If You Divorced DH (or Broke-Up w/SO), Who Would Have it Easier in the Dating World?

[Lady Esquire]

Piggy-backing off of BiancaElyse's thread:

You are newly-divorced and the two of you are ready to date, between the two of you, who would transition better with dating new people? You or DH?

 

[Nola Darling]

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Me cause I don't think FH is a ladies man. He likes to keep to himself and is awkward around new people.

 

[LunadeMiel]

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Since you included SOs I will answer.
I think I would/am because I rarely hold on to feelings. I know for a fact that the thought of me sleeping with someone else is killing my ex. He is also the type to bring old garbage into new relationships. Whereas, when I'm done, I'm done.

 

[MizzBrown]

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If kids are involved then that changes things too.

 

[MrsQueeny]

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I would. I am dh's first and only real girlfriend, relationship and everything. He is a very shy person so it was hard for him to even approach me. He is very impatient and wouldn't put up with too much stuff either. People turn him off real easily. I think like me, he would just stay single. But at least I've been in the dating world before but he hasn't. Q

 

[likewtr4chklit]

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Me because I got it like that and because my mom would be more that happy to watch her grandson so that I can enjoy life again.

 

[Lady Esquire]

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If kids are involved then that changes things too.

Yeah, that is a major factor. I would only date, when my kids were visiting their dad. And I would not introduce them to anyone, no visits, no anything.

 

[Lady Esquire]

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I would. I am dh's first and only real girlfriend, relationship and everything. He is a very shy person so it was hard for him to even approach me. He is very impatient and wouldn't put up with too much stuff either. People turn him off real easily. I think like me, he would just stay single. But at least I've been in the dating world before but he hasn't. Q

Ok. DH always chokes that he would, 'cause after I spent all these years "training" him, he'd be a catch to the next chick. Meanwhile, I would be thrown back in the pool of man-boys running around.

 

[Qualitee]

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I would. I am dh's first and only real girlfriend, relationship and everything. He is a very shy person so it was hard for him to even approach me. He is very impatient and wouldn't put up with too much stuff either. People turn him off real easily. I think like me, he would just stay single. But at least I've been in the dating world before but he hasn't. Q

I think this is kind of cute

 

[Lady Esquire]

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I think this is kind of cute

With her kind of history, it makes the relationship even that more difficult to replace. Hard act to follow.

 

[MrsQueeny]

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Ok. DH always chokes that he would, 'cause after I spent all these years "training" him, he'd be a catch to the next chick. Meanwhile, I would be thrown back in the pool of man-boys running around.

He knows he would be super picky and would have a hard time. Men are like little kids and they get used to something and want to keep it forever. Tell your dh to quit playin!!! Q

I think this is kind of cute

Aw thank you. He is such a sweet guy and that's why I do all I can to make him happy and vice versa. He is truly one in a million. Q

 

[Taliah]

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We would equally have a hard time.
Not many would be willing to put up with either of us.

 

[MrsQueeny]

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With her kind of history, it makes the relationship even that more difficult to replace. Hard act to follow.

Thank you. Now you feel me!!!! That's another reason why I would remain single. I mean where do I go from here? Don't want to find out either. Q

 

[Bint Yusef]

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Ok. DH always chokes that he would, 'cause after I spent all these years "training" him, he'd be a catch to the next chick. Meanwhile, I would be thrown back in the pool of man-boys running around.

This is what I was going to say. A black man with a degree and some shiny rims that fool would have coochie biscuits thrown at him before the ink on the paper dries. Some other chick cash in on your investment and hard work. Meanwhile you home with 50-11 kids trying to figure out what to do.

 

[biancaelyse]

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I'll preface this by saying that our kids have already warned us that if we ever break up, we will NOT be allowed to remarry. Ever. They are 100% committed to fully salting any and every dating situation that either of us will ever have.

That said, my husband is much more extroverted than me so I think it would be easier for him to date again. I am more introverted and picky and an animal lover so I definitely see myself becoming like the classic old maid with a house full of cats I may get asked out but I'd be inclined to say "no thanks."

 

[Divine_Order]

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Either of us would transition back into dating well. He would be the one that would have someone before I would though....even though I'm comfy being in a relationship....I also like being by myself too. He doesn't strike me as being the type to get along without a woman in his life....I mean...who would do his laundry and dishes

 

[biancaelyse]

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He knows he would be super picky and would have a hard time. Men are like little kids and they get used to something and want to keep it forever. Tell your dh to quit playin!!! Q


Aw thank you. He is such a sweet guy and that's why I do all I can to make him happy and vice versa. He is truly one in a million. Q

He sounds like me!! It would be hard!!

 

[Vinyl]

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Me, because SO rarely gets out of the house and is more introverted.

 

[Lady Esquire]

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Thank you. Now you feel me!!!! That's another reason why I would remain single. I mean where do I go from here? Don't want to find out either. Q

Yeah girl, I've seen what's out there. I hope you two stay together long enough to get on the Today's Show "Smuckers" and get that shout out they do in the morning: "Ladies and gentlemen, congratulate Queeny and hubby on being together for 85 years!!!!" Yaaaaay!

This is what I was going to say. A black man with a degree and some shiny rims that fool would have coochie biscuits thrown at him before the ink on the paper dries. Some other chick cash in on your investment and hard work. Meanwhile you home with 50-11 kids trying to figure out what to do.

He is no fool either, he knows there's some psychological warfare at play when he says stuff like that. He's like, "BW with degrees, looks, and all are lining up...but so not much for BM...he said I'd probably have to give Opie a chance and give up on the mandigo."

He knows he would be super picky and would have a hard time. Men are like little kids and they get used to something and want to keep it forever. Tell your dh to quit playin!!! Q

That's why I ain't going no where. I put in some time, and damn it if I let the next chick come lay up and enjoy the fruits of my labor.

 

[Makenzie]

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Either of us would transition back into dating well. He would be the one that would have someone before I would though....even though I'm comfy being in a relationship....I also like being by myself too. He doesn't strike me as being the type to get along without a woman in his life....I mean...who would do his laundry and dishes

I'm not sure how to answer the question. I can see my ex doing a little better only because he looks good on paper.

 

[imstush]

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I'll preface this by saying that our kids have already warned us that if we ever break up, we will NOT be allowed to remarry. Ever. They are 100% committed to fully salting any and every dating situation that either of us will ever have.

That said, my husband is much more extroverted than me so I think it would be easier for him to date again. I am more introverted and picky and an animal lover so I definitely see myself becoming like the classic old maid with a house full of cats I may get asked out but I'd be inclined to say "no thanks."

@ the bolded that's me.

 

[Lady Esquire]

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Either of us would transition back into dating well. He would be the one that would have someone before I would though....even though I'm comfy being in a relationship....I also like being by myself too. He doesn't strike me as being the type to get along without a woman in his life....I mean...who would do his laundry and dishes

I know you're just joking but he could always hire someone to do that...don't need a relationship to get that done. Ain't no shame in hanging solo for a while. I like my own company, so as much as I love sex and companionship, I don't need to be out there like that.

 

[MissYocairis]

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Piggy-backing off of BiancaElyse's thread:

You are newly-divorced and the two of you are ready to date, between the two of you, who would transition better with dating new people? You or DH?

I divorced my DH...("DH"?)...uh, ExH.

I have transitioned better into love. I believe he probably transitioned better into dating though. He does "surface" / "putting on airs" really well...and I do "authentic" and "genuine" much better than he. (bitter much?)

I didn't mean for that to come off sounding bitter. Actually, it's just a fact. He's not as good with maintaining a long and enduring relationship as well as I am. But, he was probably quicker and more "game" to step out there for dating than I was. Mainly because I am the custodial parent and didn't want to impact the children negatively.

ETA: DER! Oh, so this question was presently? SO would probably date quicker, but I would fall in love quicker. I am more stable.

 

[LisaLisa1908]

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I would. But I'm sure he'd get sweated; he'd just be annoyed and unwilling to be bothered.

 

[Nina_deF]

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Dating?
Me
It's always easier for women to date, ie there's a lot of men out there.
The hard part is finding someone worthwhile.

Getting into a new relationship?
Him.
Men are more apt to settle.
There aren't alot of men I would put up with while men don't really think, they just do.
My list of things to be checked before a commitment is even considered is too long.

 

[Son26]

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We're no longer together, but I think my ex would have an easier time because he's more outgoing. I'm more reserved and will only date a certain type. At my age I'm not going to waste my time dating anybody. I do think that once I find someone, I have a better chance at having a longterm relationship. He has a lot of issues (he had a terrible childhood) that didn't come out until a few years after we began dating - I don't think he can handle being in a relationship.

 

[Divine_Order]

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I'm not sure how to answer the question. I can see my ex doing a little better only because he looks good on paper.

I know you're just joking but he could always hire someone to do that...don't need a relationship to get that done. Ain't no shame in hanging solo for a while. I like my own company, so as much as I love sex and companionship, I don't need to be out there like that.

My baby...is a big ol baby! He could hire someone to do that....but he would call his mom first before he "out sourced".

 

[*5+5]

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Although SO claims that if we don't make it that he would be single forever, I'm sure he'll have it much easier than I would. He's a well to do guy, handsome and he's great at charming people, everybody loves him. All of my well to do male friends are boo'd up, can't say the same about my well to do female friends. Considering the #s, it's a slight bit harder for females IMO.

 

[FlowerHair]

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I think I would. At this point I have more to offer.
Of course, my age works against me somewhat, but not much

 

[Zaynab]

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Piggy-backing off of BiancaElyse's thread:

You are newly-divorced and the two of you are ready to date, between the two of you, who would transition better with dating new people? You or DH?

Definitely me. Yep with my two kids and at 33, I know I would. Dh would just find some jump-offs, as men do.