I'm FINALLY Calling it Quits!!!!

[MrsHdrLe]

Update! Uh ya so what had happened was......

I did move, he was okay with it. We agreed to stay friends and two months later on my birthday, he asked me to marry him. I said okay, but I'm staying in my apt to fullfill my lease. We have a date (5/8/2010) and his mom and he have been working like little bees arranging all the details of our wedding venue. We are happy, no everything isn't perfect of course, but I am sure of his love and commitment to me at this point. So thanks again for your advice, though I didn't really listen, you all helped me get through a difficult time and I really appreciate it. God Bless.

 

[NOEChic]

Congrats on your engagement. It looks like you just had to show him you can do bad without him for him to realize he needed/loved and wanted to marry you.

 

[Theo]

Wow.... good for you! Happy you moved and happy it ended up working out for you! Eight years, tho???? My only question is why did he wait so long?

 

[Jazala]

Update! Uh ya so what had happened was......

I did move, he was okay with it. We agreed to stay friends and two months later on my birthday, he asked me to marry him. I said okay, but I'm staying in my apt to fullfill my lease. We have a date (5/8/2010) and his mom and he have been working like little bees arranging all the details of our wedding venue. We are happy, no everything isn't perfect of course, but I am sure of his love and commitment to me at this point. So thanks again for your advice, though I didn't really listen, you all helped me get through a difficult time and I really appreciate it. God Bless.

Wow it's good to hear it worked out in the end. Congrats on your engagement!!

Wow.... good for you! Happy you moved and happy it ended up working out for you! Eight years, tho???? My only question is why did he wait so long?

Not sure if this was the case here but sometimes when you are living with a man, then there is no reason for him to marry you because they get all the benefits of marriage without the paper.

 

[Almaz]

glad it worked out for you

 

[luvnmyhair99]

Congratulations! I am happy for you! Doesnt matter how long...he did the right thing...with a lil prodding


Best of luck to yall!

 

[Sosoothing]

That's great news. Congratulations!!

 

[FeelinIt]

Congrats MA!

 

[NYAmicas]

Congrats on your engagement!

 

[MrsHdrLe]

Freelove asked (and I'm sure many others who didn't know the back story may also ask why so long a courtship...Well..it was kinda like this:
I was raisng my son and he had a son too. We dated casually for nearly five years before we brought the children into the scene. I figured I didn't want to disrupt my son's stability since I'd recently left a man I'd dated for some years. I had a wait and see attitude unitl my son hit 15 and his was 11. We then continued to kinda take it slow until I moved with him after my son went to live with his bio-dad out of state. Long story, but it only started "bothering" me after my son turned 18 and I became an "empty nestor" I guess. I gave him some time (in my head b/c I had these romantic fantasies that would play out like a Disney production or a romantic comedy...BIG MISTAKE) then made a move. I did have a bit of cold feet last summer, but we worked through it as a family (mom and dad (his) came down for a visit and I knew everything would be alright.

 

[jamaicalovely]

Congrats! Glad it worked out in the end. Keep us posted on the wedding plans.

 

[awhyley]

Congrats on the proposal. Just goes to show that he needed that push.

 

[zazzi]

Congrats on the engagement!

 

[Detroit2Dallas]

Congratulations!

 

[AstroQueen77]

see, men understand actions and not words. Good on you OP!

 

[Zaynab]

I wouldn't give him any notice. I would leave. That makes the bigger impact, IMO. I'm not trying to be mean but you giving him notice may give the impression that you're trying to scare him into a larger commitment. I know you're worried about his finances, I think you need to worry more about your peace of mind. After 8 years you've paid your dues.

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[Zaynab]

I would act like everything was fine and then when he's at work I'd be ghost. When he comes back home he'll lose his mind. I don't want to be financially involved with someone who doesn't want to make a commitment to me. I've watched too many judge shows to know it makes things stickier. He's not dumb. He know what he's doing.

That's the part that bugs me about men that will date a woman and/or live with them for years, they aren't pressed about if you don't say anything about it.

ETA: CONGRATS! SOrry, my advice was all late

 

[southerncitygirl]

ongrats girlie men never mess the water till the well runs dry and then they come a runnin.

 

[Bmack]

congrats!!

 

[Lenee925]

see, men understand actions and not words. Good on you OP!

^This......................

 

[newbiemom]

Congrats on your weddinf and marraige.

 

[yaya24]

Congrats on your engagement!!

 

[shawniegee]

I love happy endings!!!! Congratulations!!!

 

[Preezie]

Update! Uh ya so what had happened was......

I did move, he was okay with it. We agreed to stay friends and two months later on my birthday, he asked me to marry him. I said okay, but I'm staying in my apt to fullfill my lease. We have a date (5/8/2010) and his mom and he have been working like little bees arranging all the details of our wedding venue. We are happy, no everything isn't perfect of course, but I am sure of his love and commitment to me at this point. So thanks again for your advice, though I didn't really listen, you all helped me get through a difficult time and I really appreciate it. God Bless.

Congratsulations on your engagement!