiving.
Now boyfriend (whom my family is not fond of) says this to me last night:
You are not the same person you used to be, I don't know who you are. Over the past month I noticed you are different, you are not doing the same things you used to do for me, etc. You sleep on the edge on the bed, you don't give me footrubs, etc.
I could not believe it. I am still grieveing!!!!!! ALl you can think about is what you claim I'm not doing, when I do everything???? I sat up in the bed and just cried and cried, not once did he comfort me at all. He made it all about him.....
What say you ladies?
I was on here not to long ago with my holiday stress thread. Now I have another issue, this time with the boyfriend......here it goes..
I lost my dad two months ago to cancer. I did not have a relationship with my dad because of my mom, but I always said if anything ever happened to him I would be there. I took care of my dad until his last breath. He did not want to go to hospice so he stayed home. I fed, cleaned, changed etc. We had a excellent support team that helped us (my stepmon and sisters) out. Over the course of the time he was ill, we (my dad and I ) bonded a great deal. I had my dad back! Well needless to say again, cancer took his life. It has been a great ordeal for me.. We had to wait to bury him because he was a vet. We buried him on the day before thanksgiving.
Now boyfriend (whom my family is not fond of) says this to me last night:
You are not the same person you used to be, I don't know who you are. Over the past month I noticed you are different, you are not doing the same things you used to do for me, etc. You sleep on the edge on the bed, you don't give me footrubs, etc.
I could not believe it. I am still grieveing!!!!!! ALl you can think about is what you claim I'm not doing, when I do everything???? I sat up in the bed and just cried and cried, not once did he comfort me at all. He made it all about him.....
What say you ladies?