I'm pissed.

preciouslove0x

preciouslove0x

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The guy I'm... seeing... lied to me about his age. I found out through a google search his real age. He says he wants to have a chance to "explain". (like wtf??) I told him fine, I'll check my schedule and see where I can fit him in. We're going to say that I'm mid 20s and he tells me he's 40......... but I find out he's significantly older......... :ohwell: He has smooth buttery skin so I didn't have a reason to not believe him. Anywho, I'm trying to make our encounter as dramatic as possible so he really gets the point that I don't take nigguhz fukken around with me (so I'm gonna fukk around with him).

We're going to most likely meet at a bar. I'll be getting there early (and leaving early...) to buy myself a drink and a bunch of food-to-go on his tab :look: Once he gets there I want to kill him with kindness at first and then let him have it (but with a calm disposition). Yea I'm crazy like that (I'll most likely have crazy eyes too :lachen:) Two questions. What drink should I order for him to let him know what's up :look: (cue dramatic effect).

Also has anyone ever been in this situation? I'm beyond furious right now I don't know what to do with myself (fortunately for the most part... until now... I've been putting my anger into something productive :yep:)
 
You could get him any one of these: Golden Oldie, Gray Russian, Old Fashioned, Old Pal Cocktail.....But I would go lightly with the drama. You never know what you are dealing with. Me, I would have one of my old lady friends come with me and introduce them. Then tell him she is better suited for him, not me. Then give him his old *** drink, sing my hair and walk out.
 
Order a dirty martini. As you throw it in his face say "Dirty martini? Dirty bastard." and then walk out. Samantha Jones style. :lol:

I kid, I kid. I honestly would just go ghost on him. Are you planning to stop seeing him?
 
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tarheelgurl said:
You could get him any one of these: Golden Oldie, Gray Russian, Old Fashioned, Old Pal Cocktail.....But I would go lightly with the drama. You never know what you are dealing with. Me, I would have one of my old lady friends come with me and introduce them. Then tell him she is better suited for him, not me. Then give him his old *** drink, sing my hair and walk out.
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He's definitely harmless. I know what he does for a living (which I've already confirmed). He's definitely chill. I just think he wasn't "thinking straight" when he told me his age the first time we met. I guess he knew I would have pause. (btw I'm still interested in him...)
 
i had this happen before and things ended in a disaster. tread carefully.only thing is that i didn't find out about the lie early on.
 
I promise I'm just having fun at the moment. It really isn't and will not be anything serious. I'm not looking for marriage (nor am I marriage minded) anytime soon.

Now back to the first two questions I posed in the OP.....
 
Yes, told me he was 4 years younger than he was which put him in his forties. :nono:

Talking about "you gonna let 1400 days come between us?"
 
The calmest, laid back people can be dangerous too.

If you didn't even know how old the man was, how do you know for sure if he's dangerous or not. Most people wear disguises early in the relationship. I say, don't go acting crazy with a person you hardly know. That mess can backfire on you...and it makes you bad. It might look cool in your imagination...but it sounds very silly...and immature.

Why don't you just stop talking to him....just not see him anymore if you don't want to be with an older man.

Lots of women and men lie about their age. It's wrong, but don't make this a bigger deal than it is. You really don't know how he's going to react. Rejection is one thing. But you're gonna try to punk him too? Let me know how it turns out.
 
*CherryPie* said:
The calmest, laid back people can be dangerous too.

If you didn't even know how old the man was, how do you know for sure if he's dangerous or not. Most people wear disguises early in the relationship. I say, don't go acting crazy with a person you hardly know. That mess can backfire on you...and it makes you bad. It might look cool in your imagination...but it sounds very silly...and immature.

Why don't you just stop talking to him....just not see him anymore if you don't want to be with an older man.

Lots of women and men lie about their age. It's wrong, but don't make this a bigger deal than it is. You really don't know how he's going to react. Rejection is one thing. But you're gonna try to punk him too? Let me know how it turns out.
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I'll let you know how it turns out :yep:
 
preciouslove0x said:
He's definitely harmless. I know what he does for a living (which I've already confirmed). He's definitely chill. I just think he wasn't "thinking straight" when he told me his age the first time we met. I guess he knew I would have pause. (btw I'm still interested in him...)
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I don't buy this comment, op :nono:. I know you're just "having fun" right now, but listen to them red flags.

Although I've never had a man lie about his age to me, my younger sister has. Told her he was 27 and he was in a halfway house. While the halfway house was true, his age wasn't. Our eldest sister is a correctional officer and looked him up in the system. Yeah we found out he was 37.
 
Seriously though why go through all that? Just walk away from the situation and let it be. You don't want to be with him now anyway so is there really a need for all the dramatics? Then again if you must feel validated and have the last word go ahead. What you gonna lose?
 
Does "seeing" mean flucking?:look:

I personally wouldn't bother with all that and don't think you need to be all "dramatical" to let a guy know you are serious about something.:spinning: Not in reference to to you, but most of the women I've known who make these planned out displays rather than cutting the guy off are actually the weakest women. For that reason he might not take it seriously anyway (even if he pretends to).

However, this would be great scene for a reality TV show lol.

I want to know how old he really is:lol:
 
How long had you been dating him and how involved was the relationship? You probably already went...but I'd just send him a text explaining that he is a liar and that I don't approve and never see him again. Trying to embarrass him publicly is not warranted.

But.....since you know he's capable of lying to such extreme, if you've been sexually active with him...get yourself tested.
 
The dramatics will make it appear that you care when you really don't (or do you?). It will hurt him more if you just walk away. It may not be as fun for you though...

Depends on your intentions I guess. I don't see why you would go through any of that but hey, everyone is different. I'm not judging OP, just be careful.
 
If he lied about his age then he is probably lying about other things. Delete his number and move on. No need to waste your time for an explination or theatrics...
 
auparavant said:
How long had you been dating him and how involved was the relationship? You probably already went...but I'd just send him a text explaining that he is a liar and that I don't approve and never see him again. Trying to embarrass him publicly is not warranted.

But.....since you know he's capable of lying to such extreme, if you've been sexually active with him...get yourself tested.
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This right here may be the sole reason she is upset and felt it was needed to try to upstage him and embarrass him. Rarely do women get that upset to feel the need to put on theatrics when hurt if they haven't given their body to a man who later turned out to be undeserving of it by lying, cheating, etc. It's much easier to just walk away from a situation when you haven't had sex with someone and invested feelings.

Then again OP could have kept her legs closed the entire time. Who knows? Only her.
 
order yourself a cosmo then ask the bartender for an algoquin. Tell grandpa, "here's an old arse drink for an old man." :lol:Then leave....no, I've never had a man lie to me about his age but I've lied to many men about mine in my teens.
 
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